How To Make Love™

We all perform. We've all been socialized to perform. And: none of us are truly free in a performance. Today's episode will take you into the what, why, how of performance and assimilation, and leave you with reflection questions for your healing and UNperforming. New Feature Alert! Transcripts!  We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a  new website , too)! Now you can downloa...

The path of healing is paved in UNlearning. In today's episode, we'll hear examples of what there may be to UNlearn and how that UNlearning has played out in our guest's life. Featuring the incredible storyteller and doula Chrystal Toop , we take a journey survivalism, enoughness, wholeness, and healing. All through the lens of what there is for each of us – for  all of us – to UNlearn. New Featur...

There is  bracing . And there is  breaking . In today's episode, learn why the latter is so essential to healing, to liberation, and to creation. Featuring the amazing liminalist  Oceana Sawyer , this is a conversation about what we gain when we "lose" (control, fear, conditioning…), and what can be received only when we truly open. New Feature Alert! Transcripts!  We've added episode transcripts...

What's the thing that: a) humans do constantly, b) shapes our life in resounding ways, and c) we're never taught how to do? –– think . Our thoughts can be assets or liabilities in our life, and laura shares 5 tips in this episode to help all of us think a little better. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too)! Now you can dow...

What––for you––is the single most essential skill or tool right now in your practice of justice?––love?––courage? That's the question the podcast will invite a whole new suit of guests to share and explore in the coming new year. laura kicks us off with her own reflections to the question, and her answers may surprise you. New Feature Alert! Transcripts!  We've added episode transcripts to our web...

When we learn to think of consent as a way of being and a practice in ALL domains of our life, we expand the work of justice, liberation, and love. Join laura for a discussion about why we should think about embodying consent across all our life, how to deepen our practice of consent when making requests of others, and how to deepen our embodiment of consent when saying yes/no/maybe. We'll also ta...

Sometimes called 'scarcity thinking,' laura breaks down and reframes the notion of scarcity – what is is, where it comes from, and how to heal it. Tune in for concrete suggestions, reflection questions, and tools for healing scarcity all through a lens of equity. While this episode is designed for individuals, it's also applicaple to teams and organizations struggling with scarcity orientation. Ne...

Join laura for a conversation about how we make ease and how we erode ease in our personal relationships. Plus, we'll look  at some common culprits (personal responsibility, thoughts, and feelings) that can create generate an unhealthy sense of urgency and chip away at ease. That and much more! New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download writ...

Purpose can be a guiding light. It can also be a dark shadow. But we rarely talk about the latter. We explore that conversation in this episode.

We can value freedom. We can treat it as an outcome. Or. And: we can train in making it our  way of BEing. Resources from the podcast: Read  My Grandmother's Hands , by Resma Menakem. Send laura a question from the episode . Love  How To Make Love ? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ Link to become a patreon.

No part of you is bad. And also: some of your bits likely create harm in the world. Find out why, how, and what to do about it. Send laura a question from the episode . Love  How To Make Love ? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ Link to become a patreon.

😮 Since we all judge other people, let's be sure we understand the whats, whys, and hows of it. Especially the hows that connect us to oppressive ways of being in the world so that we can operate – and judge – with more critical consciousness, more compassion, and less harm. Episode Resources: Send laura a question from the episode . Link to become a patreon. Love  How To Make Love ? Return the l...

Most of us consider selfishness a bad thing...but what if that's an oppressive lie? Episode Resources: Link to become a patreon ! Reflection Questions: How do/have you used the word selfish against other people? How has the word selfish been used against you? How do/have you used the word selfish against yourself? How do you want to (re)define  selfish ?   Love  How To Make Love ? Return the love...

laura tackles a listener question from episode 82: "How can you personally tell the difference between feeling an emotion and inflaming an emotion?"   Do you have questions from any of the episodes? Let laura know here: https://www.speakpipe.com/laurabrewer  

High expectations can be helpful -- and they can create harm. For ourselves, and for others. How do we know the difference? What can be done to mitigate the harm? All in today's episode.    Love  How To Make Love ? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove     Access the show notes page here: www.l...

Let's talk about the importance of feeling emotional pain and "negative" emotion in both our lives and in the work of justice. In this episode, you'll learn ways to feel sh*tty -- better .    Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode82   Love  How To Make Love ? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www....

Join host laura as we dig into the whats, whys, and hows of aliveness. What prevents us from being and feeling alive? What helps us be and feel alive?    Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode81   Questions from the episode for reflection: What does aliveness mean to you? What do you need to be more alive in and for your own life? What would you like the point of your life t...

Access the show notes page here: www.laurabrewer.love/episode80   Love  How To Make Love ? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ https://www.patreon.com/howtomakelove   If you'd like to work with Laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of gentleness ,   you can do that here .

Thank you times a million. I'll see you for episode 80 in the new year.  love. laura

Do you have your own back? Would you like to?    If you'd like to explore working with laura to build a radical practice of self compassion ,   you can do that here .   You can find the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode79   Love  How To Make Love ? You can return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️   https://www.patreon.com/...

We've all heard of 'intent vs. impact' -- but how are 'intensity' and 'impact' related? And does our intensity produce the impact we mean to have?   If you'd like to explore working with laura to change your life's impact or your life's intensity ,   you can do that here .   You can find the show notes page: www.laurabrewer.love/episode78   Love  How To Make Love ? You can return the love by writi...

It's another listener love pick!--a listener-selected replay episode while we take a short October hiatus.    Join guest adrienne maree brown for a conversation about learning to make pleasure, science fiction, and freedom. And how they're all tied together. adrienne is a writer, social justice facilitator, pleasure activist, healer and doula living in North Carolina. She is also the cohost of the...

It's the first ever listening love pick!--a listener selected replay episode while we take a short October hiatus.  Join former guest Yolonda Coles Jones and her partner Will Jones  for a frank discussion about making partnership, freedom, intimacy, conscious parenting, and raising free children. Will and Yolonda are both entrepreneurs, home-based educators, and the curators of The Real Life Jones...

In today's episode, we will: Look at the inherent challenges and limitations with focusing on being not depleted ; Understand why a focus on being well-resourced is more liberatory; Hear some real-talk: you are the only real resource you ever truly have.  Learn juicier, more empowered, more creative questions to ask yourself to create well-being.   If you'd like to explore working with laura to cr...

In today's episode, we will: Define courage -- unconventionally. And as a verb. Identify opportunities and obstacles to practicing courage. Hear a vulnerable example of struggling to courage and then enacting  courage in the midst of fear. Be invited to a practice-challenge: 100 days of courage. If you'd like to learn more about laura's 100 days of courage program, you can do that here .   You can...