Keep Your Courage

We are the military wives who keep going no matter what. What then, do we do about those times when we actually can't keep going any longer? I think today's episode just might be exactly what you need. Find Sarah on Instagram! 

We know that one of the harder parts of this military life is that every 2-3 years we have to pack up and be the new girl. Sometimes we begin again with a broken heart after a hard pcs, sometimes we don't want to find new friends at all, doubting you can find your people in a new place. Here's where we start: We do it anyway. Listen in for more. Find Sarah on Instagram!

When we said our marriage vows, I thought the phrase "to have and to hold" was literal, that I would actually be able to hold him. But in our military marriages, we know that there's a lot of times that what connects us needs to be stronger than being able to reach out and grab their hand. Let's talk about it. Find Sarah on Instagram!

This life forms us and shapes us, sometimes in ways we don't even realize. And here's the thing- it's forming and shaping our spouse in meaningful ways also. And our military friends, and our military neighbors. What would it look like for you to think about how you have been changed, and then ask someone in your life about their experience? It just might a building block to help you be more conne...

Here we are, at the beginning of something. Maybe the beginning of the school year for you, but it could be the beginning of a new assignment, or the beginning of a deployment, of the beginning of a season that could be really hard. How do we live this crazy life with a sense of self and purpose? We re-attach ourselves to life-giving attachments. I'll tell you what I mean here. Find Sarah on insta...

For 6 weeks this summer, we are re-visiting some of my very favorite episodes of Keep Your Courage so far. These are the episodes that form the pillars of what we're about around here. We talk about being military wives around here which, if you're like me you're incredibly proud of, but also sometimes? You wanna quit. Sometimes this life is just really hard, and the best way through is with Lane'...

For 6 weeks this summer, we are re-visiting some of my very favorite episodes of Keep Your Courage so far. These are the episodes that form the pillars of waht we're about around here. In this military life, it can feel like you are always the one that has to adjust, laying your desires down for the greater cause. It can leave you feeling like you are the supporting actor in somebody else's story....

For 6 weeks this summer, we are re-visiting some of my very favorite episodes of Keep Your Courage so far. These are the episodes that form the pillars of what we're about around here. No one ever told us how hard it would be to make friends as an adult. Throw in frequent moves and military life, and needing community but not having it is a common theme in military spouse life. It doesn't have to...

For 6 weeks this summer, we are re-visiting some of my very favorite episodes of Keep Your Courage so far. These are the episodes that form the pillars of what we're about around here. I've noticed that my ability to handle what we go through, what the military tosses at us, has a direct relation to how connected I feel to Lane at that moment. He's the soldier, but we're the team, and we're in it...

For 6 weeks over the summer, we are re-visiting some of my very favorite episodes of Keep Your Courage so far. These are the episodes that form the pillars of what we're about around here. So today, if you're in the middle of a day that you're not quite sure how you're going to make it through, if putting two coherent words together seems more than you're capable of, my goal is simple: Remind you...

For the next 6 weeks, we are going to re-visit some of my very favorite episodes of Keep Your Courage so far. These are the episodes that form the pillars of what we're about around here. So today, if you're new to town and need some encouragement in beginning again, if you're lonely and need a reminder that you too, are brave, then you're in the right place. This episode is just for you. Find Sar...

Sometimes we think we're doing totally fine, and then sometimes we're surprised by our own reaction to something that shows us how much is below the surface. We are deeply impacted, formed and shaped by the military- which might sound obvious. But also it might not. Let's talk about it. Find Sarah on Instagram!

Wouldn't it be nice if we were given some sort of predictable calendar about the stress of military life and when it's coming? But that's one of the hardest parts about this life- we don't know what's coming in any next moment. All we have is this moment- and we can use this moment to help us get ready for the next one. Let's use these moments, our own battle drills, to help us be ready when the h...

Any given one day can be overwhelming. But those one day at a times do, eventually, add up, and it is time to move on to the next thing. If you are preparing to close one chapter and move on to another, if at some point you will be the one to close one chapter and move on to another, I have a simple practice to share with you that has helped me and it just might help you, too. Find Sarah on Instag...

I can basically guarantee that at some point in this military life you have moved or you will have to move away from home, to a new home. Which makes me reckon with the question- Is home where you were, or is it where you are? Maybe where you are right now feels like home, maybe it doesn't. Either way, if you ever have or ever will move with the military: This episode is for you. Find Sarah on Ins...

A lot of the time stress from the military life comes from the relentless overwhelm of one big thing to the next, deployment into crisis into PCS. But also, sometimes our stress comes from what feels like the opposite- waiting. We actually wait a lot in the military life- we wait for him to come home, we wait for someone to file the paperwork, we wait to move to the next assignment. If you're in a...

I would guess that your previous year was actually pretty wild, even if it just felt normal. Maybe it actually took a big toll on you even though you haven't realized it yet. Sometimes we need to tell ourselves the truth about what our life is like, and keep holding on no matter what. I'll tell you more in this episode. Find Sarah on Instagram!

We military wives can feel lost when so much of our family focus is on his career, we're constantly moving, making it hard to settle on down and pursue paths of our own. Here's what I'm going to tell you about it: What's lost can be found. Find Sarah on Instagram!

The more life I live, the more I realize how finding and having and keeping friends is so tricky. A lot of us feel lonely, a lot of us don't know where to even start in making friends when we're not 2nd graders playing on the playground anymore, most of us move so much it feels next to impossible to cultivate a community before we're uprooted again,  Here's what I'm going to say:  We do it anyway....

I've told this story in pieces throughout this podcast, but it's time to tell the whole thing. When we served those initial 4 years in the military and then got out, we got out for good, putting down roots in a very non-military life. And here we are, very solidly back in the military and very definitively committed and loving it. So- what happened? What happened in that middle part of the story w...

Mothering in the middle of a deployment or a wild assignment or in the throes of a PCS or even just on a Wednesday is really, really hard. When you, yourself, are exhausted and still tending to the needs of tiny humans who are also exhausted-  that's really hard. This is the episode where we talk about it. Find Sarah on Instagram! 

We talk about being military wives around here which, if you're like me you're incredibly proud of, but also sometimes? You wanna quit. Sometimes this life is just really hard, and the best way through is with Lane's gritty, hard-won advice to just Keep Not Quitting. Listen in for what I mean. Find Sarah on Instagram!

The pace and demands of military life really do add up, but we rarely name it as hard because it's just so normal in the military. We have to be strong to handle this life, but being kind to our own self is just as important. Find Sarah on Instagram! 

Going into this military life, we know it's going to be a hard life, right? But the phrase "hard life" doesn't really do justice to how shaky and tender and... well, hard, this life can be. Here are some thoughts about how to handle it. Find Sarah on Instagram!

The military life can be hard for all of the obvious reasons. Also? It can be hard on your connection with friends & family back home, non-military neighbors and colleagues understanding the demands of your military life. If you have ever felt misunderstood or unseen by someone near you, if you long for more connection, not less, this episode is for you. Find Sarah on Instagram!