How Not To Suck At Divorce

Listener fave Dr. Randy Heller is back with us today to discuss one of the most common questions we get: Is it my marriage that's making me miserable? Dr. Heller shares what people should do if they're feeling depressed, stressed and overwhelmed and an easy exercise to do to determine if it's the marriage that is the root of the problem. We also talk about how to start to feel better, regardless o...

We're back with Season 3! We thought we'd kick off the best season yet by starting at the beginning of the end . . . when you know it's over. We welcome guest and retired husband Mike Draper to the show as he shares his story of when he knew it was over and what life after divorce is really like for a single dad. Check out Magic Mike, I'm sorry, I mean Mortgage Mike on IG @mortgage_mike As always...

Season 3 drops next week! And it's so good. To get everyone back in the divorce game, we've decided to drop some of our most popular episodes from Season 1. (cue time travel music) Today we're talking about the parenting agreement. You won't want to miss this one. This is one of the toughest parts of divorce and Andrea gets really real and almost didn't want to record this episode. Anna helps make...

Season 3 drops in a few short weeks! To get everyone back in the divorce game, we've decided to drop some of our most popular episodes from Season 1. (cue time travel music) Today, we're talking about how to find a divorce lawyer. Andrea shares how it all went down when they decided to file and what it was like to find an attorney. It's overwhelming and emotional but we can help and make it less s...

We are ending season 2 with the beloved Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and continuing our discussion of high conflict divorces. Bill teaches us a simple tool that has the power to not only change the whole vibe of your high conflict divorce and how you deal with conflict with literally anyone....but we think it could heal the whole damn world. We are hard at work planning Season 3 and it's going to be a bi...

Today on How Not To Suck At Divorce, Morgan is recording from a beach, Andrea is learning kung fu, it's a typical day over here. We are so excited to have the legendary Bill Eddy on the show. Bill is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, keynote speaker and the author of over 16 books on divorce. Not only does he specialize in high-conflict divorces that involve people with personality disorders like nar...

Today we're back with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to discuss if divorce can kill you. We'll talk about the impact of long term and short term stress when going through a divorce and what sex, drugs and tacos have to do with it. If this sounds heavy, don't worry, we know how to bring the levity. Be sure to stay until the end because we have roped Dr. Meg into playing the game you all love (we hope), De...

Andrea is in pain and Morgan got pooped on by an iguana in a palm tree. It's been quite an exciting week. But today all is right with the world because we're here with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to talk about divorce and physical wellness. Dr. Meg is a concierge internal medicine doctor in Chicago and has quite the resume. We're so excited to be able to pick her beautiful brain. We'll discuss how bei...

Today, a dear listener is sharing her divorce story with us. Welcome to the show, Zoe! Zoe talks about how she stayed in her deteriorating marriage for 6 years. She recalls the control her ex had over her, how finances and religion played a role in her staying, and the moment she knew it was finally over. Morgan shares some great tips if you're overwhelmed by all the paperwork and Andrea talks abo...

This week on How Not To Suck At Divorce, we're having wine at 2:00. We're also listening to you, the best audience ever. Many of you have asked us to break down the steps to get a divorce so today we are diving in. Listen in to find out about the 10 main steps needed to get divorced. We will answer: How many lawyers should you meet with before deciding to move forward with one? What information do...

Out of all the podcasts in all the world, we’re in the top 5%! What?! How did this happen?! Thank you so much to all of our listeners, especially the 6 of you in Wyoming. Today's episode is like divorce meets CSI as we welcome Tracy Coenen. You may have seen her on CNBC On the Money , CBS, NBC, and in the Wall Street Journal. Tracy is a certified public accountant, certified in financial forensics...

Today we’re doing something a little different; we’re answering listener questions. And they are good. This podcast is for you and so we love when you dm us your questions and stories. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. Just a few of the questions we answer are: How do you support a friend who is going through a divorce when you’re happily married? What’s the best way to organize your documen...

