her Self: IFS & Spiritual Entrepreneurship

During the first two weeks of November and December, to celebrate the opening of my year-long programs (A Year of SHE & the SHE Leadership Circle), I’m sharing a new series on the podcast called “Dakini’s Den.” In Tibetan Buddhism, Dakinis are manifestations of Awakening appearing in feminine form. Each of these SHE Talks is an excerpt from the “Dakini’s Den” classes I taught in the 2018 year-long...

Today’s podcast guest leads us into a rich and deeply needed conversation about abortion. In the fourth and final episode (for now) of the # I Had an Abortion podcast series, I interview Linda Weber. A woman in our community led me to Linda after I published my abortion story in July. And I’m so glad she did. I feel this is the most important podcast episode I’ve ever shared. Linda Weber is a true...

Welcome to the third episode in the # I Had an Abortion series! I’m honored that Dr. Christiane Northrup agreed, graciously and enthusiastically, to share with us today her wisdom on this taboo topic. No stranger to standing at the frontlines in advocacy of women’s health and wholeness, Dr. Northrup is a pioneer in this field, New York Times bestselling author, and board certified OB/GYN. She’s al...

Welcome to the second episode in the #I Had an Abortion series. Almost three years ago, I invited one of my closest friends, Emma Teitel, to interview me for the inaugural episode on my podcast, SHE Talks. Today, I asked her to come back so that we could talk about abortion. I felt called to have this conversation with Emma, in particular, for a few key reasons: * Emma and I have been close friend...

Sisters: We’re about to cross a big threshold together. Today I’m sharing the most important story I’ve ever told. As you read it, you have complete freedom to think and feel anything. Whatever experience you have, own it. The only thing in life that we can ever fully trust is our own experience. The world is changing. Women are changing. We’re changing. I’m changing. What’s called for now is a wh...

Welcome to the final episode of our summer season. Confession: Sometimes reading or listening to my own teachings lifts my spirits. This was true with today’s talk. Being human can be hard. This world can be harsh. But the challenges we face are never random. They’re here to help us uncap latent strengths within us. The more we face, the stronger we become. To keep having the courage to say “yes”...

When we hit rocky roads– inner and outer– is when we’re mostly going to want to lean on the advice of “experts.” But, as I recently heard a wise person say, “Advice is the devil.” And I would have to agree. Leadership comes from taking refuge in your inner wisdom. It asks us to source guidance from ourselves, and then to trust the path we’re shown. Unfortunately, this approach is the exact opposit...

Enough of us are waking up now that we’re starting to see the widespread erasure of undomesticated women from religion, myth, and positions of power. As the lies that we’ve been taught to live crumble, we don’t have historical references to look to to remind us of who we once were. The only place we can look is in our own hearts and bodies. Buried deep in our subconscious, the seats of souls, live...

So many are touting the benefits of sleep these days (hallelujah!), so today I’m going to focus on sleep’s less-talked-about sister– silence. Silence is hard to come by these days. From lawn mowers to garbage trucks, traffic to TVs, we’re constantly being bombarded by... noise. This is one of many the reasons why I offer an annual silent retreat. For seven days, women can undertake a sacred pilgri...

I wanted to share the audio from a talk I gave at the end of March here in Boulder at an event called “The Truthteller Tour,” hosted by Kelly McNelis, founder of Women for One. This is the first public talk I’ve given since The Book of SHE came out... two-and-a-half years ago! So, yeah. This was a big step for me. I’m still in the wobbly space between death and rebirth, so, rather than muscling my...

Welcome to the 5th and final episode in the mini-series, “Disrupting the Divine Feminine.” Whether it’s a health problem, relationship stress, the fear that the goodness you’re experiencing will fade, or simply a question mark about your next steps, we all live with varying degrees of uncertainty. It’s inescapable. Even though we like to think that our surroundings are fixed and stable, the truth...

Welcome to episode 4 in our mini-series: Disrupting the Divine Feminine. Our intuition was educated out of us when we were very young. Our parents told us to listen to them rather than to how we felt. Now we look to Google for advice instead of into our own hearts and minds, and we’re paying a big price. Isn’t it time you get the education in self-trust that you never got? In today’s SHE Talk, I s...

