It’s Not Therapy! with Liana Kerzner

You've probably heard this over and over - "Don't be negative." What you won't hear is how to accomplish that. Liana talks with life coach Janet Ettele, author of "How Joyous Effort Works" about how a slight shift of focus in how we approach our relationships, our jobs, our families and ourselves can uncover sources of happiness that have always been there.

Why Immigrants? You'd think we'd learn from history that blaming Immigrants for society's problems is never warranted and never solves any problems - just makes them worse. Yet too many haven't learned...but why? Liana lays it out in simple terms and why and how we can question our illogical urges.

"Suck it up, be a Man!" That's the message boys have received for generations, meant to crush their more sensitive natures. And it worked, at the cost of the spirits of these boys who became men. But when author and journalist Amy Molloy's toddler son started exhibiting troubling sensitivities, she didn't impose stern discipline, instead finding solutions from what are considered 'new age' sources...

Seems as though cruelty and meanness have become greatly valued currency in how people are treated (and maybe how you're treating people). Are we living in meaner times? Is our only path retaliating or just taking it? Liana tackles these questions and more with Jennifer Keluskar, Ph. D. a professor of Biobehavioral Health at Pennsylvania State University.

We talk about the pursuit of happiness as if it's something that will be achieved at some later date, if we just keep chasing it. But what if happiness is already here but we've been blinded to it? Dr. Gillian Mandich, a PhD in health science, believes that happiness is not a destination, it’s a practice; not something we earn, but something we learn. Liana talks with Dr. Mandich, founder of The I...

For the majority of patients, their primary care physician is the one who will address their mental health issues...even though they aren't trained for it. But shouldn't they be? The medical profession has separated mental health from physical health, creating two separate streams of care and separate medical practitioners for mind and body - leaving patients without access to proper care. Dr. Rob...

As she explains in her new book The Unlocking - An Autism Story, Porscia Lam and her husband had a problem - their toddler, Harry, would not do anything he was asked to do. Yes, that's typical for some children, but Harry's reactions were extreme, with troubling behaviour escalating to the point it endangered Harry and his younger sibling. The Lams discovered Harry has Pathological Demand Avoidanc...

That's the title of trauma therapist Amanda Ann Gregory's new book, and her book's synopsis, "(f)eeling pressured to forgive their offenders is a common reason trauma survivors avoid mental health services and support. Those who force, pressure, or encourage trauma survivors to forgive can unknowingly cause harm and sabotage their recovery" gives Amanda and Liana a lot to unpack as they discuss a...

They aren't cosmically-powered superheroes, but understanding them can give us greater power over ourselves and lead to happier lives. Values, Needs, Boundaries and Manipulations - understanding these four building blocks is key to achieving better mental health, and Liana shares personal experiences to show you how you can do it.

The TV show "Seinfeld" popularized the line, "It's not you, it's me." And while George Costanza wasn't being sincere, the truth is that for a lot of people, it is them! Liana takes us through the top 10 things people do that drives others away from them in romantic relationships, friendships and work situations.

No, probably not. True narcissists - those with Narcissistic PersonalityDisorder - are rare. But you don't need to be a narcissist to behave like one; personality traits can be absorbed from others without our realizing it. Liana guides us to understand what true narcissism is and, importantly, what it isn't...and how to effectively deal with one.

Real talk: society trains girls and women to use feminine stereotypes to bully other women - and to use the same stereotypes to get away with it. Liana shines a light on the tactics female bullies use and the cultural attitudes that enable and excuse the behaviour.

We know loneliness is a problem, but meeting people seems to be harder than ever. How to make it suck less, with practical tips for reducing social anxiety!

Economic uncertainty, politics turning relationships with friends and family into a pressure cooker, the loneliness this time of year can bring on...it's not surprising if you feel like you're losing it! From her own personal experiences, Liana offers some suggestions on how to calm turbulent waters or just swim to shore!

We're Better Than This...Aren't We? Maybe not right now, but we still can be. The reaction to the murder of an American healthare executive spurs Liana to examine how our current societal distress has led us away from our better angels, using deeply personal revelations as a guide.

Discussions of suicide are usually heavy on statistics; this episode focuses on people affected by suicidal thoughts and actions. Liana talks to show regular Aquila and her friend Jerry, who talked her through a harrowing personal crisis a few months ago. What prompts suicidal ideation and what helps - and does not - when speaking with someone considering ending their life? A personal approach to...

We have nothing to fear but fear itself...but that's still frightening! The truth is that the fear of facing our fears is a double-whammy that contributes to depression, anxiety and making bad choices that keep us from realizing our goals. Liana is joined by hypnotherapist Sainoor Premji (2BHypnosis.com), whose specialty is teaching how to turn fear from a foe to a friend.

Trust is a very precious thing, and a fragile one - once it is broken, regaining it is a delicate process. How can you regain the trust you've violated, and what can someone do to re-earn your trust? Liana has some answers based in her own experiences that may help you with your own trust matters of trust.

Humans became the dominant species on Earth by working together - which is likely a surprise for anyone who's had to work on a group project. Rather than pooling everyone's strengths, group efforts often falter due to individual weaknesses. Rob Lion, Ph. D. of Training & Performance Improvement, professor at Idaho State University and co-founder of Black River Performance Management joins Lian...

Boundaries are limits you set for the kind of behaviour you will accept from others and what others will accept from your behaviours. In theory.  But the fact is that many of us were raised with poor boundaries or none at all, which impacts how we are treated and how we treat others - and never in a good way. Liana takes us through the Top 10 Boundary-Busting Behaviours and how we can course-corre...

Ever wonder why an apology doesn't deliver the results you thought it would? Even when you're sincere, sometimes an apology misses the mark and Liana presents the Top 10 Reasons that happens - and the steps you can take to get better results!

We've probably all heard the saying "Life is not about how many times you fall down - it's about how many times you get back up." Sure, sounds good. But how do we get back up? Resilience is an essential life skill we can learn and Liana is joined by Angie Lion, Chief Soul Officer of Black River Performance Management (blackriverpm.com) to talk about how to do just that!

"If you’re anything like me, you’re tired of folding yourself into a neat little box with clean descriptors that make linear sense. Women’s lives and experiences just aren’t like that. The messiness of our lives is a main ingredient in the mysticism that is womanhood."  Author & women's mentor and coach Megan Dalla-Camina https://womenrisingco.com/ returns to talk to Liana about her new book "...

As people have pointed out, the word 'diet' begins with 'die' - society's unhealthy focus on a person's weight has killed the self-esteem of too many men and women - too often with fatal results. The 'diet culture' messaging that bombards us is based in outdated attitudes, racial biases, perceptions of wealth and commerce. Liana talks about the problem and solutions with Carolyn Karoll, a licensed...

When many people lean on you for emotional support, who do you lean on? This is a question that caregivers and members of the clergy wrestle with every day. US Army Lt. Colonel Rebecca D'Angelo, speaks to Liana about how military clergy face the challenge, with information that caregivers can model in their own lives.