How to Glow: The Jewish Woman's Marriage Boost

[The Newlywed Mastermind is open for registration for the March cohort! What in the WORLD are you waiting for?! www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching ] Who says coaching has to be complicated? In this week's episode, I'm sharing a quick tip for building more positivity, commitment, and love in your relationship... and you can do the entire thing yourself. Working on your marriage isn't always about th...

Hey friends! This one was a re-record thanks to technical difficulties but I think take two turned out even better for you!  This week I'm talking about what you want. No, not the simple fluffy "I feel like a VANILLA latte" type of wanting, but what you REALLY want, what lights you up--and what to do if you don't even remember. But we're also going to take it another level deeper and learn a...

This week we're talking about what the "dream" is in your marriage -- and why you might already be living it without even realizing it. Also, I ramble a lot.  ...and use the phrase "pea in a cup" EXTENSIVELY -- but it's not like the kind at the doctor. Ennnnjoy! More stuff: www.firstyearmarried.com Mastermind (because obvs): www.firstyearmarried.com/coaching

What struggles are you dealing with that could actually be a non-issue? How do we find the mental obstacles we've created? When you set a compelling goal, your brain has a heyday. Lucky us, right? But what's awesome about that is it gives you a chance to see WHAT your brain has been offering you all the time. (It just gets louder.)  So this week I'm taking you on a mini coaching session (work...

This week I'm addressing a really common situation I've heard from a surprising number of you! Dealing with EXTRA in-law time when your family is far away and you can't see them due to COVID. BUT even if that's not your highly-specific scenario, I want you to know that I'm also teaching a new tool that you will DEFINITELY want to use in your self-coaching! So don't miss this one. By the way, make...

Your feedback on part 1 was awesome and here's the second installment. This week you'll hear all about how we've used self-coaching tools to improve our marriage and deal with challenges that have come our way.  More from Kayla at www.firstyearmarried.com (make sure you're subscribed to the email list!) Learn more about the self-coaching model by Brooke Castillo that we reference in the episo...

In honor of our 100th episode (WHAATTTTT!!!), The Husband (AKA Noah) is interviewing me this week. 99 episodes of editing this podcast has given him a lot of ideas of what he'd LIKE to hear me talk about! In the first half of this interview, we discuss newlywed cooking meltdowns, a devastating loss during shana rishona, the challenge of aliya, and how our marriage has transformed over the years.&n...

As we wrap up 2020 I wanted to share a simple tool that can have a profound impact on how you experience your marriage: the Marriage Check-In. Now, there are ways in which just generally thinking about our marriages can actually lead us unintentionally into negativity and worry. A structured process allows us to guide our brains to help us to think creatively and proactively so we find answers tha...

Wife, mom of five, and... Olympic marathon candidate?!  Beatie is going to blow your mind with her story about how she took up running to get herself back to being active and ended up as a professional runner for Israel and a candidate for the Tokyo Olympics. Not only is her journey incredible, but she speaks from such a real place about the struggle of taking care of yourself, especially whi...

(Heads up: I'm calling this one a #Jewsode because it is PARTICULARLY specific to the religious Jewish world. All are welcome to listen and apply as you like, of course, but since the content is inherently about Jewish life, this episode may be less generally applicable than usual.) I've had several requests, especially during COVID, to talk about husbands who are skipping minyan (prayers), not go...

On the two year anniversary of my "diaversary" - the date of my type 1 diabetes diagnosis - I wanted to talk about how we use thought work when we can't improve a situation. We focus a lot on what we can change--SO MUCH more is in our power than we realize. But sometimes it's not in our control. What do we do with that?  www.firstyearmarried.com

Don't miss Part 2 of my interview with Alison Armstrong! Here are a few gems she shares: Your husband ACCEPTS YOU FULLY (and what that actually mean) Your husband manages his energy and motivation differently than you do. How men change throughout their development, and how we change, too (but differently) How to communicate with your husband so that he'll WANT to help LEARN MORE: Alison Armstrong...

