How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

This week we’re taking on the biggest question of the separation: should I stay or should I go? To help, we welcome Kate Anthony, host of the New York Times recommended podcast, The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, and certified coach with over a decade’s worth of experience helping women make this decision for themselves. The process can be messy, but Kate has a few key questions that help us make...

Our guest today is Linda Murphy, founder of the Relationship and Divorce Counseling Center where she and her colleagues work to help others through difficult relationship transitions. Sometimes, that means coaching through the divorce process. But sometimes, it means catching the relationship before divorce becomes the destination. When should you start counseling? What signs are you watching that...

Ninety percent of divorce conflict can be resolved through dialog and negotiation. But what about that last ten percent? In these situations you might find yourself interacting with partners that have moved from the frustration and grief natural in the divorce process and into what we have come to call high conflict behavior .Our guest today is Megan Hunter, co-founder of the High Conflict Institu...

Gabrielle Hartley is a nationally-recognized divorce attorney, online mediator and divorce strategy coach with a strong focus on conflict resolution. She is the author of Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate and she joins us today to share how she brings mindfulness to the divorce process. No, Gabrielle doesn't lead her clients through a yoga practice in the mediation process. But...

It's easy to get stuck looking out when you're navigating the divorce process. You're focused on your kids, your soon-to-be former spouse, support teams helping you move, divide finances, and generally get your life in order. When it feels like your grip on your world is most tenuous, when you're facing a period of great stress, this is the time to stop, take stock, and reflect. This week on the s...

Randall Kessler founded the law firm now known as Kessler & Solomiany, LLC in 1991. Today, the Atlanta-based firm sports 30 attorneys and staff and in the course of their family law practice, they've represented some of the highest profile clients in the country; athletes, TV and film personalities, judges, politicians, and industrialists. As such, Kessler has a unique perspective on the divor...

The healthy post-divorce is a perennial favorite around these parts. But what happens when the divorce process is not so peaceful? We’re talking about exchanges of power in the divorce process. Subversive or passive aggressive texts, emails, and calls. Secrets about money and property. Fights. They all lead to a more combative and complicated divorce, and may lead to questions of safety. What can...

Heart? Swipe? Like? When it's time to get back into the sea after your divorce, how do you know where to find the right fish? This week on the show, divorce lawyer Seth Nelson shares his experience and insight into getting yourself back out there. First, the tech. There are many, many apps to help you get connected and learning to use them isn’t just a nice skill, it’s a requirement. How do you ha...

Tami Sbar is a leading divorce mediator in Tampa, Florida, but she took a roundabout journey through the law to get there. She started her legal career as an Assistant State Attorney, working in both the domestic violence and the sex crimes divisions, in addition to felony court. She has her badge to prove it. After experiencing her own divorce, she became interested in the practice of family law,...

Our guests today have worked hard to craft a loving and tight-knit family. Their effort to create that family has only intensified since their divorce in 2007. In an effort to help others see what’s possible, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo created “Our Happy Divorce,” a book, channel, and community dedicated to building a healthy, happy, post-divorce modern family. This week on the show, Ben and...

The pandemic has been hard. On everyone . But one surprising silver lining: enterprising mediators have made the process easier, faster, and cheaper in many cases as a result of moving online. Sure, it might be just another Zoom meeting you have to sit through for hours. But it's a Zoom meeting from the comfort of your home. And strategic mediators are learning new skills they're using to manage o...

According to our guests today, late-in-life divorcées represent an unserved population. The complexities that come with navigating the divorce process, from adapting to a legal and financial system to communicating with the myriad relationships in and outside the family. How will you split a lifetime of assets? And most important to authors Carol Hughes and Bruce Fredenburg, how will you help your...

When one of us suffers, we all suffer. So says our guest, Rachael Jaye. Jaye is a certified Connection Coach and today she’s going to talk to us about her work helping to rehabilitate intimacy lost in separation. So, exactly what is a Connection Coach, and why might you need one? When we move through divorce, when trust is tested or broken, we might experience a loss of our ability exist in the sp...

