Imperfect Mens Club

Mark starts by summarizing the 7 episode series describing what the Imperfect Mens Club is all about.   The inner circle of self and the surrounding 5 key areas of life Today the guys discuss the topic of worldview Worldview comes from childhood experience and your adult experiences Mark identifies as conservative but more so a pragmatist Jim agrees generally and adds that our focus is mainly men...

Today the guys continue the series on how their fly wheel framework works.   The first spoke on the wheel connected to the SELF is the topic of health, both physical and mental Mark asks wether people are interested in self care? Mark brings up holistic health and his daughter the health coach Jim suggests that if you're going to help people with health you need to appear credible Mark talks about...

Mark begins by summarizing the last episode about the IMC framework and philosophy He then introduces the concept of "radiant thinking" Jim shares that he discovered radiant thinking while seeking answers about his dyslexia Mark reads the definition of radiant thinking Mark brings up agency and how we function as agents at IMC Mark speculates that most people don't self reflect and those that do a...

Mark begins by setting up what the guys are up to next The fly wheel of Self Awareness and the foundation of their work Mark speaks about the Manifesto and upcoming programs in development Jim goes into some detail about how our wheel works He explains that we all begin with our self…self awareness, Self accountability… The guys have both found that in talking with people about our podcast and our...

Mark opens with the definition of resentment What it is and why it shows up in our lives Jim brings our flywheel into the discussion and how many things are still present from our childhood The guys both agree how important self awareness and personal accountability Life is not fair We all resent, but the difference is between those who wallow and those who look for personal accountability Jim - I...

Mark begins with what he believes "agency" is We all need an agent off and on during our lives Jim adds to the definition from his perspective Jim tells a story about his good friend who was a professional baseball manger The story of a young man signing a $40 million dollar contract and how he didn't negotiate the contract, his agent did The agent is not emotionally attached, strictly business Ma...

The guys are both dealing with anxiety and flinch at how widespread it is Mark reads a definition Then he puts anxiety in the context of our self awareness fly wheel Mark's kids all have issues with anxiety and they were all together last weekend Mark speaks to the sources of anxiety Jim restates the use of our wheel and The Middle East conflict as a source of anxiety Jim starts sharing some stori...

The guys are talking about triggers.   We all have them Knowing what your triggers are makes them easier to handle This involves self awareness and that takes work Mark mentions pausing when you get triggered Triggers in this context are negative Pausing allows you to regain objectivity Jim talks about triggers from his childhood and younger years When you allow yourself to be triggered all kinds...

We took last week of because Jim was traveling around Europe for a few weeks Mark suggests we use The Wheel and Jim explains the 5 components of the wheel Relationships, Money, Health, Profession, and Worldview Mark adds the center of the wheel - Self Mark brings in Worldview Mark asks Jim about his trip We discuss how things have changed everywhere Jim reminds us that Europe has always had wars g...

Jim is traveling for the rugby World Cup   He doesn't have his good mic but it should be fine Jim shares some details about the games and some of the places he plans on visiting Mark makes the statement that most people don't travel much Jim shares some trips one and two years ago and how technology has made traveling much easier Mark talks about his dad and brother's worldly travel and his abilit...

Mark starts talking about being a Baby Boomer and how we think generationally There are a number of differences that impact our thinking Geography, culture, religion, age, gender… Jim says we need to understand and be aware of where people are coming from Jim brings up Entitlement and says entitled people hold themselves in higher regard and then expands on what entitlement can mean Mark talks abo...

Mark brings up a poll "YouGov" Jim asks some good questions about the poll What people believe versus what is actually the case Perception versus reality What % of the country is black? The guys talk about reality versus speculation How many marriages are mixed race? local versus national and how we're being misled How many families make more than $500,000 What % of Americans are vegetarian? Mark...

Mark brings up the topic of adjustments in middle age He asks Jim about his recent trip alone for 11 days in his fully equipped Ford Transit van Jim cites his solo journeys started a few years ago.   "Things were getting tough" He went to Europe alone and discovered some things about himself Jim's van is fully equipped - bathroom stove and bed He went through 7 states in 11 days and realized Ameri...

