Here Comes Sunshine with Sarah Valentine

Have you ever felt bamboozled by love and swept up in someone else’s world only to lose yourself in the process? In this week’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I open up about my own journey through divorce, toxic relationships, and the lessons I learned about identity, mental health, and slowing down in the second half of life. This one is especially for men over 45 who are navigating relationshi...

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine , I’m talking about the importance of taking care of your health as we age, especially for my Gen X men out there. We’ll dive into the essentials: sleep, nutrition, stress relief, and exercise, and why these habits matter even more in the second half of life. This isn’t about perfection or chasing six-packs; it’s about energy, confidence, and longevity so you...

Welcome back to Here Comes Sunshine ! After a summer break, I’m excited to be back with you and to let you know the podcast will now drop every Wednesday. This season, I’m adding something new: video. You’ll be able to watch each episode on my Substack, so be sure to subscribe and join me there at https://substack.com/@sarahvalentinemusings If you’d like to dive deeper and chat one-on-one, you can...

I'm taking a break for the month of August and look forward to returning in September with new episodes to help encourage you! If you have a question for the podcast or a topic you would like me to tackle, please email me at sarah@intimateconsciousness.com Enjoy the rest of your summer!

Today, I'm sharing my own experience with communication issues. I am trying my best, too! Support & Resources: Coaching + tools: stan.store/the_sarah_valentine Subscribe to my newsletter: sarahvalentinemusings.substack.com Email: sarah@intimateconsciousness.com

Are you going to listen to my patio chill rambles again? Have I told you lately how awesome you are? Thanks! Support & Resources: Coaching + habit tools: stan.store/the_sarah_valentine Subscribe to receive this podcast in your email: sarahvalentinemusings.substack.com Email me: sarah@intimateconsciousness.com

You are actually going to listen to part two... I do heart you so! Thanks for listening!

Sarah Unscripted & Unedited. Join me on my patio on a beautiful summer day, as I let my thoughts drift like a butterfly, moving from flower to flower. Thanks for hanging out with me! More parts to come!

It’s time to stop performing and start attracting. In this episode, I’m speaking directly to the man who’s tired of chasing and tired of guessing what women want, tired of pretending to be someone he’s not. Real confidence isn’t loud. It’s rooted. It’s steady. And it begins when you start keeping promises to yourself. We’ll dive into what makes a man magnetic (it’s not money or muscles), how to sh...

Loneliness can feel heavy, but it doesn’t mean you’re broken. In today’s episode, I’m inviting you to look at your loneliness not as a problem to fix, but as a message to explore. Whether you’re divorced, single, or simply feeling disconnected, this one’s for you. We’ll talk about the difference between being alone and being lonely, how to listen to what your soul might be craving, and why your lo...

You don’t need more discipline, you need a better system. In this follow-up episode inspired by Atomic Habits , we dive into the science behind behavior change and explore the four keys to building lasting habits and the reverse formula for breaking the ones that are keeping you stuck. You’ll learn how to make new habits obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying, and how to design your life to sup...

Big changes don’t start with willpower; they start with one small step. In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine , we explore key takeaways from James Clear’s Atomic Habits , including why tiny changes are more powerful (and sustainable) than big goals. You’ll learn how to shift your identity, create habits that stick, and build real momentum by doing less, not more. Whether you're trying to develop...

Have you ever felt like an extra in your own life, watching from the sidelines, downplaying your voice, or shrinking to stay safe? Let's discuss rewriting the stories we tell ourselves and explore what it means to reclaim your main character energy, not from ego, but from truth. Together, we’ll explore how social conditioning, comparison, and outdated relationship dynamics can lead us into rol...

Ever stop to wonder where that voice in your head came from? The one that says you’re not good at something, not safe, not capable? Today, I share a personal story, and we delve into the roots of those old beliefs, asking the powerful question:  Who told you that? Sometimes it’s an ex, a parent, a coach, or even a joke that wasn’t funny. However, when we hear something repeatedly, especially from...

Are you feeling more forgetful, reactive, or emotionally flat lately? You’re not broken, you might just be caught in what Chase Hughes calls “The Glitch.” Watch the YouTube Here: https://youtu.be/wsF3REbr-44?si=kKGnRRgERH6su8vA In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine , we explore why so many of us feel off right now, what’s happening in our minds and nervous systems, and how to reclaim clarity in a...

Letting go isn’t weakness, it’s a powerful act of self-respect. In the final part of this 4-episode series, we talk about how to release a relationship that no longer honors who you are. Not with bitterness or blame, but with clarity, intention, and grace. You’ll learn how to grieve what’s ending, set firm boundaries, and create a healing plan to guide your next chapter. If you’re ready to stop li...

Sometimes we’re not ready to leave, but we don’t want to stay stuck. In Part 3 of this series, we explore what it looks like to give your relationship one more try, with clear intention and emotional integrity. If you’re wondering, “Can this still be rebuilt?” —this episode will walk you through how to show up differently, invite connection without pressure, and listen for the truth in her respons...

Welcome back to Here Comes Sunshine. In Part 2 of our  Deciding to Stay or Go  series, we're turning the focus inward. You can’t make a grounded decision about your relationship until you know what you're truly looking for . So many men over 40 have never fully asked themselves: What kind of connection do I crave? What does intimacy look like for the man I’ve become? What type of partnersh...

Welcome to Here Comes Sunshine. Today, we begin a powerful four-part series for anyone who has ever lain awake asking, “Should I stay, or is it time to go?” Whether you’ve been married for decades, dating again after divorce, or sitting in a relationship that no longer feels right, you’re not alone. This episode invites you to stop ignoring your needs and get honest about where you truly stand. We...

It is that time of year again, I am taking some time to unplug, enjoy time with family, and get my house (literally) in order! See you in a couple of weeks! Email: Sarah@intimateconsciousness.com https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine

In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine , I’m talking about one of the most damaging forces in any relationship: contempt. You’ll hear how it shows up, why the Gottman Institute calls it the number one predictor of divorce, and how to recognize it in your own life. I also share a personal story of what contempt looked like in my past relationship, and how I found the strength to walk away. I ref...

Do soulmates really exist? Or is love about timing, readiness, and doing the inner work first? In today’s episode, I respond to a listener who asked me to describe my soulmate. I share why I believe we have many potential matches in this life and how my journey through heartbreak, healing, and clarity helped me call in a partner who aligns with the woman I’ve become. This episode is part story, pa...

Today’s question comes from a follower: “What kind of responses to your sexy pics do you prefer?” And while that might seem like a simple question, my answer is anything but. I’m diving deep into how my views on attention, sensuality, and online expression have changed, mainly as I’ve processed past abuse, found a committed relationship rooted in respect, and done the emotional work of reclaiming...

Ever get tongue-tied around your crush and wonder, "How do I say something without sounding like a weirdo?" You're not alone. In today’s episode, I answer a follower’s question about how to approach someone you're into without creeping them out. We’re talking real-world, low-pressure ways to show interest that feel genuine and magnetic . Plus, I’m throwing it back to a little moment from my Spark...

Is it weird... or just sexy? In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine , I will answer a follower's question about pantyhose, turn-ons, kinks, and embracing your unique erotic blueprint. What matters most isn’t what turns everyone on; it’s what turns you on, and whether you can find someone who honors that. This is a celebration of adult consent, curiosity, and connection. Let's remove sha...