Insights with Joe Pane

Pain is real. It is inevitable in life. The pain of a relationship ending. The pain of betrayal, the pain of leaving someone and the list goes on. Suffering is not pain. Suffering is a psychological construct. Suffering is a mindset. Suffering is the not letting go of the pain which should be long gone now. Suffering is the meaning we give the pain. Suffering can be avoided. Pain cannot be avoided...

A recent conversation with my wife inspired a spontaneous insight! I shared with Silvana that she is so healthy for me. This simply means that in all kinds of ways she has challenged my notion of who I am and what is possible. When someone is healthy for us they awaken aspects of us which would have otherwise remained dormant. Let’s really think about this….they awaken aspects of us which remain d...

According to Dr David R. Hawkins, we cannot experience reality directly. All we have is our perception of reality. This means, for all of us, that reality is perception. All our perceptions are different therefore all our realities are different. Many assume that the way they see the world is the same as their neighbour or friend, when in fact they are different experiences of the ‘same reality.’...

A couple of weeks ago I've shared the weekly insight in our private facebook group the topic of "The Two MOST Important Life Skills" Some members asked how could they share this information with their teams and friends so here it is... a bonus episode directly from the Emotional Fitness Hub Trust this brings value to you or someone you know. Find more about Emotional Fitness on www.joepane.com.au&...

Dear me could this be true? Well let’s go behind the behavioural scenes here and look at how signs are created on our reality. Firstly, we need to understand that we can’t experience reality. We can only experience our perception of it. Our perception is a very personal, unique, psychological construct which we create, whether we are aware of this or not. Gravity doesn’t require us to believe in i...

Contrast and uncertainty can affect us naturally in many ways. The two ends of this affect spectrum are confusion right through to clarity. Most of us in the world over the last 18 months have experienced higher doses of uncertainty then most of us are accustomed to. I know for me personally this has created incredible clarity of what matters most. Clarity of my values, clarity on where I stand in...

Let's explore more about episode 62 of Insights... "The True Meaning of Having The Courage To Be You"  I have always thought (and still do) think that having the courage to be you is to be more loyal to our own values than to the values of others. Extending this thought even more is having the courage to grow and embrace new experiences, both chosen and not chosen. To dive deeper into courage...

Anything in your life that attracts you, whether that be a relationship, a certain career path, a new business direction or any of the above continuing in a wonderful way….is all because of one reason. This one reason is an unconscious driver behind all our actions, especially when it comes to relationship, career or even activities we enjoy immersing in. That one unconscious driver is … growth. E...

Boundaries boundaries boundaries! There is a delicate balance when it comes to boundaries. There are different levels of boundaries depending on the relationship situation. How do we be ourselves at work with out oversharing or crossing lines? When or if we cross a line how do we retrace our steps? Have you ever been in a middle of a conversation and suddenly there is an awkward silence? That is t...

In Episode 59 of Insights with Joe Pane "Decision Making Made Clear and Easy" Has making a decision ever given you even more confusion? Has it left you feeling despondent or disappointed? Have you ever found yourself stuck on the wheels of procrastination whilst trying to make a decision? In order to eliminate confusion, disappointment and procrastination, we need to become aware that there are fu...

The most dangerous word in the English language is…..conclusion. If we were to allow ourselves to arrive and land on a conclusion about anything our emotional fitness is about to take a hit. The psychology of ‘conclusion’ potentially introduces rigidity in our thinking. Rigid thinking is a sign of immaturity. Arriving at a conclusion closes us off to new possibilities. If I can really go out on a...

Have you ever thought about how amazing someone else is at a particular skill, or ability? What seems completely normal to them is amazing to us. Well same goes for you and I. There are aspects of us that are normal to us but amazing to someone else. For example, your fitness level, as good as it is, may be normal to you but amazing to someone else. Someone else’s capacity to make lots of money is...

