"I FEEL LOVED WHEN..." The Podcast For People Who Interact With People

  Cosmo & Suzi are taking a little summer sabbatical from the “I Feel Loved When…” podcast. But we'll be back in the fall! Listen to our announcement to hear what we'll be working on during this time...   God bless,  :) cosmo + suzi

What do men want? What do women need? And are these unsolvable riddles? Turns out, peace and safety aren’t just buzzwords—they’re the heartbeat of healthy Christian relationships. In this episode, we dig into a surprising insight: husbands often crave peace, and wives deeply need safety—but both needs grow from the same root… trust. We explore what this looks like practically and spiritually, for&...

Ever find yourself stuck on the question, “But why did they do that?!” Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, we’ve all been there—baffled, hurt, or just plain annoyed by the things people do. This week, we’re unpacking a powerful truth: your healing isn’t tied to getting an answer to “why.” In fact, as much as we want closure or explanations, sometimes the “why” is overrated (and, le...

Ever feel like you’ve done all the right things in your relationship —read the books, learned the skills, aced the communication—but something’s still off? Like, you’ve got the conflict resolution part down pat… but it still feels like something’s missing? Maybe it’s not the mechanics—it’s the heart behind them. This episode dives into a powerful clip from a conversation between Simon Sinek (@simo...

In your relationships, do you create chaos or confusion? In this episode, we dive into a much-needed conversation about real masculinity. Spoiler alert: it’s not about bravado, control, or having something to prove. It's about stability, consistency, and being a safe place—not just physically, but emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. Inspired by a thought-provoking reel from mindfulness edu...

Is your 5-year plan causing a full-blown panic attack… today? In this episode, we dive into the sneaky ways fear of the future (and regret from the past) can steal your peace, your presence, and your trust in God. We'll listen to @julienhimself and why we shouldn't fear the future simply because you've already got a 100% success rate of surviving the present! We take his thoughts and interpre...

Are you asking God for transformation, but hoping it doesn't require your participation?   Have you ever prayed for healing while still clinging to the very thing that's hurting you? It’s like asking God to fix your burnt hand while keeping it in the flame! In this episode, Cosmo and Suzi unpack a powerful quote from Breaking the Patterns That Break You by Tori Hope Petersen: “ We cannot...

Are You Being Manipulated by Guilt? How to Recognize and Resist It Ever had someone try to guilt you into doing something? Maybe it’s the friend who sighs dramatically when you can’t drop everything for them, or the family member who reminds you—again—how much they sacrificed for you. Guilt can be a powerful tool of manipulation, and as Christians, we can be especially vulnerable to it because we...

Why do we think boundaries are about making others behave when they’re actually about our choices? Ever set a boundary only to feel like it didn’t work? Maybe you told someone not to do something, and they did it anyway—so much for boundaries, right? Turns out, a lot of us have been thinking about boundaries all wrong! In this episode, we break down a powerful yet simple truth: a real boundary is...

Ever felt like it’s your full-time job to keep your partner happy? Guess what—it’s not even in your job description! In this episode of the " I Feel Loved When…" Podcast , we break down an Instagram reel from  @buildthepositivity w/ Jef DeWitt that challenges the idea that a healthy relationship is all about happiness. Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or even just navigating friendshi...

If someone had to marry you right now—would they be getting a great deal or a fixer-upper? 😬 Turns out, the secret isn’t in finding the perfect person but in becoming the person you’d want to marry! In this episode, we dive into a powerful (and slightly humbling) truth: the character traits you seek in a partner should be the ones you’re cultivating in yourself. Whether you’re single, dating, eng...

What’s the difference between a toxic person and someone who’s just having a bad day? Let’s clear up the confusion! We’ve all been there—stuck in a fog of confusion, questioning if we’re the problem, or if something deeper is at play. In this episode, we dive into a thought-provoking discussion sparked by Donald Miller’s insights on identifying toxic people. But here’s the real question: how do we...

Ever wonder if something as small as a “Good morning” text could actually change someone’s life? Sounds almost too easy, right? But science—and more importantly, Scripture—tell us that intentional connection can make all the difference in battling loneliness and strengthening relationships. In this episode, we dive into why checking in can be a game-changer for emotional and spiritual well-being....

How long does it take to build transformative connection? 8 minutes! In this episode of the "I Feel Loved When..." podcast, we explore how a tiny window of time can bring profound comfort and connection, even in the busiest of days. Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode will inspire you to rethink how you show up for others—and how you ask for help when you're struggling...

Do you know when to listen, when to help, and when to just make s’mores? How often do we rush to fix, solve, or advise when a friend is hurting? In this episode, we take a heartfelt and humorous look at what it means to truly be present in Christian relationships. Inspired by a poignant Instagram reel from psychotherapist Matthias J. Barker (@matthiasjbarker), we explore how simply showing up—with...

What if at the end of the year, you had a jar filled with evidence of God’s faithfulness? In this episode, Suzi and Cosmo dive into a fun and faith-filled idea we’re calling the Jar of Joy . Spoiler alert: it involves colorful paper, weekly reflections, and a big dose of gratitude. We'll share how this simple practice can help you spot God’s hand in your life and celebrate His blessings, big...

Ever feel like New Year’s resolutions are just promises waiting to be broken?  😅 Us too! In this first episode of 2025, we’re kicking off Season 2 with a look back at the previous year and look ahead to what God has in store for the year to come. Forget the guilt-laden “I’ll do better” lists. Instead, let’s reflect on God’s guidance, explore how to grow spiritually, and seek to deepen our un...

Hi friends and Happy Holidays!  This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, we’re re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first ti...

Hi friends and Happy Holidays!  This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, we’re re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first ti...

Hi friends and Happy Holidays!  This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, we’re re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first ti...

Hi friends and Happy Holidays!  This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, we’re re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the fir...

Hi friends and Happy Holidays!  This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, we’re re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the fir...

Resentment + Bad Decisions = BFFs This week on the "I Feel Loved When..." podcast, we explore the powerful connection between gratitude and decision-making. First, we'll listen to an insightful Instagram reel from Jon Acuff (@jonacuff) where he share's a life-changing quote about gratitude and decision making: "Y ou make the best decisions when you're grateful you make the worst decisions whe...

What is God's will for my life?  This week’s episode dives deep into this so-simple-to-answer question...  We start with a thought-provoking Instagram reel by Mike Donehey (@mikedonehey), lead singer of Tenth Avenue North. Spoiler alert: God’s will might not be about your career path, hobbies, or even your relationship status. Join us as we unpack two transformative B...

Do you long for "normal" in your relationships or do you embrace the quirk?  In this week's episode, we’re wrapping up our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. W e dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples “make it”... Pattern 7: They made light of each other's quirks. They appreciated and acknowledged the quirks in each oth...