IF I MAY BE SO BOLD

Dan and Justin lost their close friend a few weeks ago and talk about what's been coming up around his death. Then they discuss why getting covid (and the state of their relationship) this year feels SO different than last year before rating how much they like each other and name what's been "saving their marriage." Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Who taught YOU how to fight? What happens when we desperately cling to good feelings? Justin and Dan break down why they've struggled to have conflict in past relationships. They also talk subtle abandonment, sneaky denial, and the freedom available when you move away from codependency. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After a false start, we are finally ready to give you Season 4! This season will center around Dan and Justin learning to fight. It's November and Justin is Flyinggg. She recounts a recent rough patch in which she was hating her appearance and struggling with her identity and self-esteem, and what it feels like to be on the other side of that. Then they talk through a recent incident where somethi...

OK kids we're back! Dan and Justin rate how much they like each other at the moment and give some relationship highs and lows from the recent past. Justin shares a new mantra she's been trying out and they explore what it's like to be in a relationship when both partners are in fear. Then Dan share's something that happens to him when he's around "sports guys." Thanks for being here! Hosted on Aca...

Season 4 is here! Dan and Justin are back and getting more real than ever. They discuss the binary of seeking versus acceptance, Justin's Spanish teacher's feelings towards PHANTOM THREAD, the state of the relationship, and Justin wonders if it's safe for her to participate in an exercise program. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We got a shorty for you today. Followed by a singing voice message from Justin's mom, Justin and Dan discuss the ADHD boom/bust cycle, Dan's chaotic nightstand, and then have an honest and at times uncomfortable conversation about something that happened between them while attending a play for Justin's birthday. Anxiety! Autonomy! Parts Work! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informa...

Hey! SO much has happened since last we spoke. Embracing conflict! Moving away from people pleasing behavior! Getting in the arena of life! Get in the water's warm cutie babies. @iimbsb https://www.patreon.com/iimbsb Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ok folks, this is the real sh*t. Justin and Dan get into it about their struggles with avoidance and disconnection in the last several months. How can they find each other when things aren't flowing? Is there a way through the struggle? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ramesh is back! And this time he is in a relationship; we dig into it. He tells Dan what he learned from his long tortured history of falling for unavailable men, and what it's like to experience committed love now that he's found it. Spoiler: it's complicated! Check out "Another Fire," Voxtrot's first new release in 14 years! If you are interested in working with Krish and/or Amana you can find t...

Wow there is SO much going on in Episode 8. Justin and Dan process their respective revelations from the last week. What does it really mean to be cringe? Then they dive into the topic of CONTROL. What did control look like in each of Justin and Dan's families growing up and how is it coming into play in their connection and relationship dysfunction. Then they touch on some of the amazing merits o...

We get the lowdown from our dear friend Maya Vizvary (Office On Violence Against Women at the DOJ) about her experience becoming a mom during deep covid. She tells us how having a kid changed her relationship to herself, her work, and to those close to her. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With wise person Sarah Natsumi Moore, we cover a bunch or irresistible topics. She tells us about attending life-changing Tantra retreats in Brazil, dating after a marriage, the enneagram, and the power and pain of friend breakups. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We interview one of Dan's exes (ahhh!): activist and soon-to-be abolitionist lawyer Jac Lyons. We hear about Dan and Jack's relationship and breakup(s) Then we ask Jack about their journey of identity; coming out, leaving their femme presentation behind, and eventually realizing that they are trans. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Justin shares a huge breakthrough she had at a party last weekend. Dan and Justin explore how childhood wounds are showing up in their relationship and what they believe about them. Then they check in on Season 5 of USA/Peacock's Temptation Island. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s an ADHD party! Dan and Justin welcome midwestern queen and delightful author of Your Brain's Not Broken , Dr. Tamara Rosier to the pod. We talk navigating life, relationships, and emotions with ADHD. Insta:  https://www.instagram.com/dr.tamararosier/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this bonus episode, we tackle some big, juicy themes. After sharing some recent wins and realizations,(1:02) Dan and Justin weigh in and discuss the notorious screenshot texts between Jonah Hill and Sarah Brady (15:04). What do the texts say about Jonah and the power dynamic at play in their relationship? Justin and Dan then each take a crack at what Jonah could've said (35:33) to Sarah to enge...

Justin and Dan check in about Dan's depression and how they are both navigating it within the relationship. Dan and Justin visit (watch on TV) Season 5 of Temptation Island. It's juicy, it's messy, it's BOLD! We hear their thoughts on the setup of the show, the contestants, and the relationship dynamics at play. Dive in, the water's warm. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information...

Our guest Amanda Clegg (@enneagraminrelationship) coaches couples through the lens of The Enneagram of Personality. She tells us how this tool can unlock some amazingly helpful insights and empower couples to understand each other more deeply. Dan and Justin also describe their respective types and some areas of difficulty they have run into recently. FREE ENNEAGRAM QUIZ: Keep in mind that the qui...

Trouble in paradise?! Justin and Dan talk through the latest obstacles their relationship has faced and the struggle to communicate through it all. Other topics covered: Is Celsius a symbol of Pride month? Is it legal to talk about "Nature Vs. Nurture?" Being brought to tears by Shania Twain, and asshole couple behavior. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are checking in as we excitedly await the start of Season 3! Dan and Justin reflect on the challenges of learning to live together and how it feels to grieve the "honeymoon period" of their relationship. They also compare notes on being diagnosed with ADHD in their 30s before Justin speaks on her struggles with adult acne. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's our season finale! This is a very special episode; an oral history of a couple as told by the couple themselves. Michael and Christine were together for 13 years before deciding to part ways 5 years ago. Today we ask them about what brought them together and the roles they each played in the relationship and its eventual unraveling as they now work towards a healthy friendship. Hosted on Acas...

We are joined by the iconic Shirley Braha (of @marniethedog fame) as we hear about her experience coming out as a lesbian in her late 30s. We hear about her first kiss(es), her challenges attending an Orthodox Jewish high school in Brooklyn, and dive into the astrological tensions of Princess Diana and Prince Charles. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Justin describes her transformative evening at the Harry Styles show before she and Dan briefly touch on the concept of "womb envy." After that, they dive back into the "Relationship Advice" Subreddit discussing a 30-something who's suspicious of an interaction she observed between her sister and husband, and an entry involving someone who's distressed over the constant feedback sh...

In this episode we give you the second half of our chat with Hannah Smith (1:40) exploring the implications of Josh Harris's book I KISSED DATING GOODBYE. We hear how Justin and and Hannah have continued to reshape their relationships to sexuality after growing up in repressive Christian communities. In the second half (28:25), Justin and Dan dig into chapter 2 of Esther Perel's MATING IN CAPTIVIT...

In the first half of our two-part discussion, we welcome our friend Hannah Smith: host of the hit true-crime podcast THE OPPORTUNIST. As teens, Justin and Hannah both read the books of Joshua Harris including the best-selling sensation I KISSED DATING GOODBYE. Join us as we unpack the impact this book had on both Justin and Hannah when they first read it. We look at its messaging, context, and Jos...