For most of us uncertainty is not necessarily something we consciously invite into our lives. Naturally, there are many of us who also thrive off having lots of uncertainty/adventures and challenges in their lives. In this insights episode I would love to explore with you the incredible benefits of inviting uncertainty into your life. This is not as scary as it may sound to some. Inviting uncertai...

Welcome to the season 3 of Insights with Joe Pane. Every day it resets!!! Everyday begins anew completely uninfluenced from the day before. The beach doesn’t have an ego that produces regretful thoughts. For example, it doesn’t say, “oh but these were special sand castles that only my sons could make!!” The beach doesn’t have an opinion, it just continues to be what it is. It doesn’t hold onto to...

Firstly, what is the difference between wisdom and knowledge? Whilst dictionary definitions of these words overlap in many ways, the main difference between the two, is that wisdom is applied knowledge, whilst knowledge can be ‘known’, but not necessarily applied or experienced. Another way of looking at this is knowing about something vs knowing something from experience. Most of us at some point...

The soul knows nothing about our past. It doesn’t define itself by our history. In fact, it doesn’t define itself by time at all. The soul expresses itself based on our desires, choices and the meaning we give our experiences. The soul creates. With awareness, we can create ourselves anew every day, by choosing a different way to respond. To respond with a compassionate understanding rather than j...

What if everything that showed up in your life was designed and placed there by you for a purpose? To reclaim, to remember who you really are… Everything shows up in our lives so we can make a choice. A choice of who we want to be. A choice which moves us closer to love, or closer to fear. Fear is the domain of the ego. Love is the domain of our soul. If we choose to react, we become a slave to ou...

Every iota of experience is filled with the colours and flavours of our emotions. The quality of our lives is absolutely determined by the quality of our experiences. The quality of our experiences is amplified or minimised by our emotions. Our emotions are our lives. Fascinatingly, our emotions are not automated. Our emotions do not automatically respond to facts. Our emotions respond to our inte...

In Episode 50 of Insights, Joe talks about the journey from ambition to meaning and the journeys within journeys. Some insights from Episode 50: Our identity is the single most powerful force in the human condition. We will do all we can to remain consistent with our identity. The ambition driven world is a journey about growing up, an expansion of responsibility. Here are some questions that driv...

Some Insights from episode 49 by Joe Pane: Psychologically, there are two worlds we live in. How things and people seem to be (outer world) and how we feel and see ourselves in this world (inner world). The outer world is our interpretation and our inner world is a knowing. When we become more loyal to our outer world we begin behaving and making decisions that are influenced by external sources w...

In Episode 48 of Insights, we explore the gift that crisis brings. A crisis in life, whether that be in health, finances, relationship or career, can be likened to a psychological tremor through to a psychological earthquake. The strongest structures remain standing in an earthquake and the weakest structures fall and disappear for ever. Our psychological earthquakes clarify what matters most in o...

Some Insights from Episode 47: "...  Values are what draw relationships together. Love is perhaps, maybe one of those values..." "... there are two types of love: There's the human emotion of love, and there's divine love..."  "... Stop judging! ... and you'll minimize the fear in your life. Minimize the fear in your life for long enough and it will be replaced by a sense of appreciation...

Some Insights from Episode 46: "... It has been said that love is blind. Any reasonably intense emotion will blind us. Have you ever been standing at your pantry door looking for the salt whilst in an intensely flustered state? Where’s the salt? Right in front of you! Did you see it? No!!! Why? Because any form of intense emotion, whether it be anger, frustration or despair blinds us. On the other...

In Episode 45 of Insights, Joe talks about how we can consciously create 'our obstacles' and the importance of doing so before life creates them for us. "...be a conscious obstacle creator in your life. Where you're setting a vision or goals that you have absolutely no idea how you're going to get there. You don't even know who you need to be to achieve it...   "...you can create something th...

In episode 44 of Insights, Joe talks about how we construct our reality. The question is, are we rearranging from the same to the same or the same to something different? When something happens, we have a micro opportunity to be consciously aware of the meaning that we give that experience.  Our thoughts create our experiences and this happens when we add meaning to those thoughts. Once we ha...