Imperfectly Human™

In this episode of Perfectly Imperfect Me, Rachel discusses the common misconception that motivation is the key to taking action. She explains that motivation is a fleeting feeling rather than a reliable behavior. Instead of waiting for motivation to strike, Rachel offers practical strategies to overcome procrastination and get started on tasks, emphasizing the importance of breaking tasks down in...

In this episode, Rachel explores the cultural discourse surrounding Taylor Swift's latest album, addressing the polarized interpretations of her lyrics. She emphasizes the importance of dialectical thinking, advocating for the ability to hold multiple truths simultaneously rather than succumbing to binary thinking. Rachel critiques the societal tendency to label cultural figures as either conserva...

Trigger warning: frank talk about self-harm and suicidal thoughts. In this fast-paced, honest episode I sit with you like a friend and a DBT therapist to explain why people with Borderline Personality Disorder engage in self-harm, how to spot the difference between coping behavior and suicidal intent, and practical, compassionate ways to help—whether you’re the person struggling or someone who lov...

In this episode, Rachel discusses the phenomenon of religious psychosis and extreme apocalyptic beliefs, particularly in the context of the failed doomsday prediction for September 23rd. She explores the psychological and emotional fallout for families affected by these beliefs, including financial instability, generational trauma, and mental health issues. Rachel also offers coping strategies for...

Borderline Personality Disorder is one of the most misunderstood and stigmatized mental health diagnoses out there. In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest myths—like “people with BPD are manipulative,” “BPD is untreatable,” or “they’re just attention-seeking”—and explaining why these stereotypes are flat-out wrong. As a DBT therapist, I’ll walk you through what’s really going on beneath th...

In today's episode, we're going to unpack the Sadia Khan scandal and use it to discuss a wider problem: when influencer brands borrow clinical language, how does that harm clients and licensed professionals? We'll will give you practical tips for verifying credentials and protecting your mental health online. Rachel is talking about allegations reported in public sources — not claiming any court o...

Nobody warns you about the chapter of life where the roles flip—when your parent becomes the one who needs you. In this episode, I share my own story of navigating life as an adult child caring for my dad: the late-night hospital calls, the constant “clean up crew” work of canceling scams and subscriptions he never needed, and the emotional rollercoaster of balancing his independence with his safe...

We’ve all heard people say, “I’m so OCD about my closet” or “I’m OCD about my desk.” But here’s the truth: liking things neat is a preference, not a disorder. In this episode, I break down the real difference between enjoying organization and living with obsessive-compulsive disorder. We’ll talk about what OCD actually is — the cycle of intrusive thoughts and compulsions — and how it can seriously...

What happens when you’re the friend who stays home while everyone else leaves for college? This episode dives into the quiet heartbreak of watching your best friends live out their “college dream” while you’re still in your childhood bedroom. We’ll talk about the grief no one acknowledges, the loneliness of feeling left behind, and why staying home doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. If you’ve eve...

A real-time mental health crisis is unfolding on TikTok, and the internet can’t look away. In this episode, I break down the viral Kendra saga—her multi-part story about falling in love with her psychiatrist, the sudden involvement of AI “Henry,” and the signs that point to a possible psychotic episode happening in public view. We’ll talk about why watching these breakdowns as “entertainment” is d...

In this episode of Perfectly Imperfect Me 365, Rachel shares her personal journey with postpartum depression, discussing the confusion, shame, and isolation she felt after the birth of her first son. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing the signs of postpartum depression, seeking help, and taking small steps towards recovery. Rachel also highlights the significance of support systems and t...

Ryn Sloane is a Certified Integrative Healing and Cancer Resilience Guide, and a breast cancer survivor who understands firsthand the invisible battle that begins after treatment ends. She specializes in guiding cancer survivors through the emotional, mental, and spiritual Aftermath of their diagnosis, helping them reclaim their power, identity, and achieve profound wholeness. Through her signatur...

