Kay Xander Mellish

How to Live in Denmark

Society EN ↓ 150 episodes

Quick takes on life in Denmark, in 10 minutes or less. Life as an international in Denmark, one of the world's most homogenous countries, isn't always easy. In Denmark's longest-running English-language podcast, Kay Xander Mellish, an American who has lived in Denmark for more than a decade, offers tips for enjoying your time in "the world's happiest country" plus insights on Danish culture and Danish working culture. Whether you're living in Denmark, thinking about moving to Denmark, or interested in a job in Denmark and want to understand Danish business culture, this podcast will offer insi...

Author

Kay Xander Mellish

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Society

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howtoliveindenmark.com

Latest episode

Jun 24, 2026

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Episodes

Saving money in Denmark: How to get around for less 26.04.2021

No matter what the tourist brochures suggest, you probably won't go *everywhere* on a bike in Denmark. And along with food and housing, getting around is a big part of the cost of living in Denmark. Here are a few tips to save money on trains, buses, cars, and even bike maintenance.

Saving money on food in Denmark 24.03.2021

Anyone who has spent time living in Denmark knows that it's one of the most expensive countries around. That's true when it comes to food shopping, too. One Dane who had lived in the US explained it this way: "In Denmark, every supermarket is priced like Whole Foods." For those of you who haven't visited the States, Whole Foods is a high-end grocery chain nicknamed "Whole Wallet" or "Whole Paychec...

Books about Denmark from the second hand store 27.02.2021

I love old books. I love the kind of old books you get at antique bookstores or on the Internet Archive. And I have a good collection of old books about Denmark. I like old travel guides, most of which are still pretty useful because Denmark doesn't tear a lot of things down the way they do, in say, Los Angeles or Hong Kong. In Denmark you'll pretty much fine most castles and monuments right where...

Practical tips for moving to Denmark 21.02.2021

While I'm not an authority on the Danish visa or immigration systems, I'm often asked for practical tips about moving to Denmark. So here are a few things to think about when you're packing your suitcases or, if you're doing a corporate move, packing your shipping container. Number one, make sure you bring money. Denmark is an expensive place to live where you will own less stuff, but better stuff...

Gender equality in Denmark 13.02.2021

Denmark has had two female prime ministers and about forty percent of the people elected to the Folketing , the Danish Parliament, are women.   But when it comes to private industry, Danish women have one of the lowest participation rates in management in Europe. According to the OECD , only 26.5% of managers in Denmark are female, compared to 39.8% in the US. It's not unusual to see a senior mana...

Danish beaches in winter 10.02.2021

It might seem like a counterintuitive time to talk about beaches, in the middle of a long, very cold winter. But in these times of COVID, beaches are one of the few places in Denmark you are currently allowed to meet up with family and friends. Beaches, parks, frozen-over lakes: these are the big social meeting points at time when cafés, restaurants, bars, shops, gyms, schools, theaters, museums,...

Driving in Denmark 06.02.2021

I like to drive. I like to be on the open road, like in the American Southwest - Arizona, Nevada, Utah. Put your pedal to the metal, no one in front of you, no one in the rear view mirror. Just you and the road. You will not get that experience much in Denmark, a small country with a lot of people packed into a small area. There's not a lot of open land here, not much living off the grid. Which do...

Dining in Denmark: From crispy fried pork to flower juice with champagne 30.01.2021

When visiting Denmark, you'll be offered Danish food, and expressing enthusiasm for it will go a long way towards generating harmony with your Danish friends. The good news is, Danish cuisine offers something for everyone.  If you're a carnivore, don't miss the Danish pork dishes, particularly "flæskesteg". That's a crispy, fatty fried pork that's the official national food. For people who prefer...

Denmark and the Coronavirus Summer 13.07.2020

It's a funny kind of summer this year in Copenhagen, quieter than usual, and more like a family event than a cosmopolitan city. Coronavirus came early to Denmark, the borders were shut down early, but they're mostly open now to other Europeans. But the change came too late for many people to make summer vacation plans, so many of the usual tourist attractions are slightly forlorn.  There are a few...

Animals and Denmark: Swans, pigs, and horses 08.05.2020

Among the many cultural questions I ask audiences during my  How to Live in Denmark Game Show  is  "Which animal represents Denmark best?" ? There never seems to be an obvious or generally agreed-upon answer. Sure, the bear represents Russia, the elephant Thailand, and the bald eagle the United States. But what about Denmark? Denmark does have a national animal – the mute swan ( Cygnus olor ) – bu...

The Danish Alcohol Culture 17.03.2020

Alcohol has a long history in Denmark. The Vikings brewed four types of beverages: ale, mead, fruit wine, and syra, a fermented milk – and for many centuries Danish babies have eaten øllebrød, which is a mix of old bread scraps and beer. Fast forward a few centuries, and alcohol is still part of almost every Danish gathering. Early in 2020, the EU Commission reported that Denmark placed an unhappy...

Debt in Denmark 22.01.2020

January, February, and March are some of the dreariest months in Denmark – it's dark, with no Christmas lights to pep it up – and many people are dealing with a heavy load of year-end debt from traveling, parties, dining out, and gifts. Along with religion, personal finance is a topic that is rarely discussed in Denmark. But the country has one of the highest rates of household debt in the world. ...

