It Is Complicated

Disability is complicated - Access is simple. If you focus on accessibility where do we end up? If we change how we see disability, how does this impact on how we can focus on access.   What new technologies can we use to make spaces more accessible. We talk about Queer House Party and how we work to improve access - and how a recorded live stream of a QHP party is helping make auto captionin...

Neurodiversity is complicated - brains are complex? If we start with “A” where do you end up? What does it mean when you’re asked to mask your anxiety/autism?    How we think and process the world is different, and complicated. Building our subjective views of the world. Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode   Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/i...

Privilege is complicated - based on a tweet by @ExteriorWorld - "are you a pornhub category or are you privileged?" - we examine what is privilege, it’s nuances, the intersections.    We queers know how to play the Privilege game! How we use and subvert it. Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode   Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated...

Trans Normativity is complicated - Is there a "normal" narrative about how to be trans? How does this narrative impact on how we view the notions of Trans and Non-Binary? Is there a "normal" narrative for being Non-Binary? If this develops what does that mean for our future?   Not often talked about, we talk about it here! Here we introduce the topic, and promise to be back to develop th...

Mental Health is complicated - we go deep into mental health - why being trans and non-binary complicates discourses around Mental Health. We share a conversation around our different mental health journeys - and where we are now. Is our mental health a logical reaction to the pain and trauma we experience from being not-included in society?   Content warning: contains mentions of self harm,...

This time we talk about how arguments are structured? Why are we always asked to debate? How can we engage in the discourse in a way that is healthy for us? Can we use the conversation to educate people? What can we learn from all of this? Caution - contains latin - used badly by one of us. Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode   Our Patreon - https://www.pat...

Reading is complicated and so is passing - what does it mean to be read as one gender? How does this change around safety? What value judgments are made about our lives because of these?   How does non-binary fit into this model? Do non-binary people owe you androgyny? Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode   Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomp...

Employment is complicated - How does being trans or non-binary play out in the job market (hint one of us is unemployed, the other has been through two years of therapy for PTSD from workplace trauma)?   Why do some of us end up with PTSD from our workspaces? How do we recognise this - and how do we keep going? What’s the answer to improving spaces for everyone? Now with improved accessibilit...

Voices are complicated - what does our voice say about us? How do we build a relationship with our voice? How do our voices change how we are read? When do we recognise our voice is ours? How has past trauma around voices impacted on this?    We talk about how to sound like a cis-woman and why we might not want to do this for complex reasons. Now with improved accessibility - we have a t...

Coming out is complicated - when should you come out? About what? Why do you have to? Are we required to be “out”? What does it mean to have to come out multiple times a day? How many times do you need to explain concepts - like gender and pronouns. When do we stop coming out? Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript     Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated...

Age is complicated - how age works - and doesn’t work - when you’re outside of the “normal” pathways for your age.   Why is it so hard to guess someone’s age when they are queer? Does this work for or against us? What is it like restarting a career? Or getting back into education as an adult student? How the structures of society are set up to assume a certain path and pace - and how that chr...

Self Care is complicated - we talk about the complications of “self care” - vital in the pandemic times - and how that plays out in our culture.   Social inequalities, and how to “Farm a Fuck” - and is having the time to “self care” is a white middle-class privilege? What is the best definition of self care? This is almost a "Group therapy" session - where we self care while we talk about sel...

Due to the nature of the discourse on trans lives at the moment we recorded a special episode. Normally we record more than a month in advance of publishing. With the way the conversation is going we decided to do a special episode because we hadn’t heard a non-binary voice included in reacting to the current situation.  This is a totally raw episode - content warning - much swearing and emot...

Humour  is complicated - we talk about what is good humour - and what it feels like to be the subject of the joke - and why sometimes we “can’t take a joke”.   Why we always are worried there’ll be “that episode” in our favorite sitcom - and how we both perform humour and when we use it. When they go low, we go weird.  People and sketches we refer to: Noah Caldwell-Gervais on YouTub...

Crowdfunding is complicated - we talk about how ensuring what we do is sustainable. How can we raise money - what are the ethics behind this?   We discuss why we built our patreon page and goals the way we did. We struggled to promote this and we get exasperated we don’t have cis-het bro programmer confidence when we talk about ourselves.   To hear more about the Queerest of the Queer Fe...

In which we discuss should we centre allies? How can we be good allies to others? How can I use my privilege to the best effect? Is allyship the only model? How can we be better support to others?   We discuss why allyship can be conditional and what impacts privileges have on this? And what new model can we move to - should we be accomplices and implicate ourselves?   How can we dismant...

We discuss why we find Queer Theory so difficult to wrap our heads around, why is it dense, and how can we understand it. How deep is the queer theory rabbit hole? Are we included in the conversation? Is Queer Theory something for to use every day or only for special occasions. Do you have to be an academic to be queer? Hello Cruel World - by Kate Bornstein Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy f...

We discuss why we get dressed, sometimes in dresses, sometimes not, and how it changes how we are read and what complications occur - some intentional and some not. Apparently nakedness is not an option. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Playing with Ourselves is complicated In which we discuss video games and why it is complicated to play them while seeing your life represented. We also discuss whether or not Skyrim is the only video game in existence (tldr; it is!) The video series we reference are: Why The Sims Needs Disabilities ft @EnglishSimmer [CC] - by Jessica Kellgren-Fozard My most used mods for disabilities in The Sims...

In which our we attempt to introduce the podcast, ourselves and the subject of pronouns and how complicated all those endeavours are. Pronouns are situational They can make your heart sing. That Lost Spaces Episode where Dr J confuses K Anderson with situational pronouns and tells a very explicit story Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.