Inner Work With MaryAnn Walker: Life Coach for People Pleasers

Send us Fan Mail Main Ideas: People Pleasing People pleasers often focus more on how others perceive them rather than their own feelings towards others. Insecurity is one reason people try to win over others, even at the risk of inauthentic living. Constant pressure to meet others' expectations can create anxiety and stress. Unfulfilling relationships result from trying to win approval at the...

Send us Fan Mail When you're in overwhelm it's easy for the brain to go into overwhelm. This week as I was experiencing my own overwhelm my mind wanted to say, "This bad day is going to last forever." It also wants to ask, "WHY is this happening TO me?!" Once you know and understand how your brain is going to react to overwhelm, you can course correct it.  Here are so...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back to Inner Work with MaryAnn Walker! We're celebrating Episode 95 today, and I've got some exciting updates and a special announcement. Celebrating Growth : Thank you to all our listeners! We've grown so much, reaching listeners in the US, UK, Canada, Belgium, Taiwan, Ireland, Australia, India, Peru, and beyond! Your support means everything. THANK YOU fo...

Send us Fan Mail As people pleasers, we are very good at showing up consistently for others. But we are less skilled when it comes to showing up consistently for ourselves.  Take some time today to identify one way you want to consistently show up for yourself and find a fun way to track it!   As we practice showing up consistently for ourselves, it benefits everyone because we aren't as depl...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode  we discuss the differences between communicating from a place of emotional calm versus approaching conversations with heightened emotional charge. Examples of Emotionally Charged vs. Emotionally Calm Responses: Emotionally charged: "You're avoiding me to punish me." Emotional calm: "Hey, I'd love to get together, I miss you." Emotiona...

Send us Fan Mail Today I share the story of two monks. Both had taken a vow to not touch a woman, yet they found a woman in need of help crossing a river. The older and wiser monk carried her across. The younger younger monk became angry and accusatory towards the senior monk. "We took a vow not to touch a woman!" The older monk replied, "I left her by the river. Why are you still c...

Send us Fan Mail Are you telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth in your relationship? Comment like:  "I don't like your boyfriend" "You abandoned me at the party" & "You are so inconsiderate" Might feel like you're telling the truth, but these statements are actually partial truths. This week we explore how to be more truthful and...

Send us Fan Mail Do you struggle to say no?  The desire to help comes from a good place. But sometimes, saying yes can lead to resentment or feeling taken for granted. Learning to identify the difference between urgency & an emergency can help. Here are three ways to tell the difference: Urgency: It is time sensitive, but the consequences of not taking immediate action are mild. Emergency: It...

Send us Fan Mail Today's episode focuses on a simple yet powerful way to increase your personal vibration and zest for life. It's about identifying one thing to stop doing and one thing to start doing now. Main Points: Stop Scrolling & Start Connecting: Scrolling can feel productive, but it often keeps us from important tasks. Start filling the real need that scrolling satisfies, lik...

Send us Fan Mail Often times when we are triggered and find ourselves emotionally reactive, it's because we are making it mean something about us.  For example, maybe your friend didn't receive your experience or follow your advice, and you're making it mean your experience doesn't hold value.  Or maybe your partner doesn't want to do the activity you want to do and you&ap...

Send us Fan Mail What helps you to feel heard?  What causes you to feel unheard?  And how can you deepen your level of listening to deepen your relationships?  This is exactly what I'm talking about with my friend and fellow coach, Kelly Legath. Find her on instagram @daydreamercoaching or at www.daydreamercoaching.com Want to connect with MaryAnn?  Click here to connect on social media: http...

Send us Fan Mail What could you do in a minute?  And how could a minute change your life?  Maybe you're taking one minute to make that phone call you've been putting off.  Maybe you use your minute to do 100 jumping jacks.  Maybe you use your minute to just... breathe... but find one minute today and see how impactful you can make that minute. 

