Holy Marriage

Do you always find yourself locked in a power struggle? Blaming "him" may feel good at the moment but you loose the opportunity to heal yourself and make shalom bayit. How admitting our faults and taking responsibility for our own growth elevates the marriage.

How can we cultivate more patience, understanding and love towards our spouses, even when they trigger our past traumas and challenges? Finding unity in the candle light and in our relationships.

This lesson episode examines the spiritual significance of candle lighting, reflecting the wife/mother's role in creating a unified and harmonious home. We explore how the yitzer hara can be used to reframe our choices, transform, mend and return us and our entire family to shleimut (wholeness) through refining ourselves and our spiritual practices.

We live in a world that avoids discomfort. How can we tolerate our own bad behavior yet are intolerant of the other? How can we heal from emotional pain? This class episode challenges the idea of simply coping with ourselves at the expense of our relationships. We examine how trauma is a call for introspection. Is "I'm just this way" an acceptable answer ? Why giving into this approa...

Accentuating the rectification of Hashem’s name. Being conscious of malchut. Introspection creates space for bonding with Hashem. When we focus on the source of unity and commonality between husband and wife the אש,we then complete the letters יה in Hashems 4 letter name and become co-creators with Hashem

The names -- Adam and Chava, demonstrate the differences between husband and wife but Ish and Isha demonstrates the shared journey, the similarity of purpose -- the very essence of their souls. He is only referred to/named Ish after Isha was created in Gan Eden

Balancing the dual and opposing aspects of humanity; ones potential greatness with ones humble understanding that we are small specs of nothing without Hashem. Self rectification is connecting to Hashem it requires willingness to understand our true selves and the potential to understand the other. Knowing oneself intimately leads to strength and transcendence.

Uniting their aish a husband and wife reveal the Ohr Haganuz. This is the same radiating light that shines from the Shabbat candles. How the yetzer hara and the wounded ego can create blockages in relationships and the need we have for healing and increasing self awareness.

Fixing our fragmented selves and not passing down our brokenness to our children. How repairing our sense of self-worth and rebuilding our connection to Hashem can stop the negative generational cycle.

Elul assessing, refining, returning, bonding - Teshuva - tashuv hey. Returning to Hashem out of fear of separation from Him via holy actions (mitzvot) done with joy.

Elul is a month of refinement. The process of Teshuva is the soul's journey of uncovering its light. Tweak and Shine!

The unbreakable bond.

Making teshuva on a higher level. Uniting with your Yechida.

Candle lighting reminds us on a weekly renewal that we are one at our essence.

Am I defining myself through my animal soul or my GDly soul? IF thoughts, speech and actions are the means for dressing the soul are we truly aware of the clothes we are choosing? How can we choose better?

Finding our uniqueness through inner reflection.

Part of self discovery is discovering your value. This knowledge brings confidence, comfort, and increased inner light and if nurtured can help transform ordinary thinking into Geula level thinking.

Transcending the "post sin" base impulses and nature to remove the klipah from our hearts. Pushing the ego to the side clinging instead to G-d.