Heart of Dating

Are y’all ready for a fun convo today on one of our FAVORITE TOPICS? We are talking about DTR’s today. What are they? How do you have them? How frequently do you have them? Why are they necessary? WE TALK ABOUT IT IT ALL. We have polled y’all on the topic of DTR’s and BOY did you have some grief to share. So we brought in the DTR expert, our good friend Kristina Harutoonian to chat all things Defi...

Juli and Addison tell their story of meeting and dating long distance, pursuing boundaries, and how God led their love story. Today we have a stellar couple on that we admire for so many reasons. Addison and Juli Bevere! We were super grateful to interview 2 of the other Bevere brothers, Alec and Arden, and now we are excited to speak to the veterans of the family, the oldest brother and his wife....

JP discusses dating in church community, how to do it well, and how to not be weird about. Above all he points out how to leave someone better than you found them. The ultimate Christian dating question: How in the world do we date healthily in our communities? And no, we are not referring to anything strangely related to the years of, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”. But rather, how do we today actuall...

In today's MINISODE features Kait’s new friend, Cristina, co-founder of Matchmakers in the City! They have locations in LA, Washington, New York… she’s setting up people left and right, ALL across the country! And as a fellow-Jesus lover, she kind of serves as the token go-to Christian matchmaker! The ladies sit down to talk all the dating things from an EXPERT point of view. Some themes in today’...

Becca Stevens founder of Thistle Farms discusses facing sexual abuse and how she found healing. In today’s episode of Heart of Dating, Kait sits down for an emotionally filled, beautiful conversation with the incredible Becca Stevens. Becca Stevens is an author, speaker, Episcopal priest, justice entrepreneur, and founder and president of Thistle Farms which is a community of women survivors of pr...

Alec and Arden discuss everything girls are wondering about single men... what do they look for, pressures they feel as men, needs in a relationship, and why "men aren't asking women out”. In today’s awesome episode, we talk with Alec and Arden Bevere, two great, single, Jesus-loving men. They are brothers and work at Messenger International. They also co-founded Sons & Daughters, both which are f...

Jamie Ivey from The Happy Hour Podcast discusses how to be vulnerable with the person your dating to strengthen your relationship. In this LAST EPISODE OF SEASON 1 (holy moses!), Kait has a wonderful conversation with THE Jamie Ivey! Jamie is a podcaster, author, mother of four, Austin Texas native, working woman, wife to a wonderful pastor, and an all-around wonderful person. Four years ago, Jami...

Let's talk about spicing up your dating life! We have to do things different to increase connection! Whether we want to admit it or not, sometimes things can get a little stale in our dating lives… On today’s MINISODE, Kait sits down with Matt Jones to first & foremost laugh a TON, and second, walk you through what they think are 3 different stages of dating. Then in proper form, they thoroughly d...

Mike Foster discusses how technology impacts our relationships these days. He also reveals the importance of understanding different communication styles. Today, Kait talks to Mike Foster, a best-selling author, speaker, and advocate for not-so-perfect people and all around phenomenal guy. He is also a fellow podcaster and hosts the widely popular and deeply thought provoking podcast, Fun Therapy....

Jon Tyson profoundly discusses modern dating in both culture and the church through detailing out the theology of gender, marriage, and sexuality. Today, Kait has a conversation with Jon Tyson, a fearless pastor who, if this gives you any idea of his fearlessness, most recently did a sermon series called “The Controversial Jesus,” that talks about controversial topics like the transgender movement...

We have said it before & we will say it again… Mentorship is CRAZY important in relationships. Okay so today we are bringing you another MINISODE with musician friends of Kait’s, Giorgi + Leo. They are phenomenal singer and songwriters who love Jesus and have been married for 8.5 years coming from both Italy and California. We are ever so glad they found one other because y’all trust us, their mus...

Lauren Scruggs discusses insecurities and how not healing from them can effect your relationships...specially the one you have with yourself. In today’s episode, Kait has a conversation with Lauren Scruggs Kennedy, a kind-hearted, brave, inspiring, courageous, so kind hearted, and filled with so much love and joy. She is married to Jason Kennedy, who is a host on E-News and they live in Los Angele...