Send us Fan Mail Are you tired of constantly saying yes to others while neglecting your own needs? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and burnt out from always putting others first? In today's fast-paced world, learning to say no is a vital skill for maintaining your well-being and reclaiming your time. In this episode we explore the challenges of saying no and offer practical strategie...

Send us Fan Mail It is easy to assume that because someones experience or proximity is similar, that it is the same. Assuming sameness negatively impacts empathy and connection.  Work to be curiously compassionate towards others. Ask what their experience is... and the believe them!  You may just be surprised at the insights that can be gained when we allow ourselves to be curious about another&ap...

Send us Fan Mail This week on the podcast, we're diving into the crucial topic of rest. Sometimes our need for rest goes beyond the physical. Identifying what our actual need is helps us to feel rested and rejuvenated. Let me share with you the seven different types of rest, as described by Saundra Dalton-Smiths work: Physical Rest: Check if you're experiencing pain or having trouble sle...

Send us Fan Mail Introducing our new mini Monday episodes! Here, I'll be sharing some insightful mindfulness tips to help you enhance your self-awareness and receptivity. This morning's musing revolves around the concept of creating more empty space in our lives to receive personal guidance and inspiration. In today's fast-paced world, we often prioritize productivity and multitaski...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home for many of us: the fear of being seen as selfish. It's a struggle we've all faced, especially those of us who genuinely enjoy lending a helping hand. Let's break it down together: Understanding "Selfishness":   Being selfish means not considering others' needs. Interestin...

Send us Fan Mail Are you someone who is highly sensitive to the emotions? Maybe you're highly sensitive when it comes to reading others microexpressions, tone, and body language. If so, it's highly likely that sometimes you struggle with not only others emotions, but your own emotions around others having feelings. If you are highly sensitive to the emotional state of others, it can be r...

Send us Fan Mail Why We Tolerate Mistreatment: In this episode we explore three key reasons why people pleasers tolerate mistreatment: a tendency to think the best of others, the belief they can change people through kindness, and sometimes, struggles with low self-esteem. We examine the stories we tell ourselves and the excuses we make for others, ultimately enabling their behavior. The Attractio...

Send us Fan Mail Our brain often links discomfort with danger, making simple tasks like getting out of bed, stepping out of our comfort zone, or pursuing opportunities seem more daunting than they actually are. Understanding that this discomfort is merely a caution signal, not an actual threat, empowers us to distinguish ourselves from self-limiting thoughts. This week, we're delving into how...

Send us Fan Mail This week we are getting curious about what comes up for us when we either see someone else celebrating their wins, or we have a win of our own to share. For some, celebrating comes easy, for others, not so much. This week is all about getting curious about what is coming up for YOU. There is so much information to be gained when we are able to recognize not only what we think and...

Send us Fan Mail Are you giving level 10 reactions to level 2 situations? Or maybe you're giving a level 2 reaction to a level 10 situation? Over and under reacting can be a sign that something in your life is out of alignment. But with a little curiosity, self compassion, and mindfulness, it is possible to get back on track! To connect with MaryAnn on her other platforms,  click here: https:...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back, dear listeners! Happy New Year! With resolutions in the air, let's explore the power of affirmations and aspirations in shaping our goals. Affirmations, those positive declarations, work wonders when we genuinely believe them. However, if the magic isn't happening, it's time to consider your aspirations—the goals you're striving toward. Crafting a...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, MaryAnn Walker delivers on her promise to share 10 practical ways to boost your emotional intelligence or emotional maturity. Before diving into these tips, she explains why cultivating emotional maturity is crucial, outlining five compelling reasons. Increase Self-Awareness: Gain insight into your emotions and behaviors. Enhance Interpersonal Relationships: Devel...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back, everyone! In today's episode, MaryAnn Walker delves into a common struggle experienced by many helpers, healers, and people pleasers—the challenge of navigating emotional maturity gaps in relationships. MaryAnn explores the problems arising from differences in emotional intelligence levels and offers valuable insights on resolution strategies. Main Ideas: Self-R...