Making Danish friends: A few tips based on experience 01.12.2019

If you're newly arrived in Denmark, making Danish friends is not easy – in fact, surveys show that one of the main reasons internationals end up leaving is the difficulty of building a network. The irony is that Danes are actually very good at friendship. Their friendships are strong, reliable, and deep-rooted. Friends can count on each other. But because Danes take friendships so seriously, they...

Nudity in Denmark: The naked truth 02.11.2019

The relaxed approach to nudity in Denmark can be a surprise for many newcomers. It's something they're often confronted with at the local swimming hall, where a very large and strong attendant insists that they take off their  entire swimsuit  and shower thoroughly before going into the pool. Stripping off in front of strangers is new for a lot of internationals, and some try to place it a larger...

Politeness in Denmark: Some thoughts on Danish etiquette 12.10.2019

"Is there politeness in Denmark?"  That was the question I was recently invited on a national TV show to discuss. The implication was that I was supposed to say that Danes were not at all polite, because effusive praise and cheerful agreement make for a rather dull TV show. But Danes are not impolite. They have their own version of courteous behaviour, which is based on reinforcing aspects of thei...

What I say when I'm welcoming newcomers to Denmark 01.09.2019

One of my favorite types of speaking engagement is introducing Denmark to some of the smart, motivated young people arriving from around the world to study at Danish universities. Since the publication of my first book, How to Live in Denmark, I've been speaking regularly to audiences of new arrivals, and I probably learn as much from them as they learn from me. Among the things I've learned is th...

Summer Vacation in Denmark: The Agony and the Ecstasy 02.07.2019

Planning your summer vacation in Denmark is like playing the lottery. You could hit it lucky, with golden days and long, warm evenings, when you can sit with friends in the soft light and drink  hyldeblomst  cocktails. Or you could get grey day after grey day, interspersed with a little rain whenever it is least convenient. The weather could be chilly, leaving your cute new summer clothes to sit d...

April Fool's in Denmark, and the rough game of Danish humor 31.03.2019

April 1st is April Fool's Day –  Aprilsnar  in Danish – and each Danish newspaper will feature a clever but false story for the unwary to be fooled by. To some extent every day is April Fool's Day in Denmark, because Danish humor is a rough humor. Danes show affection by making fun of each other. And, as an international, they might make fun of you too. This is a good thing: that means they have a...

Motivating Danish employees: Tips for Foreign Managers 03.03.2019

Motivating Danish employees is very different than motivating other groups of people because there are two big factors missing – hierarchy and fear.  We don't like to talk about the fear part in our various countries of origin, but the fact is true that in the US, UK, China, India, and in parts of Europe, someone who loses their job can be in a lot of trouble. They may have trouble paying their bi...

The sound of Denmark? Quiet. Very quiet 07.02.2019

Denmark is a quiet country, even within the cities. Especially this time of year, February, when it's too cold to do anything but scurry from place to place, when the street cafés are closed and no one wants to eat their lunch in the park. The Danes are hibernating in their homes until the spring. And especially when a blanket of snow covers the cities and countryside. Then everything around you w...

Tips for Living with a Danish Family 09.01.2019

As the new academic semester starts up, some of you may be planning to live in a Danish home. It could be you'll rent a room in a household, maybe you'll be part of a Danish host family, or maybe you'll just be staying with Danish friends. I thought it might be useful to have some tips on living with a Danish family. First of all, if you're used to having your parents or domestic workers do most o...

Alone for the holidays: What to do for Christmas in Denmark when you're on your own 15.12.2018

Being alone for Christmas in Denmark can be tough – one of the downsides of Danish "hygge" is that people who are not inside the "hygge" circle can feel shut out and very alone. Here are our tips for having a good holiday anyway.

Christmas gift giving in Denmark: Package games, Almond Gifts, and Why It's OK to Exchange Whatever You Get 02.12.2018

Like so many other aspects of life in Denmark, gift giving in the holiday season comes with dozens of unwritten rules and unspoken expectations. Should you give a gift to your boss? What about your colleagues? Will you and your Danish friends exchange gifts? And why does almost every store in Denmark ask if you want a "gift sticker" when you buy something? Here are a few basic tips about gift givi...

Autumn in Denmark: The slow fading of the light 21.09.2018

Autumn in Denmark actually starts in mid-August, when the kids go back to school. Danish kids have a very short holiday – usually only about 6 weeks. By late August, you can definitely feel a little fall crispness in the air. By September the leaves start to turn color, and by the end of October many of the trees are already bare for the winter. But what really defines fall in Denmark is the slow...

The story behind the How to Live in Denmark Podcast: Fifth anniversary episode 31.08.2018

This is a special episode, because this is the fifth anniversary of the How to Live in Denmark podcast. The podcast began in the summer of 2013; at the time I'm recording this, it is near the end of Summer 2018. We've had more than 80 episodes and around a million streams and downloads. Most importantly, I've received a lot of messages from people like you saying that the podcast and the books tha...

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