Clay discusses how pornography is harmful to relationships and if it’s not something that is dealt with, can have grave consequences and negative impacts on a marriage. Friends did you tune in last week? We spoke at LENGTH about the harmful affects on porn on our brain and how it can actually be an addiction. Clay Olsen from Fight the New Drug spoke candidly about some the staggering and vast affe...

Clay discusses the science of porn and statistic of the addiction and how it's become a serious problem in dating for many christians. We are just GOING THERE today. This is a topic that is so widespread, but also so feared when it comes to bringing to the light. There is so much confusion, so much pain, so much shame wrapped up in this 4 letter word. Today, in this two-part episode, Kait gets ext...

Gary Thomas dismantles the lie of there being a 'soulmate' or looking for 'the one' and presents instead that the person we marry is someone we CHOOSE. In today’s episode, Kait speaks with the INSANELY wise Gary Thomas about some controversial topics like the concept of a soulmate and the dangers (slash reality) of infatuation. Gary is an incredible speaker and author of 19 books – 19, PEOPLE! Som...

Have you ever wondered HOW you should go about asking your good friend on a date? How do you prepare for if they turn you down? In today’s MINISODE Kait sits down with a beautiful COUPLE friend of hers, Ryan and Aqueela Gunnarson. They have been married for 10 months and they love bringing people together, swear by the essential value of faith led community, and encourage laughter and growth in re...

Kat discusses being abstinent, the definition of , and what it's like to pursue it living as a single woman n NYC. She also goes into the WHY of abstinence. Today Kait sits down with the incredible Kat Harris for a REAL convo on the conversation of SEX… the journey of one woman’s abstinence. Kat is a Brooklyn based photographer, educator, and the Co-Founder of the online magazine The Refined Woman...

Cheryl and Jeff Scruggs discuss their story of getting divorced, infidelity, and remarrying each other 7 years after being divorced. “With God all things are possible.” ~Matthew 19:26 We are so excited about our newest podcast with Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs as they discuss more than just marriage and dating. Kait’s conversation with Jeff and Cheryl gets REAL on the topics of love, betrayal, infideli...

Sex, Boundaries, and Masturbation. John Mark Comer talks about all of it. Discusses what love is, having physical boundaries and handles the taboo question of masturbation.  Not gonna lie, we geeked out for weeks knowing we were going to have the opportunity to speak to John Mark Comer. Every time he speaks we take never ending pages of notes…. and leave with our brains exploding with new insight...

Jordan talks about how you DO NOT have to have it all together before dating and dating can be a great growing and learning experience. Are you always saying that there are no ‘good Christian singles’? We have hundreds of eligible singles in our Drop the Hanky Dating Program!  Jordan Lee Dooley is the founder of the ministry SoulScripts as well as a nationally recognized author, blogger, and speak...

Today we are SO excited to launch the Heart of Dating MINISODES- shorter, bite sizable episodes bringing you more #REAL content from singles, friends, & successful couples. This will be a place to share smaller, more compact thoughts and stories. WE COULD NOT BE MORE EXCITED to bring you more Heart of Dating content! We know the struggle is SO #real you guys...we are here to bring you an extra boo...

Chris discusses the Enneagram and how it's a useful tool that we can use in dating to see our own tendencies and desires. It may seem like in some ways the Ennegram has just recently become all the rage in your friend group…. but the reality is that it has been around for thousands of years, friends! Through this tool there is so much to learn personally about yourself and how you see and perceive...

Amena talks about how dating outside your type, approaching dating with an open mind and how your childhood influences your dating life. Today’s episode is SO. Much. FUN as we welcome Amena Brown to the Podcast! The fierce Amena Brown is a spoken word poet, speaker, author and event host. She and her husband, DJ Opdiggy, live in Atlanta together. Amena is the author of five spoken word CDs and two...

Holly discusses different red flags, we as christians, should look for when it comes to looking for a spouse and dating. She also discuses servitude, the difference of having needs and being needy, and working on liking ourselves. This week on The Heart of Dating Podcast, Kait sits down with her new friend, Holly Wagner. Holly is a woman of MANY talents. She and her husband Phillip are the Pastors...

What does it means to date as a Christian? What should our priorities be? What are our dating essentials? Find out in this premier episode of Heart of Dating. The first ever guest on the HeART of Dating Podcast is a long time friend of Kait’s as well as the pastor of her Church here in Los Angeles, Ger Jones. Ger current pastors Vintage Church Los Angeles, a church committed to word and spirit min...