Hurt Meets Healer Podcast

Sexual betrayal shatters the sacred covenant of marriage, creating complex decisions about whether to stay or leave after such devastating violations of trust and commitment. We examine seven critical indicators that signal when leaving might be necessary while offering practical guidance for those navigating this painful journey. • Ongoing or unrepentant infidelity makes relationships unsustainab...

Making the difficult decision to leave a relationship is one of life's most challenging crossroads, especially when betrayal, chronic disrespect, or ongoing harmful behaviors are involved. • Seven key indicators that it might be time to consider leaving: persistent harm/abuse, unrepentant behavior without accountability, fundamental incompatibility, stagnation/loss of self, one-sided effort,...

Assumptions can silently erode even the strongest relationships. In this eye-opening continuation of our "Million Dollar Three-Letter Word" series, we dive deep into the personality traits that lead people to assume rather than ask. Have you ever wondered why some people seem hardwired to make assumptions? We reveal eight distinct personality profiles that struggle with asking direct que...

The Ask vs. Assume Dilemma: How Your Communication Style Affects Trust Could your communication style be silently eroding the foundation of your relationships? Dive into the fascinating world of asking versus assuming with us as we explore this deceptively simple yet profound dichotomy that shapes how we connect with others. The fundamental difference between asking and assuming reveals itself in...

Follow-through turns the theory of solving problems into practical reality in relationships, serving as the critical component that transforms intentions into actions and maintains trust. We explore why consistent follow-through demonstrates reliability and respect—two essential elements for any relationship to thrive, especially those recovering from betrayal trauma. • Understanding follow-throug...

The journey from betrayal to healing isn't about quick fixes—it's about deep, transformative solutions that address root causes. In this heartfelt conversation, John and Kim continue their exploration of "solving versus fixing" by presenting six biblical principles that can guide couples through the aftermath of infidelity and betrayal trauma. Through personal anecdotes, biblic...

Perhaps most powerfully, we challenge the notion that broken relationships should be "restored" to their previous state. Instead, we advocate for building something entirely new - a relationship founded on honesty, transparency and authentic connection rather than attempting to recreate what was fundamentally flawed. This episode offers hope through realism - acknowledging the difficulty...

When it comes to healing from betrayal trauma and addiction, are you trying to fix a problem or solve it? There's a profound difference, and it could determine whether your recovery lasts or fails. Fixing applies a temporary patch to immediate symptoms. Like vacuuming only the visible parts of a room while ignoring what's under the furniture, it creates an illusion of completeness when c...

When does a negative thought pattern cross the line from protection to poison? Kim and John Capps tackle the thorny subject of resentment after betrayal, exploring the subtle difference between setting boundaries and harboring bitterness. Drawing from both research and raw personal experience, they break down the eight key factors that transform everyday hurts into hardened resentment: unresolved...

In this reflective episode of Hurt Meets Healer, we dive deep into the challenges and turbulence of repairing relationships impacted by betrayal. By navigating through the intricate, emotional landscapes of sexual addiction and infidelity, we offer insights and encouragement aimed at those in search of healing and understanding. Together, we confront the mess that betrayal creates and explore prac...

What if the journey to healing from sexual addiction and infidelity could unlock deeper, more authentic connections in your life? We explore the heart-wrenching yet transformative process of making amends in relationships shattered by betrayal. Our discussion draws on the expertise of John Gottman, Carol Sheets, and Leslie Vernick to illuminate the vital role of empathy and understanding. We confr...

What are amends? Are amends necessary for repairing a relationship? How do I make amends? John & Kim discuss these questions and more on today's podcast. Quotes & Resources: “Make amends.” Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, Merriam-Webster, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/make%20amends. Accessed 3 Feb. 2025. Hawkins, David. When Loving Him is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Wom...

Kim & John continue the discussion about expectations for how long the healing/recovery journey will take. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com . Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professi...

Kim & John share more of their journey in this very real, very raw episode. At times, as betrayed spouses, we have expectations put on us to "heal faster", "get over it", "forgive & forget". Kim gets real about her experiences with the expectations that were put on her by family, friends, and even John.  Reminder, we are real people, experiencing real emotions...

Kim & John continue telling their story. Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT professionals, just two ordinary humans doing life and trusting God for our healing. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetsheale...

Kim & John's story continues. Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT professionals, just two ordinary humans doing life and trusting God for our healing. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com...

Kim & John continue with their story. Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT professionals, just two ordinary humans doing life and trusting God for our healing. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.c...

Kim & John continue with their story and John shares more of his story. Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT professionals, just two ordinary humans doing life and trusting God for our healing. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we...

Kim unpacks a word that, when not used, causes distress and anger. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com . Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host...

Kim continues with her story. Joining her today is her husband John. Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT professionals, just two ordinary humans doing life and trusting God for our healing. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer,...

Kim continues sharing her story. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com . Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly thei...

Welcome to the Hurt Meets Healer Podcast. In this introductory episode, I share the beginnings of my story. This is part 1 of a 3 part series.  Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com . Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be consi...