Welcome to episode 3 in our mini-series on Disrupting the Divine Feminine. And today we’re going deeper. Externally, do you look successful and put together; but, inside, you feel like you’re really hiding. Do you feel that, deep down, you don’t want others to really see you; and, most of all, you don’t really want to see yourself? You have the whole setup: the color-coded chakra candles, the crys...

Welcome to the second episode in our mini-series on “Disrupting the Divine Feminine.” In the wake of Harvey Weinstein (et al), I know it’s not fashionable for me to say this. But I love you, so I have to. For us women, becoming unstoppable in life takes being more like a man. If you have the liberty to be reading these words right now, then the biggest thing holding you back is not outside of you....

In recent years, as we’ve come to revere the Divine Feminine, we’ve replaced one set of rules (work yourself to the bone to prove that you can do the job as well as any man can) for another (drink green juice, wear crystals, and worship the moon and Mercury Retrograde to prove that you’re a good person). Somewhere in the mix of swapping one societal code for another, we’re still missing the point....

Here we are...the finale of 2017. We made it. I both want to slap this year across the face and hug it tightly and thank it profusely. For breaking me down. For making me strong. For showing me who I am, and who I am not. And for so much more that I don’t have words for yet. For the past several months I’ve been in a deeply internal place. I’ve gone further inside than any other time in my life. W...

There’s nothing quite like in-person connection to really feel a strong sense of community. That’s why today I’m excited to (for the second time this week!) do something a little bit differently on our podcast. For the first time, I’m inviting two members from our community into a conversation with me-- and all of you. Both are very cool women who are up to equally cool things in the world. If you...

“If you choose to leave, you may never return,” her mother warned. “Who will I be if I stay?” Diana replied. And so begins Diana, Princess of the Amazon’s, Heroine’s Journey into the unknown to discover her true power. On a recent Friday evening, I went to see Wonder Woman: Rise of the Warrior with one of my girlfriends. Throughout the movie I’d smile and lean over to whisper in her ear, “I LOVE t...

We all know the adage that good (and bad) things come in threes. But what about when they come in fours? That’s when a “perfect storm” strikes and the universe is demanding that we radically transform ourselves-- and our entire lives. Meet Lisa Brown, a long time sister in our community, who’s opening her arms in a big “yes” to her own perfect storm. A few years ago, Lisa came to me as a one-on-on...

When a woman owns her most harrowing life experiences deep in her bones, she becomes a gift to her community-- and the world. And, yet, that process of deeply feeling, accepting, and learning from our hardships is both grizzly and grueling. It’s one that few women have the courage to endure, much less emerge from stronger and more free. Merryl Rothaus is a testament to what’s possible for all of u...

“I don’t know anyone who hasn’t gone through multiple heartbreaks,” Sabrina says. She’s lived an unconventional life-- especially as a Chinese-American, seen through the eyes of her more conservative parents. While all of her siblings got married and had children, when yet another one of Sabrina’s relationships would end, her mother would shake her head and tell her, “Sabrina, you’re so unlucky in...

Heartbreak is a harsh — but incredibly potent — teacher. It carries us straight into our deepest wounds and invites us to heal them, once and for all. It pulls the rug out from under us — and asks us to find our footing amidst the freefall. Heartbreak shatters us — and demands we piece ourselves back together, more whole and holy than before. One of the most painful pieces of heartbreak is the iso...

Last week we also passed through the milestone of Imbolc. Here in the northern hemisphere, this marks the halfway point between winter and spring. We’re in the time of the year when the seeds deep inside the earth, like all the cells in our bodies, start to turn towards the light. These seasonal touchstones offer us chances to pause and reflect. Winter--the season of hibernation, gestation, and vi...

We all have seasons in our lives where we feel like all hope is lost and we’re desperately groping in the dark. We struggle with trusting the process of life and having faith that we can make the right decision. We feel like we’re constantly both fighting off our inner voices that tell us we can't do it whilst battling the fear to forge ahead to still claim what we want out of life. If, like me, y...

Welcome to the first class in our 4-part series, Chaotic Calm: Living from Your Confident Center in Turbulent Times. In today’s class, I’ll share the exact practices, routines, mini-rituals, and tools I relied on in 2016 — the trial-by-fire year that brought me to my knees. Whatever kind of initiation you’re facing right now — whether it’s learning to stay sane with a new baby on board, trying to...