Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

If you have young children, there is an ongoing need to communicate with your coparent about the business of raising your children. For many high conflict divorces, we know this ongoing communication will be an invitation to more conflict and contention. Today's guest explains that it doesn't have to be that way. Michael Daniels is the founder and CEO of FAYR a modern-day coparenting app which sta...

Can understanding how to say "no" in a new and more productive way benefit relationships, even those headed for or in the midst of some stage of the divorce process? In this team talk Karen and Lisa will discuss how "no" can improve relationships and share how to prepare and deliver beneficial "no's". How we say "no" determines how well our "no" is received. Saying "no" skillfully is ever more sig...

Bob faced a true emotional Tsunami as he found himself divorced and out of a job within three weeks of his wife asking for a divorce. If that wasn't enough to throw him on his ear, in his trusting way, he had his wife's attorney manage the divorce and was left with spousal support and child support based on a job he no longer had and couldn't seem to replace! The journey from that dark place inclu...

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce. If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!! Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators....

Today we are diving into a new paradigm I recently began learning about, the Enneagram which was created in 1915 and refined in 1960 to include the 9 personality types. The Enneagram is a system of nine interconnected personality archetypes or types. It describes three "centers of intelligence," nine personality "types," and twenty-seven "subtypes" that provide an amazingly accurate picture of per...

Today we speak with a guest who explains that Parallel Parenting IS Co-parenting, it is simply a more effective approach to high conflict co-parenting. The refreshing tone of this conversation acknowledges how unreasonable it is to expect to be able to follow the amicable co-parenting rules when your parenting partner is 'disordered' and has proven incapable of any form of collaboration or joint d...

Carrie is one of JBD's senior coaches and has been with the company since 2015 with a short break before returning. Carrie shares her life journey, love of learning and how her divorce changed the projectory of her life and career. Carrie shares her passion for supporting people through the prickly journey of grief and how she has evolved in her work with divorcing men and women, the many coaching...

Parental Alienation is a persistent, consistent rejection of a parent caused by the actions of the other parent. It is a form of domestic violence and child abuse as the child has been manipulated to reject one parent. The psychological impact this has on the child is severe. The child develops a psychological split. The impact on the alienated parent is devastating as their child sees him or her...

Welcome back as we continue our conversation around Healthy Romantic Relationships, I am thrilled to be speaking with Susan Scott author of "Fierce Love", about the essential role of conversations. I was first exposed to Susan's work about a decade ago, when beginning my divorce coaching career and came upon her book Fierce Conversations which over the years has helped me help my clients communica...

When negotiating child custody in a high conflict divorce, parents sometimes need the assistance of a custody evaluator to help determine the best shared parenting schedule and decision making responsibilities. If that is the path you are on, understanding the role of a custody evaluator and how to best prepare for their process is vital. Today we speak with Mary Carlin, a seasoned NYC custody eva...

Hearing the words "I want a divorce" from your spouse can feel earth shattering, especially if those words come as a surprise. It is normal to experience feelings of deep rejection, confusion, devastation, depression, anxiety, anger, and fear. Your spouse may be impatient or pressuring you to move on and focus on the mechanics of separating and/or getting divorced. After all, they are way ahead of...

Just 7 years into her marriage, there were numerous issues rearing their head. Amy would have kept plowing forward, her husband decided he could not. After being devastated by his decision, Amy was initially overwhelmed with anger, hurt, shame, guilt, and fear. She was struggling to understand how their perfect story went so sideways. Fast forward another 6 years and Amy shares that while the jour...

When children are involved in high conflict divorces, often additional experts are brought in regardless of your legal approach.  Today we speak with a heart centered attorney who represents children in high conflict divorces.  You will learn when an attorney for the child or guardian ad litem is needed.  We discuss how that decision is made and by whom, how the attorney is chosen and paid for and...

As we continue our conversation around Healthy Romantic Relationships, I am beyond excited to introduce today's guests, Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt. They are authors of one of my favorite books, Getting the Love You Want. Their book is so powerful because it's like therapy and coaching in a book, explaining why we fall in love with the personalities we do, the way our childhood wounds play out...

I used to believe that high conflict divorce and mediation were mutually exclusive, that only amicable couples can mediate their divorce. I was wrong! Listen as Susan Guthrie, Esq. shares how mediation can and does work in high conflict situations. We talk about what you need to know, how to choose the right mediator, other professionals to add to your support team, and how mediation can be signif...

Tune in as KP shares her life as a southern girl growing up in Louisiana and Alabama, her experience in leadership that began as a child and her intuitive sense that coaching was the right fit for her. KP shares how her coach training opened her eyes to the possibility that her challenging marriage might not be best for anyone in the family and how she navigated her divorce with a compassionate he...

Welcome back to our Series on Healthy Romantic Relationships. Today we are chatting with Emmy Hernandez about the "4 Pillars to a Romantic Relationship'. Emmy shares her FORMULA for engaging in and enjoying an "Epic Relationship." We talk about playfulness, sexiness, nurturing and your 'boss babe' and what the ideal formula is in bringing these different aspects of yourself into your relationship...

While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today's session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman's journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as s...

So much of our suffering is due to the voices in our head...the stories of how we have been wronged, or what is happening is bad or the certainty of why s/he did that thing...the 'why' placing us squarely in the victim seat. Divorce is painful, when we suffer, it is our own doing as a result of ruminating about our perspective, judgement, unforgiveness, insecurity, fear, etc. Today's episode shine...

While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty. Today we help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can become clear in determining your best next s...

The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter. Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP. She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion. While forgiveness seems to be f...

Welcome to Today's Episode: Know Your Personal Operating 'Style' and That of Your Partner's. We have a great conversation for you today with Sandy Weiner who brilliantly highlights how important the little things are. She shares the value of a 'Personal Operating Manual' which she developed for her clients that enables them to share their authentic selves with their new partner. It includes Lifest...

Molly knew early on in her marriage that things were not good. She experienced emotional abuse and walked on eggshells to 'keep the peace' with her new spouse. When their child arrived, things got worse as she needed to focus more on the baby than on dad. Once she decided to divorce, she began setting boundaries, finding her voice and her authenticity. The biggest challenge and surprise was how th...

Today's episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 - Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages. We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency diso...

Divorce offers a plethora of opportunities to get triggered, react and then remain upset. Today's talk is about the difference between the pain of divorce and the suffering so many of us experience. The difference is your ability to take responsibility for your emotional reaction and ultimately let go. Most of us weren't taught to 'go in' when we get upset, but rather to look outwards and blame ot...