Inquiring Minds with Donna Karlin & Steve Harper

If it's someone else's fault, then we don't own our contribution to what happened or desire to change to make things better in some way.    Join Steve and Donna in conversation about what happens when it's everyone else's fault and how we can turn it around.  

Laurie Wagner is a writing teacher + coach, author of 7 books, mixed-media artist, fervent collage-maker, mother of two, and one-time amateur racquetball champion. She's the author of Living Happily Ever After: Couples Talk about Long Term Love and Expectations: Women Talk about Becoming a Mother, as well as Holding the Dream – The Art of Marlene Louchheim. Learn more about Laurie and her great wo...

We can rationalize what we did or change things for the better. We can strive for more and always measure ourselves against people and status or we can want less and be happier.   We can compare ourselves against others or against who we were yesterday and stretch and grow today.   Join Donna and Steve in conversation about how we think, what serves us and what doesn't.

Weekends are your charging stations. Do you disconnect from the chaos of the week so you can replenish?   Join Steve and Donna in our conversation about what it means to disconnect and be at peace with not always "being on"

Do something you're already successful at and become masterful at it.   Join Donna and Steve in conversation about how to achieve mastery, what to focus on and what NOT to focus on.

You can believe that or you can approach life from a place of curiosity and inquisitiveness and then ACTUALLY be the smartest person in the room.   Join Steve and Donna in conversation about what it looks like when you turn the camera back on yourself and truly look through an honest lens.

You can read as many books or take as many courses as you want but if you're unable to read yourself, you'll never learn a thing.   Join Donna and Steve in conversation about what you really need to look at in order to learn and move forward in your life and your work.      

Do you act out of obligation because you haven't set boundaries? Have a difficult time communicating no?   Do others know that when you say yes, you're doing it by choice and respect the 'Nos' more because of that?   Join Donna and Steve in conversation about how we approach life from this viewpoint and, in turn, strengthen relationships at the same time.

Is it to support? Advocate? Demolish someone? Be supportive?    How do you want to be seen and heard?   Join  Donna  and Steve in conversation about presence, contribution, point of view and all the other facets of what this question brings to mind.

What would you like to discover about yourself? Are you pushing yourself to be a certain way, do something you always thought you should be doing? Or are you curious about what you don't know about yourself and set off on a journey to find that out?  

Are you living life looking at what was rather than what is or what can be? So many of us rest on our laurels or lament how things in the past were so much better.   Join Donna and Steve in conversation to look at when we do this and how we can (literally) turn it around.

How do you see the world? The world as a whole and your place within it? Everything is about interpretation. What if things weren't exactly as you initially saw them?   If you make decisions, judgments and take actions based on interpretations it can get you and so many others into trouble.    Join Steve and Donna in conversation about our viewpoints and how we can validate or challenge them.    

Are you aware of how much you criticize yourself? Are you placing limitations on what you can do because of that? Or are you embedding an idea in someone else's mind that you're sub-par?   Join Donna and Steve in a conversation about how you can be your worst critic and the ramifications of it.

Is it by the promotion you just got? Size of your bank account? Status?   Join  Donna  and Steve in a conversation about success and all its facets.

We are encouraged to meditate and find space in our lives to think, but how can we not think, or think of nothing? Is it possible?   Join Steve and  Donna  in conversation about how our minds work and some tips to disconnect at a fundamental level.  

How many courses and trainings have you been on? Have you changed anything because of them? Some people are serial course-takers and yet haven't integrated any of the learning into who they are or what they do. How are you integrating change into your life?

When has someone told you, "I hope to be there" and never showed up. That's because hope is a way to hedge your bets or get out of a commitment. What does that do to relationships?      

Your plan is affected by the inclinations, choices and actions of the other player. You must modify constantly But to what end? For you? For the greater good? Somewhere in-between?   Join Donna and Steve in conversation about how one has to learn to dance in real time with whatever the moment brings.

Each has a power or impact all on its own.   Listen in with Donna and Steve to when and where either are appropriate and how it can turn confrontational communication into a collaborative one.    

Think of a moment when you had to make a tough decision. What might have happened if you made a different decision? What would the consequences have been? Who would you have become as a result?   Donna and Steve discuss decision making and, in reflection, what did we learn about ourselves in making them? How can that guide us in making future critical decisions?  

If you had to let go of 3 things today, what would they be?  What would you gain by letting them go?   Donna and Steve talk about what we really want to let go of and what that would bring to our lives.   #lettinggo #decisions #choices #freeing #coachingtips #inquringminds

Nothing other people do is because of you. It's because of THEM! Join in with Donna and Steve who discuss how we view what other people think and say and how we internalize it.  

Decide what kind of life you actually want and say no to everything else that doesn't contribute to it. Join Steve and Donna in looking at how to honor the life we choose to have and make decisions accordingly.

Taking no risks will end up being your biggest risk. You have to risk to fail in order to succeed. Join Donna and Steve in conversation about how to take chances and what stops us from risking in the first place.