Leaving CrazyTown

In this episode, we discuss the concept of being 'hijacked' by past trauma and its impact on our current reactions. We share personal experiences and strategies to recognize, manage, and heal from these hijacking moments. Key Takeaways: - Trauma Hijack: Understand how past traumas can take over in the present, making you feel unsafe and disconnected. - Activation Awareness: Learn the diffe...

In this episode, we explore the concept of "Making Up Stories" in our daily interactions and how these fabricated narratives can affect our relationships. We provide practical tools to identify and counteract these stories for a healthier mindset and improved communication. Key Takeaways: - Fantasyland Delusion: Understand how our past experiences shape the stories we create in our heads...

In this episode, we explore techniques to help you voice your needs and set boundaries, crucial steps in healing from codependency. From managing difficult conversations with parents to embracing the discomfort that comes with change, we provide strategies to help you move forward with assertiveness and minimize guilt. Key Takeaways: - Setting Boundaries: Understand the importance of establishing...

In this episode, we explore how to identify bait in conversations, its impact on our reactions, and the best ways to respond. From understanding unintentional bait to mastering the art of non-reaction, we share insights on maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. Key Takeaways: - Recognizing Bait: Learn to identify when someone is inadvertently or intentionally trying to provoke a reaction...

In this episode, Finn and Sarah explore the vital role of self-compassion amid personal challenges. They share a real-life example of grappling with frustration while on vacation, shedding light on how to manage feelings of shame and embrace self-care. Key Takeaways: - The Importance of Self-Compassion: How treating yourself with kindness can help you navigate difficult emotions and situations. -...

In this episode, Finn and Sarah unpack the complexities of people pleasing and its true intentions. They delve into how people pleasing often stems from a desire to control and explore the dynamics of 'rage helping' and its implications. Key Takeaways: - True Intentions: Understand how people pleasing is often more about controlling one's own discomfort rather than genuinely helping ot...

In this episode, we explore the do's and don'ts of dating, offering practical advice on how to navigate new relationships while avoiding codependent behaviors. From setting boundaries early on to gathering information about your date, we provide actionable tips to help you foster healthy interactions. Key Takeaways: - Setting Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries from the beginning to avo...

In this episode, we explore the experience of being transgender in recovery and what it means to transition out loud. Finn shares his journey and challenges, as well as some important etiquette for interacting with transgender individuals. Key Takeaways: - Open Discussion: Finn emphasizes the importance of talking about one's true self in recovery groups to encourage others and build acceptanc...

In this episode, we explore how dismissing our own needs contributes to codependency and the ways we rationalize and deny our feelings. Learn strategies to recognize and address these patterns in your life. Key Takeaways: - Rationalization and Denial: Understand the common phrases like "I don't care" and "I'm confused" and how they prevent us from facing the truth. - Co...

In this episode, we explore the inevitable dark thoughts we all experience and provide tools to help process these emotions. Sarah shares a personal story that uncovers the importance of recognizing and feeling our grief to aid in emotional healing. Key Takeaways: - Feeling Dark Thoughts: Understand that having negative thoughts is a part of being human and doesn't signify something is wrong w...

In this episode, we explore the intricacies of denial in addiction and co crazy behavior, and how becoming aware of our feelings can be a crucial first step in overcoming it. Finn and Sarah share personal anecdotes and practical advice on how to navigate and gradually come out of denial. Key Takeaways: - Understanding Denial: Learn how denial functions as a protective mechanism and its role in add...

Join us as we explore the intricate dynamics of codependency in relationships, featuring guest Sue who shares her personal experiences and insights. Discover how to identify red flags, trust your instincts, and maintain self-honesty in your relationships. Key Takeaways: - Self-Honesty: Emphasizing the importance of being truthful with oneself about feelings and instincts in a relationship. - Red F...

In this episode, we explore the pitfalls of people pleasing and why it leads to dissatisfaction for everyone involved. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, we uncover strategies to break free from the cycle of people pleasing. Key Takeaways: - The Indian Food Dilemma: Understand how saying yes to things you dislike can create uncomfortable and unpleasant experiences for everyone...

