IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

When IVF fails, your brain can feel like the enemy, spiraling with infertility triggers, constant comparison, and the grief of being childless after infertility. In this episode, you will discover why your brain reacts this way when fertility treatments do not work, and three simple practices to begin calming your mind and finding peace. Have you ever felt fine one moment, and then a single pregna...

Episode 181: Childless Legacy – How to Create One If you are childless after infertility, what kind of legacy are you leaving? When IVF, IUI, or years of trying to conceive did not lead to the family you dreamed of, it can feel like your story has nowhere to go. Like your legacy disappeared along with the possibility of motherhood. But what if you could create a legacy that does not depend on havi...

Infertility and Othering: When You Don't Belong Have you ever walked into a room and instantly thought, "I'm the only one here without kids"? That sinking feeling in your body is what is known as othering. Othering happens when you are seen, or you see yourself, as separate because you do not fit a societal mold. If you are childless after infertility or your IVF journey ended without the child yo...

Your Infertility Journey: How to Stop Explaining It If you are childless after infertility, you have probably been on both sides of the spectrum: staying silent because you do not have the words or emotional energy to talk about your journey, and then overexplaining to justify that you "did enough" to try to become a mom. In this episode of The So Now What? Podcast , we talk about the exhausting p...

What if the hardest part of infertility wasn't just the treatments… but the fact that no one even knew how hard you tried? In this episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast, we're talking about an overlooked reality: what it feels like to go through years of IVF and fertility treatments and never even get a positive pregnancy test. No bump. No loss others can see. Just you, quietly rearranging your li...

You love your friends. You've grown up together, lived through milestones, and shared so many memories. But now they're raising kids, and you're navigating life after infertility. You're the only one in the group chat without a child, and suddenly, the conversations feel distant. Do you go and feel left out? Or do you stay home and feel even more alone? In this episode of The "So Now What?" Podcas...

If you are a woman who is childless not by choice, you know the heartbreak of infertility does not end when treatments stop. You might still feel like shame and guilt are following you around every day. In this episode, you will hear why infertility shame and secrecy can stay with you for years after IVF or other fertility treatments. Lana shares insights from a 1998 doctoral thesis that described...

If you have spent years going through fertility treatments like IVF, pouring everything into your dream of motherhood, and still found yourself without a child, you know how heavy it feels to imagine a future that could ever feel as meaningful. In this week's episode, Lana shares a deeply personal story about standing on a piece of vacant land in Michigan, a place she and her husband dreamed of bu...

 Your Meaning as a Childless Woman After Infertility If you ever find yourself waking up on a Saturday, staring at a day that is completely yours and feeling more suffocated than free, this episode is for you. Maybe you spent years picturing weekends packed with soccer games, birthday parties, college visits, and noisy family trips.  You imagined how all the hard parts of infertility and IVF would...

If you're childless after infertility or IVF and wondering how to move forward in a life that looks nothing like what you imagined, this episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast is for you. You did everything you could to become a mother. You prayed, tried, hoped, and gave it your all. And now you're living in the aftermath of a dream that didn't come true, with no guide for how to feel whole again....

If you've ever wondered if this is just how life feels when you don't become a mom, this episode is for you. Maybe your fertility journey ended with heartbreak instead of a baby. Maybe you've been told (by the world, by your inner voice) that life will always feel incomplete, lonely, or second-best now. Maybe you scroll past pregnancy announcements and family vacation photos, not because you're bi...

If you're a woman who went through fertility treatments like IVF or IUI and now find yourself childless after infertility, this episode will speak directly to your heart. This week, we talk about a quiet kind of grief. The grief carried by the man who never got to become a dad. Whether it's your husband, partner, brother, or someone else close to you, Father's Day can feel invisible for the men wh...

Infertility & Goal Fatigue – What to Do When IVF Fails If you're childless after infertility and emotionally drained from years of chasing the dream of motherhood through IVF, I want you to know: you're not alone . And what you're feeling right now? It makes perfect sense. You spent years setting goals—diagnosis, treatment plans, egg retrievals, embryo transfers, second opinions, supplements, side...

