Hey Friend

Conflict is inevitable in any real relationship. Don’t buy into the "fool's choice" of believing you have to decide between being on and staying friends. In this episode we cover how to know when you need to have a hard conversation with your friend and four essentials for doing that conversation well even if there is conflict.

Odds are you’re believing lies about friendship as an adult, and that those lies are hurting your ability to make, keep, and go deep with your friends. Making friends as an adult isn’t easy, and it’s made harder by the fact that we often buy into these four lies: Friendships magically appear: the truth is we need to be intentional about making friends, putting in effort to initiate and build relat...

When our friends are hurting we often respond in unhelpful ways, like simply saying "everything happens for a reason" or offering unsolicited advice. Want to know a better way to support friends who are going through difficult times? In this episode we outline how to NOT respond your friend’s suffering and offer a simple guide for a better way. Show Up: Be present for your friend. Don&#3...

This episode challenges the common ways we identify true friends. While having things in common and enjoying each other’s company are positive aspects of friendship and often our default way to assess whether someone is a real friend, the Bible offers a deeper perspective. True friends have a “shared heart;” a deep connection based on faith and mutual respect. They can be different from you, but t...

In our last episode, we delved into the thorny subject of gossip. As we continue the discussion today, we'll be providing strategies to help you navigate through the gossip-laden world we live in. Just for a quick recap, we previously discussed how gossip, from a biblical perspective, is inherently damaging. It involves the unauthorized sharing of information that can tarnish someone's rep...

The Bible takes a strong stance against gossip, seeing it as a harmful behavior with far-reaching consequences. Why? Because words have power according to the Bible, and gossip wields that power for destruction rather than for good. The original languages of the Bible use terms to describe gossips, terms like "talebearer" and "slanderer." These terms highlight the malicious int...

In today's culture, the idea of cutting off "toxic" people is prevalent, especially in the realm of social media and heated political discourse. But is this approach biblical? Join us as we delve into the scriptural perspective on ending friendships, examining passages from 1 Corinthians and the teachings of Jesus. We define what constitutes a toxic relationship according to biblical...

In Ephesians 4:25-32, we're reminded to speak truthfully, manage our anger with grace, and choose our words carefully, always aiming to uplift others. Forgiveness is the heart of these discussions, a beacon guiding us through the storm of hard conversations. So, what does it truly mean to live out these principles in our friendships? How do we balance honesty with compassion? These are the que...

Keeping it Real: Let's chat about the struggles we've faced trying to balance friendships with major life changes like getting engaged or hitched. Friendship Woes: Why do some friends seem to vanish once they find love? Is it cool or kinda crappy? Voices from Different Walks: For the Engaged: Belle spills the beans on what us engaged folks want our single pals to know and how they can be t...

The Issue at Hand The Problem: A dearth of genuine conversation, particularly the kind that resonates deeply within us. Opening Inquiry: Reflecting on the last truly profound conversation you shared with a friend, what elements made it particularly meaningful? Quote to Ponder: Sherry Turkle's research underscores how the digital age has eroded empathy, with a 40% decline observed among college...

Can boys and girls be friends? The Bible says yes, but it's important to be wise about how we navigate these friendships due to the influence of sin. Biblical friendships between men and women should be based on treating each other like family members in Christ. This means having a brotherly/sisterly kind of love, not a romantic one. The Bible uses examples like Timothy, who was instructed to...

The Bible doesn't give a simple yes or no answer on whether Christians can be friends with non-Christians. Some Christians (isolationists) believe they shouldn't because of the risk of being influenced negatively. Others (integrationists) believe Christians must be friends with everyone to spread Jesus' love. The Bible suggests a more nuanced approach: It's good to have friendships...

Hey there, friends! Today, we're diving deep into a topic that's close to our hearts: friendship. But not just any kind of friendship—we're talking about the real, authentic connections that make life meaningful. And where better to look for guidance on friendship than in the pages of Scripture? Now, before we get started, let's set the record straight. We're not experts in anc...

🎧 Ben's Authentic Take: Faith & Friendship Unfiltered 🎧 Hey, what's up, everyone? Ben's keeping it real about his faith journey and why friendship is the real deal. Tune in for a candid convo where Ben talks about how Jesus rocked his world, what Jesus is up to in his life now, and why friendship isn't just a nice-to-have—it's essential. 🙏 Ben's Jesus Moment: Ben sha...

Here's what's on the agenda: 👋 Setting the Scene: We're sharing our own awkward encounters and getting real about the struggle of starting conversations, especially when you're new to the scene. 🔍 Breaking Down Barriers: Let's talk about what really stops us from hitting up that chat with a stranger. From fear to feeling drained, we're calling it like it is. 🛠️ Practical...

🎧 Navigating the End of a Friendship: Understanding, Healing, and Moving Forward 🎧 Hey listeners, Friendship struggles? Yeah, they're real. In this podcast episode, we're diving deep into the messy world of friendship endings. Join us for candid conversations, real-life stories, and practical advice on how to navigate the ups and downs of friendship breakups. Here's what we're co...

Today's episode is a special one because we're switching gears and diving into some real-talk questions from our friends. First up, we've got Gabe, who's pondering the temporality of friendships. He gets that not all friends stick around for every season of life, but he's wondering if it's worth the effort to stay connected with those in different stages. It's a real he...

Friends for Benefits: The Truth You NEED to Know (Beyond the Hype!) Ben & Lucas spill the tea on "friends for benefits" relationships - ditch the sugar-coating and get real about the feels, the science, and the Bible's take. No more confusion: Friends with benefits? What's the deal?  Is it all fun and games, or is there more to the story? Can sex be just casual?  Or is there...

In this podcast, they're breaking down the different types of friendships that you might relate to in your own life. From those based on shared interests to those formed out of convenience, they've got it all covered! BEN's Perspective: Ever heard the saying, "there is a season for everything"? Well, Ben explores how friendships too have their seasons. He breaks it down into...

🚨 New Episode Alert: "Does friendship matter?s" 🚨 Ever felt like true friends are hard to come by? You're not alone. Dive into a raw and relatable chat with Ben and Lucas as they get real about the friendship famine sweeping through our lives, especially in the wake of COVID's social fallout. From deep chaplaincy insights to hard-hitting stats, we're laying it all out. 🔍 W...

A preview of what's to come with "Hey Friend."