Divorce, by definition, is damaging. Taking apart a relationship impacts us far beyond the law. Today on the show, clinical psychologist Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins us to talk about how the stresses of divorce can sneak up on us in ways we might not expect. In addition to her practice, she’s the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism that Masks Your Depre...

Are you ready to stage your Epic Comeback? Then it’s time for you to meet Nikki Bruno, divorce coach.“Get over your divorce before your divorce is over.” So says divorce coach Nikki Bruno in one of the programs she offers, guiding participants through the divorce process with a coach’s attention. And as a coach, she is dedicated to the internal work, the processing required to move through the gri...

A journey that started with divorce led home designer Michael Daniels to a career change, a long escalator, and a drive to reduce conflict for everyone facing the challenge of co-parenting. Today he joins us in the Toaster to tell us all about the fruits of his work: Fayr.“Family Advocacy is Your Responsibility” — or Fayr — is an app dedicated to making the experience of co-parenting better throug...

We've talked to a string of guests, all specialists in some aspect of the divorce process supporting the legal process itself. And beyond the legal process, we’ve covered mental and emotional health support, how to protect your kids in the divorce process, how to redecorate, and even how to figure out who gets the family dog. This week, we’re finally talking to someone for whom all this matters mo...

Following up on last week’s conversation about dividing personal property, we realized that pets are considered property too. But you can’t actually split them, so what do you do? Turns out, that’s what the Pet Custody Expert is for. We invite Karis Nafte to the Toaster, a dog trainer and animal specialist who is also an internationally accredited family mediator who helps people figure out what F...

You have split your schedule. You’ve untangled custody. You feel like you’re on top of the thousand tiny decisions that face you during your divorce process. And still, you stare down the bear: how do you split your stuff? It’s not easy. It’s emotional and exhausting. And it asks much of you in the form of patience and compromise. This week on the show, Seth shares strategies for approaching your...

From deep in the files labeled, “people you didn’t know you needed in your corner during your divorce,” we bring you the Guardian ad Litem. We welcome Courtney Bowes to the Toaster, a Guardian ad Litem who works with children to ensure their voices don’t get lost in an otherwise noisy process. Courtney has practiced family law exclusively since graduating from the University of Florida Levin Colle...

Rhonda Noordyk is the host of the Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast and CEO of the Women’s Financial Wellness Center. In her work, she helps women ask tough questions so that they get the answers that they need to navigate the divorce process. This week on the Toaster, Rhonda shares her insights on financial awareness in the marriage and why it is so important to a healthy communication prac...

Brian Ronalds is an actor turned writer/producer/director and is half of “The Ronalds Brothers." You can see Brian in the horror-comedy, Netherbeast Incorporated, directed by his brother, Dean, and in many other credits that do NOT include why he’s with us in the Toaster today. Brian joins us as the author of a series of books designed to guide you through your marriage assuming that you don’t act...

It’s time to cross wires! This week on the show, Pete and Seth bring Andy Nelson of The Next Reel Film Podcast to talk about their favorite experiences of the law in film. Part of CrossTalk from TruStory FM. The Next Reel Film Podcasts have been covering film and popular culture since 2011, dissecting movies in obsessive detail. They've even covered legal movies, but only as ignoramuses in the aud...

Your divorce is a mystery. From the day you decide to pursue it to the day you and your former spouse sign on the dotted line and go your separate ways, it is a process that is unique to you and your specific situation. What’s more, it is as much a mystery to your attorney as it is to you. Discovery and mediation reveal the specific characteristics that make up your divorce, much like the pieces o...

You might find yourself asking, “when will I get to the other side?” Divorce is long, but it’s a process. And processes absolutely come to an end. As hard as it is while you’re in it, as foggy as the end might seem, it’s out there. Along the way, you’ll come face to face with a lot of feelings. But they’re not your feelings. And that can get confusing. Parents may get mad about the divorce. Grandp...