If you are childless after infertility and wondering how to move forward without the future you dreamed of, this powerful conversation with Jody Day will meet you right where you are. In this episode, we explore what it truly means to grieve childlessness and how embracing that grief can lead to deep healing, creativity, and purpose. Jody shares her personal story, her insights from years of worki...

If Mother's Day felt hard for you, you're not alone and this week's episode of  The "So Now What?" Podcast is especially for you. You've probably spent years feeling like a party of one, moving through infertility and now life without children, not sure where to go to find connection or how to create it. Maybe you've told yourself you should be strong enough to figure this out alone. Maybe you've...

If you're feeling overlooked, invisible, or emotionally raw as Mother's Day approaches, this episode was made for you. In this heartfelt and healing conversation, Lana speaks directly to you — the woman who did everything she could to become a mom, but still doesn't have the child she dreamed of. Whether this is your first Mother's Day since stopping fertility treatments or your fifteenth, this ep...

If you've ever felt like life passed you by — that everyone else got the invitation to motherhood while you were left standing in the quiet — this episode is for you. In Episode 166 of The "So Now What?" Podcast , I'm bringing you into a deeply personal story I recently shared with a room full of college students. It wasn't about infertility — at least not directly — but it brought up a feeling yo...

If you've gone through IVF or fertility treatments and didn't end up with the child you always dreamed of, this episode is for you. During National Infertility Awareness Week 2025 , it's easy to feel like the spotlight is only on the stories that end in a baby. But what if yours didn't? What if you're childless after infertility, and you've spent years wondering where your voice fits in? This week...

If you've been through fertility treatments like IVF or IUI and ended your journey without the baby you dreamed of, you might be waiting for the day you finally feel "healed." But what if healing isn't something you ever fully complete? What if infertility isn't a finish line—but a beginning? In this episode of The "So Now What?" Podcast , you'll discover that you don't have to be completely heale...

Have you ever looked around and thought, "So now what?" after years of trying fertility treatments that didn't work? You're not alone. This week's episode is for you. In this deeply personal and empowering episode, you'll hear Lana reflect on the powerful launch of her new book, So Now What?, which became a #1 New Release in the Fertility and Infertility categories on Amazon. That milestone wasn't...

Are you childless after infertility, feeling stuck in the "in-between" after years of fertility treatments and IVF? Have you spent years yearning for motherhood, only to be left wondering what life looks like now? If that sounds like you, this episode was created with your heart in mind. In Episode 162 of The So Now What? Podcast, I share a deeply personal reflection that started on a seemingly or...

🎙 Listen now to The 'So Now What?' Podcast with Lana Manikowski, Episode 161 So now what? Did these three words race through your mind time and time again during fertility treatments? You poured everything—your energy, your time, your heart—into trying to have a child. But when that dream didn't come true, you were left wondering: What now? If you've ever felt like motherhood was the missing piece...

You've done it all—IVF, IUI, every possible fertility treatment. You've spent years hoping, praying, and planning for a baby that never arrived. Now, you find yourself in a place you never prepared for—life without the children you dreamed of. And you keep asking yourself,  So now what? If those words have been circling in your mind, you are not alone. I remember when they consumed me. When I was...

If you've ever felt like happiness is something you have to earn—as if the universe is compensating you for the pain of infertility—this episode is for you. In this special episode of The So Now What? Podcast , I'm giving you a sneak peek into my new book So Now What? , releasing on April 2nd. I'll be reading a powerful excerpt from Chapter 13, Choosing to Love Your Life After Infertility and Rede...

If your fertility journey didn't lead to motherhood, it's easy to feel like everything else is just second best. After years of IVF, IUI, and trying everything to have a baby, you never imagined navigating a life without children. And now, instead of embracing the opportunities in front of you, you might feel stuck, wondering if true joy, fulfillment, and connection are even possible for you. But...