Joy Fueled and Jesus Led

There are several organizations that are resourcing the Relational Revolution through producing content and training. In this episode, I fill you in on several of the vital source organizations and share what they offer and their differences. In following episodes, I will interview the founders of these organizations to more fully share what their organization does. You will also learn what their...

So much of life is out of our control and it can be tempting to grasp at solutions to feel stable and good about ourselves. What does it look like instead to face these struggles in relationship with God through our community? In this episode you get to be a fly on the wall during one of Toni's communities of practice to see how they showed up for her in a time of difficulty.  Toni's Leader T...

This episode addresses life or death situations and what it looks like to listen to God as a community for how it ends instead of trying to merely have faith that God will heal or rescue, when maybe the ending is not what you expect. If you are done white-knuckling your way through life and faith and are longing for a more relational way of living with God and others instead of just applying princ...

This season addresses how to offer non-anxious leadership, even during painful and often overwhelming circumstances. Do we white knuckle it and force ourselves to believe that everything will be fine? Or is there a more integrated way to live through these moments? A way where we feel our hard feelings and sense God with us, holding us and showing us what we need to see in order to return to peace...

In this episode, Toni shares a personal example of how Jesus walked with her after finding out her daughter was self-harming. God gave her an image that continued to give peace during the 10 years of her daughter's life-threatening journey. This season is all about how to offer non-anxious leadership, even amid painful and often overwhelming circumstances. Do we white-knuckle it and force ourselve...

Sometimes life situations seem impossible and out of our control. From personal situations like “Will my child make it through their emotional struggles? Or Will they ever come to faith?” to “Will God come through and rescue my friends who are in a war-stricken country?” these situations can leave us feeling bedraggled, helpless, and anxious. What is our role? Do we white knuckle it and force ours...

This is a surprise bonus episode where we get to hear Krispin Mayfield’s journey into church as healthy attachment and a small way pastors can help create emotional safety for heart-to-heart connection to happen. Krispin’s book Attached to God is a great place to learn more on how our relational connections affect us spiritually. And click here to sign up for Krispin’s workshop Attachment and Spir...

Have you ever been deeply served by someone educing your heart and your strengths? It is almost impossible to offer this to others if you have never experienced it yourself. Many of us were lacking mature elders in our lives who could invite us into maturity and healthy attachment. In this episode Toni jumps right into the final S: Serving Others, not pleasing or keeping them comfortable, but deep...

How often have you been somewhere where they seem to be speaking a different language, yet they do not explain what they are saying or doing? It's like you are just supposed to know how to behave. Or maybe you have been asked to share, but you don’t know how deep to share or what is being asked of you. An effective facilitator makes sure you have all that you need to succeed. In this episode Toni...

What would community be like if you felt safe to share your deepest struggles, knowing that exactly what you needed would be offered, nothing more, nothing less? Do you often automatically give people what you think they need, or do you ask them first what would be most helpful for them and then respond accordingly? A relational revolution is sweeping through God’s people globally. As the Training...

In this episode, Toni recaps what this revolution is all about, clarify what she is not saying, and jumps into the first S of effective facilitating: Seeing. What would it look like if your only agenda when you were with someone was to notice what you notice, seeing them physically and with the eyes and heart of God? If you want to learn to facilitate this kind of love, don’t hesitate to start you...

In this episode Toni shares with you two key paradigm shifts that have drawn her to more effective ways of leading small groups, Bible Studies, dinner table conversations, and even larger group gatherings. Teaching ideas is wonderful, otherwise, you would not be listening to this podcast, but it can only get us so far. When we are gathered as community there is a more effective way to relate. If w...

A relational revolution is sweeping through God’s people globally. As the Training Champion for LK10, my key question has been “How do we help facilitate church in ways that help people grow healthy attachments to God and each other?” Duty-driven, guilt-based, programmatic, building center, pastor-led forms of church have proven ineffective in seeing sustained character development and spontaneous...

In this episode, I have the immense privilege of interviewing Krispin Mayfield. In this interview Krispin gets in touch with the anger he feels over how toxic theology has contributed to the people of God insecurely attaching to God and each other.  If you want to learn to rest in God’s love for you, get Attached to God today. Krispin shares practical exercises that help move us towards a secure a...

This is a surprise episode on infant-level maturity within the surprise season on child-level maturity! In this episode, Toni backtracks a bit to show how the gaps in her infant level maturity have affected her view of God into adulthood, how scripture was twisted to support that harmful view of God, and what growing a secure attachment looks like at this stage of her life. For more information on...

Ever think you know how someone is feeling? Or you know exactly what they need to do? Toni shares how so often she has parented with that as her base…However this approach to parenting can actually thwart us from getting to know our children better…and it also can stunt their growth. Listen in as Toni shares an amazing story of how her 6 year old managed his own anger and co-created with God a tot...

Join in as Toni shares how comfort is extremely important in the child stage of maturity. Many of us have never understood the role of comfort, when we need it or how to ask for it. And yet, the Holy Spirit is actually called the Comforter! So, this must be important! Here Toni shares a story of how this shows up in her parenting. Do you recognize when you need comfort? How do you respond? How do...

Does it annoy you when people get angry for no reason? In this episode, I share with you how I have been unintentionally shaming my son when he gets mad. I had no idea how much I dislike being with people when they are angry about things that don’t make sense to me. Thankfully, my husband and son gently helped me see these automatic responses in myself.  If certain emotions bump you out, or you fi...

This is a surprise season on child-level maturity, what it is, why it is important, and what are the key factors in parenting our own children through this stage. In this episode, I share with you the importance of understanding how we each uniquely show up in the world and helping others see their unique contribution as well. It is part of the child's stage of development. Hear a story of how...

This is somewhat of a surprise season on child-level maturity, what it is, why it is important and what are the key factors in parenting our own children through this stage. In this episode, Toni shares some of the key tasks necessary for helping our children mature emotionally during their school-age years. What their responsibilities are and how we, as their caregiver and their community, can he...

In this episode, Toni shares a journal entry from 2012 where God took her to a childhood memory to coach her in how He uniquely designed her to show up in the world. Parts of her were sometimes scared to shine because she did not want others to feel bad. In this spontaneous time with God, He reframes that fear and reveals how she was created to inspire and train others to be their best, unleashing...

In this episode, Hilary Kline shares with us key paradigm shifts that had to happen in order for her to embrace a Joy fueled, Jesus-led way of life. She also gives us a peek into personal examples of how interacting with God removes fear and creates new possibilities. There may be some words or concepts that are new to you in this one. If so, stay tuned for season 3, where I will break down some o...

In this episode, Hilary and I share our story of how God drew us into a mother-daughter relationship that has changed our lives (and our families’ lives) forever. There are countless ways God calls us to provide for each other’s needs through spiritual adoption, whether it may be as a stand-in, supplemental, or replacement family member. That is how the family of God becomes mature and complete -...

In this episode, Toni shares with you a very intimate moment between her and God that changed her life forever and has become what she calls her “abiding place”, i.e. the place where she returns in order to continuously sense how deeply God enjoys her, and what God wants her to know about any given situation.  What does Christ abiding in you look like? Do you have a place where you can go in your...

In this episode, Toni shares another story of following the images that she sees in her mind as God leads her into her day. Paying attention plays such a big role in learning to be Jesus Led.  Hope you enjoy.