Hot Water (fka Mind Your Manners)

What if good sex isn’t just about chemistry—but about communication, confidence, and etiquette? In this eye-opening episode, Sara Jane sits down with renowned sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Mintz to talk about pleasure, shame, and how to ask for what you actually want in bed. They cover everything from closing the orgasm gap to how Confucian values shaped intimacy in Asia, and why the languag...

What if your body knew the truth before your mind could catch up? In this empowering episode, Sara Jane sits down with ritual guide and modern witch Mia Magik to explore the wisdom of the body—from sacred rage to intuitive signals we’re taught to ignore. Together, they dive into the intersection of Traditional Chinese Medicine and “IntuWitchin,” decoding what tension, tears, and even tight jaws mi...

From Drag Race to Monica Lewinsky to Tammy Faye to Britney Spears, Fenton Bailey has spent his career spotlighting the misfits society tried to silence. Now, the Emmy-winning executive producer of RuPaul’s Drag Race joins Sara Jane to break down what it takes to go from mocked to iconic. Shop Sara Jane Ho's TCM feminine care line and feng shui collection on ⁠⁠www.antevorta.us⁠⁠ and use code HOTWAT...

When Sara Jane opens her DMs, it’s like a digital avalanche—everything from phlegm and fertility to clubbing and cold plunges. In this solo episode, she answers 16 of your juiciest ones. Why you should skip bananas on your period, the TCM take on yogurt, how to clear phlegm permanently, and why cold plunges aren’t for women. Plus, the deeper meaning of saying “former wife” instead of “ex,” and the...

When Sara Jane finds herself restless in her own home, she turns to architect and viral feng shui expert Cliff Tan to help decode why. From the way your bed is positioned to why your kitchen might be blocking your abundance, they break down how small spatial shifts can change your sleep, relationships, and mindset. Plus, Cliff busts the biggest myths about feng shui—and shares simple tips you can...

What if the key to success isn’t pretending to be someone else—but finally showing up as you? Sara Jane sits down with Hollywood’s top acting and transformation coach, Bernard Hiller, whose clients include Oscar winners and A-list stars. But this conversation goes far beyond the stage. Bernard’s method is about emotional truth, personal transformation, and how to stop performing the wrong life—and...

What if everything going wrong is actually part of your soul’s growth? In this powerful episode, Sara Jane sits down with her spiritual teacher David Ghiyam to explore the ancient wisdom of Kabbalah—not as a religion, but as a life-changing toolkit. From attracting abundance to blessing your exes, David shares simple, actionable tools that can transform how you think, love, and live. Shop Sara Jan...

Traditional Chinese Medicine changed Annie Ho’s life—but not before Western medicine failed her first. In this revealing conversation, Sara Jane sits down with her friend, Antevorta co-founder, and certified TCM practitioner to talk all things Traditional Chinese Medicine and women’s health. From period pain and fertility to postpartum recovery and perimenopause, they dive into ancient Chinese pra...

When Sara Jane opens up about the loss of her mother at 21, she turns to world-renowned therapist Dr. Laura Berman—who herself lost her teenage son—to talk about something we all experience but rarely know how to handle: grief. From Chinese ancestor rituals to the science of how grief affects the body, they dive into what it really means to mourn, to heal, and to keep loving after loss. This is an...

Cambridge-educated poker pro Gethen Jacobs joins Sara Jane to explore how the skills that win at the table—reading people, staying calm under pressure, and knowing when to walk away—apply to everyday life. Gethen even gives Sara Jane tips and tricks to ethical and effective bluffing. Shop Sara Jane Ho's TCM feminine care line and feng shui collection on ⁠⁠www.antevorta.us⁠⁠ and use code HOTWATER f...

When Sara Jane opens up her DMs, she finds it overflowing with questions—from skincare and etiquette to menopause and the mysteries of Chinese medicine. In this rapid-fire bonus episode, she answers 20 of your juiciest queries in 20 minutes. Why raw salads might actually make you gain weight, the truth about black sesame for grey hair, and yes, even where her earrings are from. It’s unfiltered, un...

Author and style expert Richard Thompson Ford—whose book Dress Codes: How the Laws of Fashion Made History unpacks the rules behind what we wear—joins Sara Jane and Marcel to explore how fashion, like etiquette, is far from superficial. A semifinalist in Esquire’s “Best Dressed Real Man” contest, Richard shares how knowing what to wear can be a superpower—a way to signal confidence, navigate power...

Outspoken TikTok star Fannita Leggett has been cancelled more than once—and she’s ready to talk about it. She and Sara Jane unpack the emotional toll, the lessons learned, and lay out an etiquette code for posting online: how to speak your truth without losing yourself or your platform. Shop Sara Jane Ho's TCM feminine care line and feng shui collection on ⁠⁠www.antevorta.us⁠⁠ and use code HOTWATE...

What if you could speak with calm, confidence, and connection—even during conflict? Texas-based trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher has helped millions do just that with his viral communication advice. In this episode, he joins Sara Jane to break down how to win every conversation—without losing the relationship. They cover: – How to handle difficult conversations with partners, family, coworkers, and s...

When Sara Jane spots her first grey hair, she calls in expert Jay Small—cofounder of Arey Grey —to talk all things aging and hair. From whether to color or not, to the Chinese diet tricks for black, shiny hair, they dive into what really works. Plus, a rapid-fire myth-busting round on grey hair and hair loss. Shop Sara Jane Ho's TCM feminine care line and feng shui collection on ⁠⁠www.antevorta.us...

Relationship expert and author Lindsay Jill Roth joins Sara Jane and Marcel to share the questions you should be asking to find—and keep—your person. From dating to long-term love, they swap stories about their biggest relationship challenges, what they’ve learned, and why it’s never too soon (or too late) to talk about sex. Shop Sara Jane Ho's TCM feminine care line and feng shui collection on ⁠⁠...

From teen mom to Selling Sunset star, Mary Fitzgerald Bonnet has lived a thousand lives—and she’s telling all. She and Sara talk sex talks with your kids, helping a friend through abuse, and a feng shui mirror tip that’ll change your entire perspective. Shop Sara Jane Ho's TCM feminine care line and feng shui collection on ⁠⁠www.antevorta.us⁠⁠ and use code HOTWATER for 20% off Learn more about you...