We all mess up—but what really matters is how we handle it. In this episode, we dive into the power of accountability and how taking responsibility strengthens our relationships, builds trust, and fuels personal growth. We’ll break down why avoiding accountability leads to broken trust, common mistakes when apologizing (yes, we’re looking at those “I’m sorry if” apologies), and how to make real am...

Borderline Personality Disorder gets a lot of hate—and most of it is based on myths, misunderstandings, and TikTok diagnosis drama. In this episode, I’m breaking down what BPD actually is, why people with it are not manipulative monsters, and how to support someone you love who struggles with emotional intensity and fear of abandonment. Whether you’ve got BPD, love someone who does, or just want t...

What happens when the house gets quiet... too quiet? When the kids are grown, the schedule slows down, and you’re left wondering, “Who even am I now?” In this episode, I’m talking from both my mom heart and therapist brain about the identity shift that happens when you become an empty nester. We’ll explore the grief, the guilt, the weird freedom — and how to gently rediscover the you underneath it...

Ever try to explain how maxed out you feel—and your partner just doesn’t get it? Maybe they hit you with “Just ask for help!” or “Why didn’t you say anything?” and suddenly you’re fantasizing about throwing a sock at their head. This episode is for every mom who feels emotionally invisible, mentally overloaded, and like she’s carrying 97 tabs open in her brain at all times. In this episode, Rachel...

Feel like you're failing even when you're trying your absolute best? That’s mom guilt talking—and in this episode, I'm calling it out. I'm diving into where mom guilt actually comes from (hint: it’s not your fault), how to spot when it’s taking over, and therapist-approved ways to quiet that inner critic so you can breathe, reset, and show up as the imperfect-but-awesome mom you already are. You d...

In this episode, we’re unpacking the sneaky ways social media messes with your mental health—from comparison spirals and perfectionism to dopamine addiction and fake connection. Rachel breaks down the brain science, throws in some truth bombs, and gives you no-BS tools to take your power back. You don’t need to quit cold turkey—but you do need to log off before you lose yourself in the scroll. Rea...

Ever shared something you’re working on in therapy—only to have it thrown back at you later? In this quick, powerful episode, Rachel dives into why people weaponize your healing, how it impacts you, and how to respond when it happens. You’ll learn boundary-setting scripts, mindset shifts, and how to protect your peace without shutting down your growth. Healing is sacred—you deserve to keep it safe...

In this powerful episode, I’m joined by the incredible Sabrina Victoria, who opens up about how she found herself in a narcissistic abusive relationship, the emotional and mental toll it took on her, and—most importantly—how she found the strength to plan her escape and break free. Sabrina shares the raw, unfiltered truth about the red flags she missed, the manipulation she endured, and the moment...

In this episode, Rachel explores the "Window of Tolerance"—a concept that helps us understand how we respond to stress and regulate our emotions. Learn how to recognize when you're in or out of your window, and discover practical strategies to expand your capacity for resilience. Tune in for insights that can help you navigate life's challenges with greater ease!

In this episode, we’re diving deep into a tough but necessary question: Are you always available when it’s convenient for them, or are you in a relationship where love and effort are mutual? Being a convenient love can be emotionally draining, leaving you feeling unworthy and overlooked. But real love isn’t about convenience—it’s about consistency. Tune in as we unpack the signs, the emotional tol...

Working mom life is hard — and putting yourself first feels impossible. In this episode, we dive into why moms struggle to prioritize themselves, debunk the guilt, and share 4 quick wins to reclaim your time (without the mom guilt). Take a breath — you’ve earned it! 🌸💖 Want to participate in my 7 day self-care challenge for working moms then click this link. https://rachelwrites3.gumroad.com/l/s...

In this episode, Rachel talks about how aiming for perfectionism as a therapist (or content creator, blogger etc) can interfere with our clinical work and risk missing subtle cues our clients are giving us, leading to ineffectiveness. This may apply to anyone trying to be "the perfect" XYZ.

In episode 26 Rachel talks about how her shame could’ve held her back from returning today!