KickStart Your Edge: Play to Win Leadership

To get to where you are capable of going there will be failure all along the way. Thank goodness! The more failure, the more we put ourselves out there. Own it, embrace it and aim for it….yes, aim for failure.  The only way is through. Success is on the other side.

Just because you quit does that mean you failed?  There's a saying: smart people quit. If you decide that you are done with something – you have to determine whether you like your reason.  Your reason is the difference between making a decision or feeling bad about not following through

We aren't afraid of failing. We are afraid of what failing feels like. You create your reality by what you think about the results you produce. Once you know you can handle disappointment, discouragement, sadness, etc. you have cracked the code on achieving whatever the hell you want in life.

Your mindset about failure determines your relationship with it. What does failure mean to you? How do you interact with failure? Where do you avoid it?  Where do you gravitate to it? You get to determine what you want your relationship with failure to be.

"This game is rigged. And it does not reward people who play by the rules. You either got to stand in the corner or get in the ring." Ramona, from Hustlers. What rules do you need to let go of so your game isn't rigged?  Find the ones that work FOR you vs. the ones your parents, society, etc. say you should follow. It's time to get in the ring.

"Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves back up." Batman got this one right.  Are you willing to stumble, trip and fall to really get to know what you are made of?  This is what life is all about because falling isn't the same as failing.

"If it makes you happy, then why are you so sad?" Sheryl Crow's documentary Sheryl shares how even though Sheryl sold millions of records it didn't necessarily make her happy. More times than not, people imagine once they get to a "destination" then they'll be happy.  Get out of the milestone moments and start to focus on what really matters.

"I don't need easy, I just need possible." Ninja Warrior contestant. Self-inflicted limitations will often get in our way. The question is, are you willing to open the door to possibility even when it isn't going to be easy?

Guess what? You have the power to choose happy. Listen to how it's possible to just make that decision for yourself in this episode . Forget yesterday. It's okay that you weren't happy yesterday. You can be somebody different today. It can change in a moment—and you don't need a plan. What can you decide now about yourself?

What does Formula 409 have to do with decision making? Find out in this episode where we're talking about taking action—flippin' trying stuff and maybe even failing!—versus that ugly ass habit of overthinking (you know, the thing that's keeping you from living your best life). Here's a hint: make the decision, THEN make the decision right.

Are you going to take the red pill or the blue pill? Jenn finally figures out the Matrix – and she's staying in Wonderland. WTF? Well, this episode is about how decision making says so much about you and what could be in your life. You can change IF you're willing. P.S. If you're late to the Matrix party, there's a spoiler in here. 

One of us bought a house in twenty minutes because that's just how she rolls. Not everybody can make that decision—sometimes we hang out on the fence, asking ourselves questions that keep us there—self-sabotage much? In this episode , we're talking about putting decisions in perspective and what's getting in the way. 

In this mind-bending episode, we're talking about how your thoughts dictate your relationship with your past. Think T-FAR™: Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings create your actions, and your actions create your results. When you change a thought about your past, it can change your whole relationship with something that happened. What could that mean for you moving forward?

Zoom out! In this great big world, what are you focused on? Are you making things happen or are you spending way too much time on what other people think (not to mention your inner critic)? In this episode, we're going to show you how to take a helicopter view for a new perspective on your own life and your place on this spinning ball hurtling through space.

Life hack: start loving your life! We're going further down the road of self-love and sharing insight into loving yourself. Nope, it's not always rainbows and butterflies. It can feel like a stinking pile of sh*t. But how can we take things that happen to us and give them meaning and learn from them? Listen in … especially carefully toward the end and see if the final question in this episode does...

Eat the f-ckin cookie or don't … We're returning to the concept of self-love in this episode and putting the hard press on self-love. Is it serving you and your clients or keeping you stuck? It's not the same for everyone we're ready to call it out. We're going to show you what it looks like when self-love sabotages your goals.

Which one of us do you think readily admits she would date herself if possible? Listen to this episode on self-love and you'll find out. More importantly, you'll hear us dig into how we might define self-love. It turns out, it's a little murky and self-love is not always a good thing. We want to know how your relationship with yourself compares with the relationship you want to have with yourself...

Your entire life is nothing more than your personal experience of it. An angle. A way of looking at your life that became much more than just a simple viewpoint. It became an excuse for why you keep falling into the same destructive patterns. But it doesn't have to be.

Who's scamming who? What makes self-reflection challenging is that you're both the con artist and the one being conned. Whoa…where are we pulling the wool over our own eyes? Jenn and Karen talk about how we are 100% in control of setting ourselves up for success.

Choose. What are you going to fight for? The past or the future? Your self-sabotaging BS or long-awaited freedom? All of your past is based on how you currently think about the past. Jenn and Karen talk about how your self-sabotaging is just trying to get the pain over with all because you told yourself stories about who you think you are.

If you know why you're stuck and you're still stuck, that ain't it. Jenn and Karen take a page from Gary John Bishop's Unfu*k Yourself calendar and talk about if you know why and aren't taking action ... what is the thing behind the thing?

Calm the F- down! Actually, we're too zen in this episode to yell at you. We're wrapping up our month on the emotional intelligence skill of emotional expression by talking about how to find your sense of calm despite what might be swirling around you. What other emotions make up calm? We want to inspire you to find what works for you to get you to that place. Let's get the right questions and obs...

As we continue down the Yellow Brick Road of emotional expression, we run right into fear, uncertainty and doubt, oh my! In this episode, we're talking about how to challenge fear and uncertainty, and consider whether we're feeding or fighting these emotions. We've got some aha moments in here if you have trouble articulating your fear and limit your opportunities. If this is you, or you're a coac...

Bad pun alert (you've been warned)! Let's amp our confidence this week. Confidence is one of our favorite aspects of emotional expression and it's the emotional intelligence skill we're focusing on all month. How do you get more of it?  Listen up and learn about the emotions that make up confidence and ask yourself what resonates and what you might do differently. And don't forget to listen to epi...

What does a song played on the ukulele have to do with emotional expression? And why are we so pumped to be talking about it? In this four-part series of episodes, we're putting our J&K spin on the emotional intelligence skill of emotional expression. This time around, we're talking specifically about what it means to be bold. Listen in and try to tune into what feelings come up for you around bol...