Human Becoming

Send us Fan Mail We are in the apocalypse. It is not a far off destination, something that we have the luxury to put off thinking about/feeling into/engaging with. AND What if apocalypse is not what we think it is - what if apocalypse is generative (or could be) - what if apocalypse is the necessary dark night of the soul that humanity must go through in service to the evolution of our consciousne...

Send us Fan Mail I am a love bomber. A narcissist. A gaslighter. A ghoster. A breadcrumber. In this episode, we discuss these overused terms and how they can be used to invoke the drama triangle (a model created by Stephen Karpman that needs a victim, perpetrator, and bystander in order to create exquisite drama), and how that can lead to a static, boring terrain that is no fun to date in. This ep...

Send us Fan Mail In this two-part episode, I navigate the complex terrain that men find themselves walking in 2023.  I talk about the ways that the patriarchy robs men of the opportunity to know themselves deeply and to be known, to embrace all sides of themselves - their emotions, their vulnerabilities, their fears, and their humanity.  I talk specifically about the ways that this has impacted my...

Send us Fan Mail In this two-part episode, I navigate the complex terrain that men find themselves walking in 2023.  I talk about the ways that the patriarchy robs men of the opportunity to know themselves deeply and to be known, to embrace all sides of themselves - their emotions, their vulnerabilities, their fears, and their humanity.  I talk specifically about the ways that this has impacted my...

Send us Fan Mail What’s death to a bunch of immortal beings? Human becoming has died, human becoming has risen, human becoming will cum (many times, hopefully) again! All good death stories lead to resurrection. All good resurrection stories begin with death. We don’t know much time we have (because, in truth, none of us do!) But with the time we have… we’d like to spend it with you, dear listener...

Send us Fan Mail Can we love patriarchal men? Can we do the work of love - bell hooks style - with men who are unconsciously upholding the patriarchy? Once, I would have thought this question deserved an obvious “no”. But through loving patriarchal men, I realise the truth is a little bit more complex (and heartbreaking). This is an episode for anyone, who has (in any capacity), desires to do the...

Send us Fan Mail we have come to the end of the road. this is the last episode of human becoming. it is a snotty, teary, deeply emotional one.  it is a poetic reflection on all the paths we have walked together, the terrain we have covered, the beauty and suffering we have seen, and all the hopes and wishes I carry in my heart for you (and the whole of humanity). it has been a gift and a privilege...

Send us Fan Mail welcome to the last episode of season four of human becoming.  this episode is a kind of recap of the previous four seasons and the journey that we've gone on together.  it is the last episode of 2022 (at least, it was recorded in 2022). and it is an invocation of change, as we move into the fifth season of the podcast and the mysteries that it holds. blessed 2023, sweet magi...

Send us Fan Mail ever get tired of bandaid solutions?  watching humans living under capitalism is like watching someone slowly get stabbed and putting little bandaids over the wounds. at a point you just want to scream: "HOW ABOUT WE STOP THIS GUY FROM GETTING CUT?!" but changing the systems and structures that allow for this constant cutting is not enough if we don't transform the...

Send us Fan Mail this episode is all about love. it is about readiness, and how I yearn for a love that is ready to meet me on the bridge (listen on if you want to understand what that means!). may this episode find you when you are ready to receive it.

Send us Fan Mail Love's ending is painful. Whether it's a friendship, a romantic relationship, a familial tie - and whether love ends through a physical or spiritual/psychological/energetic death, it's fucking painful.  We don't have a lot of rituals and ceremonies in this society to honour the ending of Love - to honour our grief, our sadness, our pain, our anger, our confusio...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is all about feeling like a failure. I feel like a failure very often, despite how much or how little I judge myself as doing, and I've come to realize that this is just another annoying side effect of growing up under capitalism. Oh well. In this episode, I speak about how I relate to this voice in my head, how it shows up NO MATTER what, and how ultimately I th...

Send us Fan Mail I procrastinated SO much around the creation and uploading of this episode (very fitting, given the subject matter) but here it is. Sometimes, I don't want to show up for my practices (my spiritual practices, my creative artistic practices, my self-care practices). We become what we practice, and we are always practicing SOMETHING. In this episode, I speak about what it'...

Send us Fan Mail Desire is God's way of communicating their will for us. In this episode, I speak about what that means, wax lyrical about the divinity of our desires and name the systems of oppression that actively benefit from and DEVOTE energy towards removing us from our desires. Desire brings (r)evolution, desire brings change, and if we want to change the conditions of our lives and our...

Send us Fan Mail Hi, cutie! Human Becoming turns two and we're celebrating by speaking about my love of Jesus, how much my life has changed in the past few years, my love of suffering/contrast and all that is possible for us as human beings. Enjoy!

Send us Fan Mail I'm grieving. In this episode, I open my heart and my mouth to share some of that grief with you. I speak about my most recent breakup, how fucking HARD and infuriating it is to love men under the conditions of patriarchy, and the deep importance of all of us committing to the work of love at this moment in earth's history.

Send us Fan Mail This episode is a WILD ride. I come in hot and angry, allowing my rage to move through me and feeling the medicine/wisdom/teaching that this rage has to offer. I speak about the dual wave-particle nature of atomic particles, the feminine path of consciousness and what it looks like to think about the energetic masculine and feminine in a de-gendered framework. These are some of th...

Send us Fan Mail Join me in my existential musings on WHY THE FUCK we are even in relationships with other human beings (and also my vision for how we can navigate connection and intimacy and a new culture of relationships that moves us more deeply into love).

Send us Fan Mail Money is cool... and weird. I opened the doors of my business this January and since then I have received a LOT more money than I was expecting or thought possible. In this episode, I talk about where that has been hard, confronting, and joyful, and what having access to this money has allowed me to create and experience. I received all of this money through the use of magic - and...

Send us Fan Mail Hi there, dear human becoming. I've been out and about and down and up and feeling all the things and questioning all the things and experiencing all the things - this is a little update on some of the beautiful chaos that I, Tumi, am moving through in this moment. 

Send us Fan Mail Breakups are hard. Grief is hard. In the last month, I've had a friendship that I thought would last forever and a partnership that I hoped would last forever come to an end. Moving through this grief has been deeply humbling and opening and painful - and this episode is about how I've been moving through this process, what it's been teaching me and revealing to me...

Send us Fan Mail Ever find yourself wanting to offer something to the world and feeling like you can't because it has to be perfect? Because you need to know more? Because (insert little detail) isn't correct, or just as you'd like it? I love playing this little game with myself where I convince myself that I only get to show up, and offer myself (and my art, and my work) to the wor...

Send us Fan Mail Money is not a bad word. But in the spiritual/activist community - it can feel like one! If you're someone who cares about the transformation of human consciousness so that we can create a more free, loving, and caring world (where we all get to be the geniuses that we are and offer our unique brilliance to the collective) - and sometimes you feel stuck around the money piece...

Send us Fan Mail What would it look like to live a life where you put pleasure first? Where you trust your turn on to lead you to the places that you want to go? This week's episode is all about leadership (and why we might not consider ourselves leaders/shy away from that language), what it means to step into self-leadership, and the leadership that this new age is asking us to step into. I...

Send us Fan Mail Hi! I'm Tumi. This is a little episode about me, the human behind human becoming, the medicine that I bring to the world, and what the last three years (since the inciting incident! - listen to the first-ever episode of the podcast if you're curious about what I'm talking about) have taught me about healing and what it means to be in human-recovery from our current...