Inner Integration Podcast

In this episode we will explore 3 common stereotypes about abuse and an updated perspective of abuse in today’s world. You’ll find out about invisible abuse and covert abusers, two highly dangerous phenomena that are often overlooked. You’ll finally understand how stereotypes blind us from seeing abuse taking place where we don’t expect it or where we don’t want to see it. You’ll also get the oppo...

In this episode we will explore some of the most common ways that we self-sabotage after abuse. You’ll find out about some coping mechanisms that you learned in childhood to protect yourself from fear, uncertainty, pain and overwhelming anxiety so you can survive stressful, difficult or negative situations. You’ll finally understand why you keep repeating the same dysfunctional patterns that you l...

In this episode we will explore why people around the world are increasingly stressed, what this trend has to do with abuse, and what you can do about it. You’ll find out about "junk values" and how these may be stealing your happiness as well as contributing to depression and anxiety. You’ll finally understand why discovering a sense of meaning is so important to your survival and thriv...

In this episode we will explore why it’s risky to tell the truth about abuse in families, offices, social groups or society. You’ll find out about the 7 typical patterns of reaction when someone takes a stand for the truth in an abusive system. You’ll finally understand why people are shamed and smeared for speaking the truth. You’ll also get the opportunity to evaluate your own relationship with...

In this episode we will explore what could be going on when we keep hoping someone else will change. You’ll find out about 5 common thought patterns that could be keeping you stuck in a relationship with someone who isn’t changing. You’ll finally understand what’s going on underneath each of these schemas and how to shift out of them so you can free yourself and move forward. You’ll also get to he...

In this episode we will explore the line between accepting people as they are as long as that doesn’t imply destroying ourselves to make others happy. You’ll find out about the 8 “affective styles” or negative relationship dynamics with people whose behavior and attitudes put our physical and mental health at risk. You’ll also get to hear how these 8 styles of highly dangerous love drain the partn...

In this episode we will explore the important lessons from the series and podcast called "Dirty John," based on a true story. You’ll find out about the dangers of online dating and how predators can use those sites to find their prey. You’ll also get to hear an analysis of common predator behavior through the real life example of Dirty John and how he abused his victims. You’ll finally u...

In this episode we will explore the topic of healing and rediscovering your true self after toxic relationships. You’ll finally understand why going No Contact and discovering narcissism and psychopathy, although important steps in the process, don’t equate to healing the damage caused. You’ll find out about the internal obstacles in your self-healing journey that you’ll need to overcome if you wa...

In this episode we will explore the Big Picture of the predictable patterns of the narcissistic abuse cycle.  You’ll finally understand how you got addicted to the abuser and the abusive relationship. Hint: the addiction wasn’t about either one of those! You’ll find out about the things you can work on in order to prevent yourself from falling into another abuse cycle.   You’ll also find out about...

In this episode we will explore the common struggles with hoovering when abusers and manipulators try to suck you back in. You’ll finally understand why why it’s so hard to stay out of the pull to read, answer or listen to any contact you receive from the abuser after you leave or are discarded. You’ll find out about the typical hoovering traps and the most common form of hoovering. You’ll also fi...

In this episode we will explore the Cognitive Dissonance that short-circuits your brain when you’ve been in an abusive relationship. You’ll finally understand why you have disorienting confusion causing you to go back and forth between denial and lucidity. You’ll find out about the 4 most important actions you can take to help yourself resolve the Cognitive Dissonance. You’ll also find out about t...

In this episode you’ll hear a special holiday message as we wrap up this year and get ready for the next. I’ll give you a couple exercises to help you maximize the lessons you learned in 2018 so you can take the most valuable parts with you into the New Year. Stay tuned until the end to find out about what’s coming to Inner Integration in 2019! www. InnerIntegration.com The Journey: A Roadmap for...

In this episode we’ll explore the #1 public health crisis around the world from the societal, familial and interpersonal level. You’ll find out about the characteristics and differences between psychopathy and sociopathy from Dr. Todd Grande, a licensed psychotherapist as he clears up some common misconceptions as well. You’ll learn about the controversy between nature and nature as Dr. Grande tel...

