How to Get Over Your Ex

There's a part of you that knows you're supposed to learn to love yourself, take care of yourself, and build a life you love after a breakup… but what if you don't WANT to do all of that? What if, underneath all the "I'm independent and I can do it myself" advice, you're actually thinking, "I don't want to take care of myself. I want someone to take care of ME." I get it. I've felt that way, and i...

If you've been wondering " What is actually the best way to get over my ex and build a bigger, better life? " I want to make this really simple for you. I've realized I haven't been nearly direct enough about the new way you can work with me, and after getting question after question from listeners, I knew I needed to explain exactly what I created and who it's for. In this episode, I'm breaking d...

If you know you don't want your old relationship back but still can't get excited about what comes next, there's a reason: your brain is much more comfortable with what it already knows than a future it has never experienced. Your ex, your old routines, and the life you built together are familiar, while dating again, becoming someone new, or creating a bigger and better life can feel vague, risky...

There's a stretch before the comeback even starts that this episode names! The part where you already half-know something's wrong, but you keep it quiet, keep functioning, keep telling yourself it's fine, sometimes for a year or two before the truth actually lands. In this episode, Lindsey Mango joins Dorothy to talk about that exact stretch: the discomfort of sitting on a truth you're not ready t...

Why does your breakup feel SO much worse when you're exhausted, burnt out, sick, or running on barely any sleep? You might see one post from your ex, run into him in public, or have one bad interaction and suddenly you're spiraling—questioning everything, obsessing over what he's doing, and wondering why you can't seem to get over him. But what if the problem isn't that you suddenly miss him more?...

Most comeback stories start with something breaking — a breakup, a diagnosis, a rug pulled out from under you. But there's a much quieter, harder version: choosing to walk into a comeback when nothing forced your hand. No crisis giving you permission, no one around you validating the hard part, no urgency pulling you forward — just you, deciding to become someone different on purpose. In this epis...

What if your ultimate comeback isn't about becoming a completely new person after heartbreak—but finally becoming the most you you've ever been? After spending seven episodes talking to women who rebuilt their lives after some of the hardest experiences imaginable, I wanted to step back and ask: what actually makes a comeback happen? In this episode, I break down what I've learned from the entire...

There's a specific kind of stuck that isn't about not knowing — you already know something's wrong. What keeps you frozen is the math of what leaving would cost: the people, the identity, the life you've built around the thing that isn't working anymore. In this episode, Leah Brathwaite talks with Dorothy about the years she spent doing exactly that — staying inside a life, a marriage, and a belie...

Have you figured out that your ex is avoidant… only to find yourself thinking about them even more? Maybe you're researching whether avoidants come back, when they start missing an ex, whether no contact works on an avoidant, or what their attachment style says about why they left. Understanding your ex can feel productive, but if every answer leads to another question, the research may actually b...

There's a specific kind of low that doesn't feel like a bad week — it feels like the floor is gone. Your business, your relationship, your sense of who you even are, all collapsing at once, with no clear sign you'll come out the other side. In this episode, Juliana Garcia — entrepreneur, mindset coach, and Dorothy's own personal coach — sits down to talk about the version of her life that most peo...

Have you ever looked around at your life and thought, "How did I end up here?" Not because your life is bad, but because it no longer feels like you . In this episode, I share what happened after implementing the three decisions I talked about a few weeks ago—and why they've created more momentum, clarity, and alignment than I thought possible. We dive into the surprising pattern I discovered: eve...

There's a moment in almost every comeback that we forget about: the relapse. The week your ex resurfaces and you're back checking his Instagram at 1am. The wave of spiraling that convinces you you're regressing, not healing. In this episode, author (and world explorer) Gabrielle Stone joins Dorothy to break down why that backslide is actually a predictable part of the process, not proof you're doi...

If you're wondering where you're actually supposed to meet commitment-ready men—or why you keep ending up with people who aren't looking for the same future you are—this episode is for you. Today we're shifting from getting over your ex to building a life that makes finding the right partner possible. Dating expert Torah's 2 Cents joins me to challenge some of the biggest assumptions women have ab...

Does it ever feel like you're making progress after your breakup… and then one bad day convinces you you're right back where you started? One week you feel hopeful, the next you're crying over something that didn't bother you yesterday, and suddenly you're questioning whether you're healing at all. In this episode of the Ultimate Comeback Series, I sit down with Georgie Collinson to talk about why...

Have you ever felt like you've lost yourself? Like you're overthinking every decision, waiting until you have the perfect reason before taking action, or looking to everyone else for permission before trusting yourself? This episode is for that version of you. I share the three realizations that completely changed the direction of my life and business in less than 24 hours—and why I think they app...

Leaving a marriage is one of the hardest decisions a person can make—especially when children are involved. It's easy to wonder whether you're giving up too soon, whether you'll regret it, or whether life on the other side could ever feel better than the one you're leaving behind. In this episode, I sit down with divorce coach Meagan Norris to talk about the comeback that followed one of the harde...

If every date ends with you thinking, "They're nice… but they're not my ex," this episode is for you. One of the biggest reasons people stay emotionally stuck after a breakup is because they unknowingly use their ex as the benchmark for every new person they meet. But comparing someone new to your past doesn't tell you whether they're the right partner—it usually tells you something about where yo...

Does hearing a certain song instantly pull you back into memories of your ex? Maybe you're fine one minute, then a song comes on in the grocery store or during your drive home and suddenly you're replaying the relationship, imagining getting back together, and wondering if you'll ever stop missing them. If that cycle feels familiar, this episode will show you a different way to handle those moment...

If your breakup has left you questioning your own judgment, wondering how you could have loved someone who ultimately left, betrayed you, or wasn't right for you, this episode is for you. One of the most painful parts of heartbreak isn't just losing the relationship, it's starting to believe the relationship failed because you failed. That belief quietly chips away at your confidence, making it ha...

After a breakup, it's amazing how quickly your brain can erase everything that wasn't working in the relationship. The arguments, the incompatibilities, the moments you questioned whether they were really right for you suddenly disappear, and all you can think is, "I lost the love of my life." If you've found yourself obsessing over why your ex didn't choose you while barely considering whether yo...

If something your ex did recently sent you into a spiral, they unfollowed you, started dating someone else, viewed your story, ignored your message, or did something that left you questioning your worth, this episode will help you get back on solid ground. The hardest part of these moments usually isn't what happened. It's the meaning your brain immediately assigns to it and the behaviors that fol...

Friendship breakups can be just as painful and confusing as romantic ones, yet most of us have no idea how to move through them. If you've been replaying conversations, questioning what you did wrong, wondering if you'll ever find friendships that feel as meaningful again, or feeling unexpectedly heartbroken over someone who was "just a friend," this episode is for you. I'm sharing my own first ex...

After a breakup, it's easy to think you're grieving the relationship when what you're actually grieving is the version of yourself you thought you were. The confident version. The chosen version. The version who never questioned her worth. If you've caught yourself wondering whether your ex leaving means you're not as lovable, valuable, successful, attractive, or capable as you once believed, this...

If you've drifted from the intentions you set at the beginning of the year, this is your reminder that you can always recommit. I'm sharing a personal mid-year check-in on marriage, movement, complaining less, and what helped me get back on track after a challenging season. If you're ready to reset and move into the second half of the year with more intention, this episode is for you.

If you were the one who ended the relationship, but still feel heartbroken, guilty, or unsure if you made the right decision…this episode is for you. You'll hear about the emotional aftermath of leaving someone you still loved, especially when you felt like you had no other choice.  This episode explores the guilt of hurting someone, the pressure of feeling responsible for their emotions, and the...