Mark brings up Dopamine Jim cites a book he just read relating to neuro diverse people and how their brains work differently.   The dyslexic mind processes 4 or 5 times faster than a normal brain. This is good and bad Drugs sex and gambling are some bad sources The connection between dopamine and addiction Our cell phones are dopamine crazy Mark cites a 60 minutes experiment with Anderson Cooper a...

The conversation starts with Jim's 15th annual barbecue for the High School football team he played for 40 years ago…good stuff Jim reflects back to how he became an active volunteer for the high school and specifically his football team 15 years ago Mark makes the observation that good players rarely make good coaches.   Many great players don't want to be coaches Jim started helping by being the...

Mark leads with integrity Jim is reminded about the difference between integrity and morality Mark tells the story of his busboy coke dealer friend from his 20's Jim talks about his gardener as the man he knows with the most integrity and how his house cleaner is a close 2nd - Lupe's success story Mark talks about teaching his kids to do what they say The guys discuss punctuality and "Island Time"...

Mark starts with saying he thinks he has a brand and it's a work in progress Mark talks about asking friends what his superpower is.   Communication was the common thread Think of a phrase, start using it, keep using it Jim brings up the difference between company brands and personal brands Mark loves the word authenticity, but ironically to claim to be authentic means you're not Mark brings up Bi...

Jim opens with a story about his disappointment and shies away from talking about himself Mark jumps in and shares how he has had to disappoint people as a recruiter for 35 years…sorry man you didn't get the job Jim reminds us that it's a big deal for him to even fill out an application because he has dysgraphia.   Mark reminds Jim of how he should be proud of having overcome this limitation Jim t...

Jim has a 14 year old house guest.   She has come for the 3rd summer. Jim and she get a long He discusses what he is learning from her as well as mentoring her When he uses a word she doesn't understand he asks her to Google it and screen shot for reuse later in life He tells her he thinks she will do great things Mark says to tell her not to ever do anything because someone says she should Mark t...

Jim starts curious about my idea about ageism as a topic I'm 61 and Jim is 58 70 is the new 50 Mark talks about the lag between having a new trend and when we catch up Mark talks about the logic behind dismissing solely based on age Jim brings up output and Jim casts some doubt about  Mark talks about remote vs productivity, vs context Mark talks about the frailty of youth and the benefits of expe...

  Let's talk law enforcement.   Mark says it must be really difficult to be a cop now Same with politicians Jim brings up the BLM protests and he says it's a tipping point.   Mayors and Governors giving orders for police to stand down Jim says it's weak leadership Mark talks about getting arrested at age 12 - "bumper skiing" Jim talks about crime and the lack of consequences as well as the current...

  Jim starts with resistance is part of life He uses weight lifting as an example The results occur over time with consistency Mark talks about resistances due to ego and that resistance is a sign of progress Everyone has the same issues Jim says it happens early and forever The guys love their sports:) Resistance is physical, emotional, and spiritual Resistance feels bad, but it's good and your r...

Mark starts out with western medicine and frames it from raising kids to present day The guys both believe the system is broken Jim wants to personalize the story…his dad passed before Covid and ht family is grateful he passed able to be with family 2019 Jim talks about his friend who died alone during Covid, who died from a "Covid related" issue He tells a third story about people losing everythi...

Mark's mic was off but the sound is good enough and the content is too good to do it over Mark starts with a great quote from Denzel Washington Jim says the imperfection is the perfection Todays topic is around the idea of giving up or quitting and letting go  Jim talks about quitting as a normal feeling but that actually quitting brings about regret…he'd rather die trying Mark talks about quittin...

This episode starts "mid idea' with Jim sharing where he thinks "it" started What "it" turns out to be is leadership and the division of ideology known as "woke" and "rational":) Mark tells his story about the Russian spy who defected.   How he said on a tv talk show in the 70's that the Russians have been infecting our schools with a socialist/communist The guys cite the Bud Light and Target inci...