Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

A common place people feel stuck in indecision is whether to continue trying to mend their marriage or to end it. In this podcast, Karen and Carrie talk about the limiting thoughts and behaviors that keep you stuck in indecision, what it costs you to stay there indefinitely, and some ways to start moving forward. The first thing is to give yourself permission to know what you know. How do you do t...

Collaborative divorce is the newest 'kid on the block' when it comes to divorce. It is a process in which you and your spouse commit to staying out of the court system and working in a spirit of creative problem solving, transparency and trust. Beth Dalena, Esq. shares what a Collaborative Divorce looks like and who is a good couple candidate and who is not. We also explore the emotional, legal an...

One of the complexities involved in Divorce with a Family Business is the real estate holdings beyond the family residence. While many affluent families, in addition to their primary residence have vacation homes, when dealing with a family business, commercial real estate is often involved adding complexities to the overall financial picture. In either case, a residential or commercial appraiser...

Jodi recently emerged from a 2 year high conflict divorce. She and her family were integrally involved in a local community of faith and she shares how her practice of devotionals and prayer were a regular part of her life. Jodi shares how her faith at first kept her stuck in an unhealthy marriage as she believed that no matter how bad, God would fix things and divorce was not an option. Over time...

Most people considering divorce assume that they have to 'litigate' in order to legally divorce. Today's episode explains what the court approach is and what it is not. Just because you divorce through the court system doesn't mean you will ever go to trial and litigate your divorce. There is also a lot of criticism around divorce court and attorneys that operate withint the court approach, "litig...

Today we are focusing more on the family finances, the red flags of fraud, and potential inappropriate spending common ways people try to hide money and how you, as the spouse of the business owner can begin to figure this and when you want to consider hiring a forensic accountant. Tracy Coenen has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn't always want to be a forensic account...

One of the most important decisions you make in the early stages of divorce is the legal approach that will be most effective for your circumstances. You may find that each attorney you interview states that their approach is the right one for you. It can be overwhelming and scary to sort out what the different legal avenues are and how to discern what is best for you and your spouse. Today we tal...

When it comes to dollars and sense there is much for the affluent wife to understand. However, it is your mindset that drives your success, not your understanding of the financial complexities which is why I asked Olivia Summerhill to speak to you! Olivia has a very specialized niche… She helps affluent women preserve and enhance their lifestyle after divorce, helping them gain control of their mo...

The Divorce Landscape provides a 'bird's eye view' of your journey ahead as you enter the world of divorce. We guide you through what areas to educate yourself about in advance of making significant decisions, the importance of prioritizing your efforts, and how to maintain your sanity by focusing on those things you have the ability to influence. This episode and those that follow it are designed...

One of the most important steps in navigating a divorce that involves a family business is analyzing the value of the business - this requires a Business Valuation expert. Once their job is complete, if there is any concern around 'hidden money', a Forensic Evaluator would be hired to do a deeper dive into the company's books to unearth where the money has been going and determine if any nefarious...

While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty. Today Karen McMahon and Carrie Doubts, Sr JBD Coach, help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can...

In today's episode of Divorce and the Family Business, I am speaking with Ryan Kalamaya who will be walking us through his representation of the Primary Business Owner from initial consultation through the final divorce settlement. If that's you, it is essential that you understand and are prepared for all the complexities of divorcing with a family business. As a divorce attorney for the 'monied...

Welcome back to the second episode in Divorce and the Family Held Business. Today's episode is legal advice for the business owner's spouse. A Step By Step Recipe for an Equitable Settlement guides you through the process from consultation through settlement highlighting the unique challenges you want to be prepared for and the best practices you want to follow to produce the best possible settlem...

We are Kicking off our series talking about the importance of transition planning and Buy-Sell agreements…the more you have in place and the more proactive planning you have done, the better positioned you and your family business will be when transition presents itself…and it always does. Greg Lewis is co-founder of The Tennessee Center for Family Business in Nashville, Tennessee, host of Family...

While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today's session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman's journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as s...

When our intention is to transition from married to divorce, how we view ourselves is key. Who you were before your marriage is a different version of you that who you are now. Equally, who you want to grow into being is a healthier more expansive version of the person you are today. The exercise of creating your Future Self Vision and the value this practice provides can be transformative in and...

Steve was trapped in a high conflict marriage for a long time. He knew he had to get out when he "didn't even want to be in the same zip code" with his wife. He reached out for coaching support when the constant barrage of texts and emails filled with contention and accusation was hijacking his every day. He discusses the benefits he received through coaching and encourages everyone to get the sup...

One of the many aspects of our lives that changes during divorce is the way we spend the holidays and more specifically, holiday traditions. Today Karen talks about how to make the decision about what to keep, what to let go of and what to add that is new. A key element in making a healthy choice is to consider what your choice is based on. Are you choosing based on what others want you to do? Bas...

This is our LAST episode of The High Net Worth Divorce Playbook series, and today's experts explain the critical role of Trust and Estates attorneys as part of your All-Star divorce support team. While most people assume that a Trust and Estate attorney is only needed at the end or AFTER the divorce, Nancy and Britt highlight the financial advantage of enlisting them from the beginning. We discuss...

In this Team Talk episode, KP discusses with Karen the Pros & Cons of Nesting. Nesting allows parents to share custody time without kids moving back & forth between two houses. Generally, the kids remain in the family home with the parents taking turns living in the family home and a separate apartment. This child-centered approach gives kids a slower transition into a new family structure. Many p...

Kim unexpectedly found out her husband of 26 years was having an affair…moments before a celebration dinner with her daughter. What transpired next was a testament to the coaching work Kim had done and her dedication to keeping her daughter out of the chaos of divorce. Tune in as Kim shares her challenges with change, trust and forgiveness as she became laser focused on her needs and priorities in...

Perhaps like me, you've never heard of an employability expert. When I began designing this Series, the topics of employability and vocational analysis weren't even on my radar. As I spoke with our experts, I realized how vital this piece is to the overall success of your divorce, whether you are the primary earner or the other spouse. Today's expert takes us through the function of an employabili...

Are you tired of being controlled by the chaos of divorce. Do you wish you could think clearly and make the big decisions before you with confidence. Do you question what happened to your 'old self' and wonder how you have become so angry, fearful and reactionary? What if you could find a resource custom designed for you that could guide you to navigate your divorce with less pain and conflict? Jo...

In the complex world of High Net Worth Divorce there is often a need for a forensic accountant who helps to find hidden assets OR missing money, which is considered divorce fraud. Today's episode focuses on the red flags that can help you ascertain whether or not you need a forensic accountant, what the process looks like should you hire one, how to choose the right forensic accountant and the rol...

Part 3 of our series focuses on how to appreciate and benefit from the different voices in your head and their unique perspectives by using "The Brain Huddle" , a practice author Jill Bolte Taylor, PhD refers to as a "Power Tool for Peace". The four voices or characters generated by four different types of neural tissue in our brains are somewhat stereotypical in their behavioral patterns which me...