Inside Job with Vee and Pam

On today’s episode, we start the conversation about the relationship between our emotions and our bodies.  Virginia shares a chart with examples of how our emotional state is registered in our bodies.  Pam shares the story of falling in love and feeling the full range of emotions and an example of the opposite state of being disconnected from her emotions.  We talk about shame, love, anger, and th...

On today’s episode, we talk about a time when our emotions came out full force.  We each shared how we ultimately had an ah-ha about our emotions. We asked ourselves, how could things be different?  What is our part in making the necessary changes for what we truly want in life?  We get to choose and how comfortable it is to not choose ourselves.  We touch on anger as a catalyst for change. We win...

In today’s episode, we look at how emotions are part of life and lean into using our emotions in a way that helps us rather than hurts us. How do we befriend our emotions? We discuss knowing when to share and when to pull back in sharing our emotions. Without our emotions, what do we miss in life?  We talk about the goal of emotional mastery and coming to the place of acceptance for all our emotio...

On today’s episode, we look at the resistance that naturally comes up as we are doing the work of self-awareness and growth. We share about the responsibility we can take in choosing to move forward. What is your process in becoming and uncovering your truest self? We talk about how we measure safety and the risk it takes to grow. We share a bit of our process and progress in meeting resistance, k...

On today’s episode, we talk about those “things” that come up for us again and again and how we learn, grow, and respond.  On the other side of I thought I was over this, we look at our resistance to going deeper. What is underneath, our opposition to looking at another way to see circumstances or challenges in our lives. The in-between of asking and taking action is called limbic space. We ask th...

On today’s episode we pick on the topic of triggers. They surprise us and they come up again and again. We hope we are finished with our tender spots and our triggers won’t come up again. We talk about the relationship between triggers and shame and share a bit about Brene Brown’s work on shame. How is it that one comment can take us back to being a five year old? The triggers don’t go away or the...

On today’s episode, we continue our talk about resilience.  How being helpers teaches us about not asking for help ourselves. Unlearning our old patterns and trying something different.  The resiliency we gain from some of our toughest experiences.  The definition of resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. “Quickly” is relative but we learn from each experience and each ti...

On today’s episode, we talk about resilience. We all have so many decisions to make with all that is going on in the world. How do we make meaning out of what we are experiencing? We ask the question, how do we navigate our lives as we head into the fall season?  We share about how others help us to see past the fog and get back to the present.  We are all still figuring it out. We talk about how...

Today we shared some thoughts on accountability and support. What does the word accountability mean for you?  Pam shares a story about herself at five years old, wanting to be a good girl and perfect. What expectations do you feel you must live up to? We talk about responsibility and our part in moving forward and making changes. We speak about the Cha Cha Cha of change and how it won’t look the w...

Today we continue our conversation about living on auto-pilot and how the awakening feels and looks for each of us. How does it feel for you? Similarly, we both felt raw, almost naked, vulnerable, and shared about not knowing the language or ways of living our authentic life. We share about being vs doing our life. We share more on how we talk to ourselves and how we can be gentle with this new ex...

Today, we continued our conversation about living on auto-pilot and recap what we have covered in these conversations. We have looked at our own awakenings or breaking through auto-pilot and how it has been a slow process of uncovering our auto-pilot state and how over time, the breakthroughs come quicker and we are learning and growing through each cycle. How denial keeps us on auto-pilot and wha...

We dive deeper into Living on Autopilot and share what those first awakening feelings of coming up to the surface felt like for both of us.  Each of us will have our own version of coming out of autopilot and what that means for us going forward.  We chat about anger, remorse and resentments in feeling so many new-to-us emotions. How do we stay with the emotions, the confusion and the fear to beco...

Today we continue on the topic of living on auto-pilot. What are the signs we are slipping back? What does living on auto-pilot mean for you? We chat about the idea of not being able to unknow what we know. As we recognize our own state of auto-pilot we are aware it’s happening. We can start to see it for what it is and the noticing comes faster.  We have the power to choose where we go next, who...

Living on Auto-Pilot. On today’s episode, we talk about what it has meant to live our lives on auto pilot or going through the motions of life. What groove are we living?  How do we engage in our authentic lives?  What makes us drawn back to auto pilot?  We ponder the difference between getting some solitude vs escaping our big lives. Come along and share our conversation and consider the cost of...

(This one takes us back to the holiday season of December 2019.) Vee and Pam talk about expectation vs intention. Are you living in a movie reel where everything has to look perfect (expectation) or leading from your heart (intention)? We talk about consciously choosing to do things differently, and about how giving ourselves permission to change also makes room for other people to do the same. Re...

In this episode, Pam and Vee talk about getting buried under an emotional load and what it takes to ask for help. When and how do we know that pushing through is not the best choice? Being vulnerable and honest with ourselves, giving ourselves permission to say, “I need to stop,” or, “I need help,” can be uncomfortable and is also one of the strongest actions we can take. Whose permission are you...

What do I do now?  On today’s episode, we talk about facing transitions and supporting ourselves along the way. Cutting ourselves some slack, is it an excuse or much-needed rest?  Do we really cut ourselves slack or are we running the list of the things we need to do? We share about the voice of the principal in our heads who corrects us quite a bit when we are not doing something productive. Gett...

On today’s episode, we venture back to November of 2019 right before Thanksgiving. We share about listening to our inner voice and following the unknown knowing rather than following our traditional patterns and routines. Gratitudes for hearing and trusting what we are being called to understand. What is our intuition trying to tell us? How does being intentional about our time change the experien...

Today's topic is interesting - literally, the word, "interesting." This word, along with many others, can have many different meanings depending on how it's used and delivered in a conversation. This can influence not only the interaction, but also color the entire relationship. Words like "interesting" can promote curiosity, escalate a situation, or completely shut d...

On today’s episode, we talk about seeing everything as practice as a way to support and love ourselves. We talk about letting go of perfectionism and doing what we truly want to do and be.  How can we help ourselves to take small steps, imperfectly and live our life right now? Life is a practice and we can practice every day with self compassion, attention, and awareness right now rather than wait...

On today’s episode, we talk about having a weird cold, and the message it brings. Rest, changes, striving, pushing ourselves to the limit, and how our bodies speak to us. Why we need rest, recovery, and some time to slow down and tune in. The body speaks….and says “Remember how important it is to take care of yourself.” Sharing experiences of pushing, listening, and hearing what our bodies are try...

On today’s episode, we dive into asking: what do we really really want? What are we asking for? What are we asking to receive? Being, doing, and having…..with clarity. Showing up, self-worth, vulnerability, changing, choosing, and clarity are shared in today’s conversation. For more information about the offerings from V L'Bassi Transformational Coaching, you can find the links here: Schedule...

This episode was recorded on October 7, 2019. There is an early reference to, "last week's discussion," which is not our previous podcast of episode 006. Also, this is episode 007, not 008, thanks to an uncaffeinated intro recording. ;) On today’s episode, we are talking about receiving. Diving into false beliefs about receiving vs giving. Why does giving feel easy and receiving dif...

How do you handle bumps in the road? What do you do and what does your ego tell you when the obstacles feel never-ending? On today’s episode, we talk about perfection, practice, and permission in the face of challenges that block our path. What would change for you if you gave yourself permission to do something differently? What could you accomplish from a mindset of practice over perfection? For...

This episode was recorded in April 2019. What does the word "practice" mean to you? Beyond a yoga practice or a meditation practice, what if you gave yourself the space to see  life  as a practice? As a pair of "recovering perfectionists," Pam and Vee discuss what can happen when we view perfection as the goal and when we consciously decide to  see things differently. What if y...