WHOOPEE! One of my absolute favorite humans, teachers, thought leaders, the marvelous Alison Armstrong, is back on the podcast this week!!  We talked about what newlyweds come up against--the frustrations and struggles--and how they reappear at each stage along the line. Mainly, you'll learn about expectations: how they change when we get married (for ourselves and for our partners) and how w...

Hi friends! I wasn't planning to post my Zoom conversation with Ilana last week onto the podcast, but it was just so darn good that I had to! Enjoy the inspiration from Ilana Kendal who will teach you on this episode about how to use storytelling to channel personal growth, plus you'll get a peek into our very first FYM book club book. It's fun, we had fun, and I'm excited to share it with you.&nb...

In this episode I'm sharing my somewhat unusual take on new year's resolutions. Whether you celebrate now or in January (or heck whenever you feel like it), this episode will help you think about your goals in a way that will be more compelling and more sustainable than the goals you've tried before. Join the mailing list at www.firstyearmarried.com Or you can apply here for 1:1 coaching

This week we're diving into the idea of your relationship with Others--this can be the closer relationships like parents, siblings, and in-laws, or more distant relationships like coworkers or neighbors. We usually run a paradox in our minds: "I wish you were less like you" and "I want us to have an authentic relationship." But an authentic relationship means we accept the other person AS THEY ARE...

So many times, we go outside of ourselves for answers that are ours to decide. We ask, "how is my relationship doing?" and then wait, looking for clues to tell us. But if a relationship is, at its essence, just the thoughts you have about a person and your connection... Then you're the one who gets to pick how it's doing. What do you want to choose to think on purpose about your marriage? This wee...

Your relationship with yourself is nothing more than the sum total of your thoughts about yourself. It’s not more profound. ⁠ It’s not more literal.⁠ And, despite popular belief, finding out WHY you have negative opinions of yourself is not always necessary. In fact, it can be counterproductive when this “research” into our thinking inadvertently reinforces the opinion.⁠ Wanna know the good news?⁠...

LADIES I have such a treat for you this week! This conversation is such a total shift from what we normally talk about and SO IMPORTANT! I often get questions from women about how being tired/pregnant/sick/hormonal fits into thought work. This conversation, with occupational therapist/homeschooling supermom Chava Neiditch goes deep into our own individual profiles of what we need to stay regulated...

Last week we covered everything pre-and-during pregnancy. On this week's episode, Lauren Ohayon is answering questions about post-partum recovery and what myths we need to break about our bodies and what fitness is all about to take the best care of our bodies and ourselves.  Sources from this episode: Restore Your Core One Strong Mama @thelaurenohayon on Instagram

This week I'm so excited to bring you Lauren Ohayon of the popular Restore Your Core and One Strong Mama programs. Lauren is a body expert who guides her clients to prepare for healthy births and recovery. I asked Lauren to come on and share with us, since I've had so many questions about preparing for and recovering from a first pregnancy. Whatever type of birth you are aiming for, I just love ho...

We talk a lot about the challenges that can come up with connecting to your spouse, especially as a newlywed. However, for some of us, the initial stressors of married life come from external factors. Bari Mitzmann came on this week to share her story about her first year of marriage and the health struggles she dealt with right as they were getting married. Bari is a great example of someone who...

This week I have Krystal Conner on to talk to us about self care. Krystal takes what can sometimes seem like an undefined, unattainable idea and makes it super clear and actionable. I loved this conversation and I know you will, too! Website: https://www.krystalconner.com/ Instagram: @drkrystalconner

Professional organizer/stylist Shira Gill talks about how to hack the thinking of a tidy person, what simple system she uses with all her clients to go from overwhelming mess to styled space, and how she and her husband communicate about their different tidiness-styles.  This episode is PACKED with tips and amazing ideas. Enjoy! Follow Shira: www. ShiraGill.com instagram.com/shiragill

Today I'm excited to bring you a conversation with Shevi Samet, a Jewish educator who, among other things specializes in working with women before and after marriage.  We're going super meta here today, talking about true meaning of marriage (we discuss this from the perspective of Torah concepts but feel free to use this as a springboard for your own belief work). We also dove into why we ge...