In this episode we’ll explore love-bombing AKA idealization and how that fits into the abuse cycle. This is so important for you to be able to break through the Cognitive Dissonance. You’ll finally understand why you felt so addicted to the relationship and had such a hard time accepting that the abuser is an abuser.  You’ll also find out about the flipside of idealization and how you might be int...

In this episode Debbie Mirza, author of The Passive-Aggressive Covert Narcissist, and I are talking about covert narcissists and what it’s like to be in a relationship with one. You’ll finally understand why the covert narcissist in your life doesn’t seem like the description of the classic narcissist. You’ll find out about the traits of covert narcissists and how these types can be more dangerous...

In this episode we’ll explore the dynamic of the Scapegoat and the Golden Child in the family, workplace, organizations and social groups in general. You’ll finally understand why narcissists and other manipulators use this Scapegoat and Golden Child tactic in all areas of their life. You’ll get some tips for dealing with this dynamic in your family of origin as well as for helping your kids who a...

In this episode we’ll explore the concept of narcissistic supply: what it is, the different forms it takes and what happens when you stop giving them that supply before they’re done with you. You’ll finally understand why narcissists do everything they do and how this affects you. You’ll get some tips for not feeding the narcissist your power. Stay tuned for the last segment to learn about the key...

In this episode we’ll explore what to expect when you’re getting back out there after narcissistic abuse. First, you’ll find out about the social isolation that will naturally happen in Stage One of the recovery process and how that evolves by Stage Three. Then you’ll get some tips for when you feel ready to start meeting new people but you’re terrified of getting hurt again. I will give you some...

In this episode we’ll explore the importance of reprogramming your reality paradigm after narcissistic abuse. First, you’ll find out about the narcissist’s reality and why this is the most damaging part left behind after the abuse. Then you’ll learn about how can you work on owning your reality in order to create the life you want. I’ll share with you a powerful mental ninja technique to overwrite...

In this episode we’ll explore the 4 most important pillars of support to work on in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. You’ll find out about the behaviors that reveal deficits in each of the 4 pillars. The little quiz at the beginning will help you identify which area or areas you need to heal and strengthen the most. You’ll hear the best clips from my YouTube videos on: how the lack of each pil...

In this episode we’ll explore where codependency comes from, how to identify these patterns in yourself, and what you can do about it now. You’ll find out what codependency is and you’ll get the opportunity to evaluate yourself on 30 parameters of codependency to see what you need to work on to overcome those patterns. The Codependency Inventory will also help you to compare where you were in the...

In this episode we’ll explore the challenging process of leaving the narcissist or other manipulator.  You’ll get some practical steps to take for the extraction process and then tips to keep yourself out of trouble after you leave. You’ll hear the best clips from my YouTube videos on to leave the narcissist or not to leave, divorcing the narcissist and ending the abuse cycle, what happens when yo...

In this episode we’ll explore No Contact — what it is and what it isn’t, as well as why it’s so important for taking your power back and protecting your peace so you can heal after an abusive relationship. You’ll get to meet Kim Saeed, Author of How to Do No Contact Like A Boss! She’s got some great tips for you on going No Contact with manipulators and how to do that when you share custody of kid...

In this episode we’ll explore personal boundaries around manipulative people. First you’ll get to meet Angelina Caporale, my friend and the person who taught me almost everything I know about boundaries. She’s got some great tips for you on what to expect when setting boundaries with manipulators. Connect with Angelina here ! If you identify as a people-pleaser, you won’t want to miss my tips on s...

In this episode we’ll explore Complex PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) caused by narcissistic abuse. By the end of this hour, you’ll understand a lot more about the symptoms you may be dealing with and where they’re coming from. I’ll give you some tips to reduce anxiety and take control of the panic attacks. www. InnerIntegration.com The Journey: A Roadmap for Self-healing After Narcissistic...