We are back with part two with the fabulous Dr. Randy Heller. If you missed part one, you'll definitely want to listen to last week's episode first. Today we're talking about how to co-parent effectively and why co-parenting should be viewed as a business relationship. Dr. Heller answers: How is a family therapist different than a regular therapist? How can we co-parent effectively? How can we pro...

This week we are excited to welcome Dr. Randy Heller to the show. Dr. Heller is a licensed mental health therapist, collaborative divorce therapist and a mediator. A true unicorn. Today we're discussing the three conversations Dr. Heller recommends people have before filing for a divorce. We'll also be addressing the biggest concern parents have, "will the kids be ok?" We love hearing from you so...

Thank you for 10k downloads (11.8k to be exact)! Your support means the world to us. Today Morgan and Andrea are stuck in a snowstorm talking to wealth advisor Franco La Marca. Earlier this week Andrea posted on Instagram about financial abuse in a marriage and throughout the divorce process. So many people reached out sharing similar stories and many women said they didn't realize what they were...

Warning: Our favorite F bomb is dropped at 8:52 (thanks Rob!) Just in time for Valentine's Day, Andrea and Morgan are talking love! The love you had, the love for your kids, the excitement of future love and the love for dress shirt on top/pjs on bottom. We are so excited to welcome our special guest Rob Roseman from the popular podcast WTF Divorce. Rob gets really real with us as he talks about h...

From the floor of Morgan's son's closet, Andrea and Morgan toast Andrea's grandma, talk olive martinis, and how not to suck at divorce. This week they're discussing the importance of taking your time when you're going through the divorce process so you're not reacting from an amped up mental space. You are going to hit a point where you just want to wrap it up because you're exhausted, but there a...

We're so excited to be back for Season 2! Today we have a very special guest, Michelle Dempsey-Multack, author of Moms Moving On , divorced mom, certified divorce specialist and coach and podcast host. If you're not yet following Michelle on Instagram, you'll definitely want to check her out @themichelledempsey Join the Moms Moving On community for free here . When you preorder Michelle's book , y...

Join us for our 1st annual holiday party and season 1 finale! From the floor of Morgan's son's closet. We play divorce "would you rather", discuss family dynamics, covid hangovers, and regular hangovers and Andrea sings. Make sure you're subscribed because season 2 drops in January! Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement...

This week we're talking about how not to annoy your attorney. We're kidding! Kind of. You want to make the most of your time with your legal counsel because, as we're sure you've guessed by now, divorce is a bit pricey. We discuss divorce concierge service, texting your attorney, the importance of a strategy call, why your attorney has junior associates helping on your case and how to best communi...

On today's episode we're talking about the documents you need for divorce, why they're important to get right and all the feelings you may be feeling as you work through them. We'll walk you through each document so you don't feel overwhelmed. Andrea opens up about her own experience getting divorced during the pandemic and Morgan gets real about how long the whole process can take. As we mention...

Today we're talking about how to prevent things from spiraling out of control. We'll discuss high conflict divorce and the steps to take to maintain your sanity and your safety. Morgan and Andrea will walk you through how to communicate and through which methods, what BIFF means, if a judge can read your emails, how to respond when the other person gets nasty and the hilarious/immature Seth Rogen...

This week we’re talking about maintenance (aka alimony). Spoiler alert - high maintenance is a good thing here. This is a topic everyone wants to know about but is afraid to ask so we're breaking it all down. We'll answer your burning questions: How is alimony (or maintenance) different than child support? Who gets maintenance? How do you qualify for maintenance? How easy it is to qualify for main...

Today we're talking about how to cope with stress while you're going through a divorce. Going through this process is a marathon, not a sprint, and we're here to coach you through it. We'll discuss the importance of optimal cognitive function, and if watching Japanese bug fighting on youtube will help you feel better. Spoiler alert: It will. Maybe. Mentioned in this episode: Smarter Way to Sell Yo...

Today we're talking all about the notorious financial affidavit. This is a really important document you'll want to be prepared for so this is an episode you do not want to miss. We'll discuss spending shame, being judged by the judge (does she/he care about your monthly root touchup?), do you need to hire someone to help figure out your finances, how to fill out the financial affidavit, do you in...