In this episode, Sarah and Finn discuss the five ways they avoid uncomfortable feelings, shedding light on codependent behaviors and addiction. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips to help listeners recognize and address their own avoidant behaviors. Key Takeaways: - Addiction: Understand how both addicts and codependents use addiction to avoid uncomfortable feelings. - Helpfulness: Le...

In this episode, Finn and Sarah discuss the challenges of speaking up and asking for what you want or need. They share personal experiences of when they struggled to use their voice and offer insights into why this is a critical skill for personal growth. Key Takeaways: - Identifying Needs: Understand the importance of figuring out your feelings and needs to communicate them effectively. - Overcom...

In this episode, we explore the five signs that indicate you've boarded the "crazy train" in relationships. From codependent behaviors to emotional reactions, we delve into scenarios and solutions to help you regain your balance. Key Takeaways: - Intense Emotions: Identify when you're trying to fill an emotional void through distractions like dating apps or overeating. - Problem-...

In this episode, Finn and Sarah explore the raw emotions of rage, especially as it relates to their children. They discuss personal experiences and offer tools to manage and understand these intense feelings, enhancing self-awareness and relationships. Key Takeaways: - Emotional Processing: Understand the importance of allowing yourself to fully experience and process emotions rather than suppress...

In this episode, we explore effective tools for dealing with anger, providing listeners with tangible strategies to recognize and manage their feelings. From pausing to setting boundaries, we discuss methods for addressing anger in healthy and constructive ways. Key Takeaways: - Pausing: Understand the importance of taking a moment to breathe and assess your emotions before reacting. - Setting Bou...

In this episode, we explore common codependency behaviors in relationships and how fear plays a role in controlling tendencies. Our guest, Mark Fedorov, shares personal experiences and discusses the importance of prayer and self-awareness in overcoming these patterns. Key Takeaways: - Fear of Abandonment: Understand how fear can lead to controlling behavior in relationships and the importance of i...

In this episode, we explore the subtle ways in which people-pleasing behaviors can be a form of controlling others. We discuss the underlying fears and motivations that drive these actions and provide personal anecdotes to illustrate our points. Key Takeaways: - People-Pleasing as Control: Understanding how actions perceived as helpful can actually be a means of controlling others. - Motivation an...

In this episode, we explore the concept of rationalization and its crucial role in codependency recovery. By sharing personal experiences, we demonstrate how to identify and address rationalization to find freedom and truth in our lives. Key Takeaways: - Rationalization and Addiction: Understand how rationalization is used to justify harmful behaviors and its implications in addiction. - Real-Life...

In this episode, Finn and Sarah explore the concept of codependency with our pets and how we often project our own emotions onto them. Through personal anecdotes, they discuss the importance of recognizing and managing these feelings to maintain a healthy relationship with our furry friends. Key Takeaways: - Projecting Emotions: Understand how we often project our own feelings onto our pets and th...

In this episode, we discuss the importance of distinguishing between thoughts and facts to avoid living in "Fantasyland." Our guest Amanda shares personal experiences and strategies for sticking to reality and avoiding the pitfalls of overthinking and assumptions. Key Takeaways: - Recognize Your Thoughts: Understand that your thoughts are just thoughts and do not always reflect reality....

In today's episode, we delve into the concept of rage, exploring what it is, why it gets activated, and the emotions that lie beneath it. We discuss how to manage and process rage through real-life examples and practical tools. Key Takeaways: - Difference Between Rage and Anger: Understand how rage is more explosive and intense compared to anger. - The Rage Pyramid: Learn about the various lay...

In this episode, we explore how crazy thinking habits can disrupt our relationships and mental peace. Join us as we discuss tools and strategies to gain spaciousness around our thinking and embrace the concept of the both/and mindset. Key Takeaways: - Crazy Thinking: Identify the patterns of black-and-white thinking, fantasy, and shame that can trap us in unhelpful narratives. - Spaciousness: Unde...