Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

Friend, We could all use a little more JOY in our life, wouldn't you agree? There are enough things fighting for our attention between social media, the news, and just hard things that enter our lives. You know a fruit of the Spirit is Joy, but have you ever wondered what it is and how do you get it? And maybe you've been in a season of hurt and pain so long, you're not even sure you could ever ex...

Hey there Sister!   After wrapping up Episode 8, lamenting your circumstances , God revealed even more depth to me as I saw connections between Psalm 42, Psalm 43, and Psalm 77! I was so encouraged that I couldn't wait to share it with you too.   After you've taken a shot at sitting in your own lament, you might be asking, NOW WHAT?! God still feels absent. Your relationship with heaven doesn't fe...

Happy 4th of July Mama!   Do you have party plans today? Are you gathering with friends and family? Or are you trying to avoid the crowds and have a quiet, peaceful day? Maybe your house feels like fireworks could explode any minute, so you're just trying to avoid any sparks.   Can we talk for a minute about what you can control? Spoiler alert: it's you. I think it's worth pausing for a few minute...

Hey sister,   Are you in a season of really hard emotions? Do you find yourself using words like frustrated, discouraged, hopeless, and lonely? Be encouraged- you are not alone. There are so many other women feeling the same things, and people also felt that way in Scripture!   Today, I walk you through a lament Psalm. We talk about what a lament is, how it's written, the example in Psalm 42, and...

Hello friend!   Have you heard the cliche, "Marriage should be 50/50 with each person doing their part." Or maybe even, "Marriage is 100/100 with each person giving it their all!" How do you know which one is right? And what if at this moment, it's 100/0?!   In this episode, I take a look at the question through what God says in Scripture. Join me in Genesis, Hosea, and 1 Corinthians to discover w...

Hey sister!   Have you ever realized how much time people spend, pretenting to be someone they're not? Many times it's in the public eye like politicians or on social media. But sometimes it's in our own lives. Do you feel you know who you really are? Do you know who God says He created you to be? I'm about to make bold statement: I do not believe you can have authentic intimacy in your marriage u...

Hey girlfriend, Today I'm talking about feeling stuck. I spent a lot of years claiming I didn't know what to do, when in reality I was procrastinating and unmotivated to change. However, not all of those years were wasted. I still think back on 4 specific things I did because I was trying to get out of the affair, I just didn't know how.   In this episode I share a book I read, a habit I formed, m...

Hey friend! Some practical tips coming at you today about rebuiding trust. Let's face it- without trust, there's no real relationship. And what I've found is that in order to rebuild trust in my marriage, I needed to practice being radically honest with myself and God first. And I mean, laying all the cards on the table, removing every mask, crying and yelling if I needed to- honest.   Or maybe fo...

Hey friend! Can I tell you a story today? It's a story about shame and hiding. And the surprising twist of grace. You see, shame just breeds more shame, so there has to be a plot-twist-injection-of-grace in order to disrupt the cycle. You can't get free alone. Oooh I can't wait for you to hear what this means for you!   In this episode I break down John 4 in a way you may not have heard before. I...

Hey friend! Have you ever used the D-word in conversation with your hubby? You know… (Divorce)? Marriage feels hopeless now, and you’re sure it’s beyond repair. The only thing that makes sense is some separation followed by permanent divorce. That way you can both go your separate ways and make the most of the life you have left.   In this episode I give you 5 questions to ask yourself before you...

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com   Hey friend! Are you, or someone that you know, stuck in an affair and wondering how to get out? Who can I talk to, and where can I go where I won’t be judged or feel shame? Let me reassure you now- not everyone gets access to your heart and story!   Today I dive into the very FIRST step of finding freedom, and that is finding and creati...

Do you feel stuck in a marriage that feels broken? Are you trying to end the affair once and for all? Finally ready to stop carrying the secrets and shame that will eventually destroy you and your family? Are you questioning whether or not you have to tell your husband? Or maybe you have told him, and now you’re trying to avoid divorce, quitting your job, leaving your church role, and moving to an...