Healing with WORTH

Do you have inner turmoil and conflict around the concept of forgiveness? In this episode, we talk about our experiences with forgiveness. We talk about why we chose to forgive, the benefits of forgiveness, how it is complicated in addiction, and what forgiveness is not. We know first hand how forgiveness is a delicate topic that creates confusion, pain, and even guilt for partners who’ve been bet...

Therapists Maurice W. Harker, CMHC and Kimberly Day MHCA join Healing with WORTH host Naomi to discuss litmus tests to know the intent of your partner.  They make the very important point that whether or not a partner is intending to harm and abuse, the pain is still real and needs to be addressed.   To learn more what Life Changing Services has to offer head to our website:   https...

Did you know there is a way out of the drama triangle? In this episode, we reveal the secret and how it has made a huge impact on our recovery. The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™ is a toxic interplay of three distinct roles; Persecutor, Victim, and Rescuer, which was first articulated by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the 1960s (and known as the Karpman Drama Triangle). In this episode, we Briefly explain...

Amie had been married for 18 years before she came to understand why her marriage was falling apart. Her ex-husband's addictions and abuse had caused enough damage, it was time to heal. During her healing process she wanted to understand more, not only about betrayal trauma but about pornography addiction itself.  This led to a passionate search for knowledge and truth surrounding this plague...

Amie shares with us her story of finding miracles during the most turbulent time of her life.  Listen as Amie shares how reading scriptures and truly listening helped her find answers to her earnest prayers.  When there seemed no possible way, a path was made before her and she was able to find peace and safety. Amie Woolsey is a Betrayal Trauma Coach and also a teacher for WORTH YSA a c...

Healing and recovery often take a while, Maurice uses the analogy of "Packing Your Wagon" to help women prepare for the long journey ahead.  Maurice W. Harker, CMHC, is the originator and Director of Life Changing Services. Life Changing Services has grown into a nation-wide service provider with over 35 clinicians, along with many mentors, and life coaches working together to serve over 1,00...

Clinician Kimberly Day is back with a webinar on abuse addressing listener questions. There is a common disbelief that if a spouse is not a monster then we must not be dealing with abusive behavior. Kim helps us understand how to view the abusive behavior to evaluate the impact, interaction, and intent of a spouse.   We discuss the following questions and more:   Now that we can recogniz...

It's not about having the best filters or filling their head with information. It's about capturing the heart and minds of those we love that will break the cycle of addiction for future generations. This episode was inspired by a listener question: Knowing what we know now and what we have faced, how can we help educate others and break the cycle for future generations? We reached out to Kristen...

Today's bonus episode comes from one of our psychoeducational classes offered to members of WORTH.  Hali teaches how finding connections in body, spirit and social interactions and finding time to be still can help us in our healing. To join a free therapeutic facilitated WORTH group you can find us at http://healingwithworth.org/ For more content you can follow us on  Facebook: WORTH -...

We are beginning a mini series within the podcast surrounding Domestic Abuse.  WORTH Clinician Kimberly Day, explains the difference between the behavior of an addict and the behavior of domestic abuse.  Listen as our host Janeen, and WORTH director Alana Gordon introduce this special audio recorded by Kimberly on the potential signs of abuse in a relationship.   We would love to he...

Gaslighting is a response to stress; people become either gaslighters or gaslightees when they feel threatened.  Are you stuck in the Gaslight Tango?  In all likelihood, both of you have Gaslight Triggers, situations that start you dancing .  In this episode we discuss the last 3 ways to turn off the gas: Identify Your GaslightTriggers, and His.  Focus on Feelings instead of "R...

This bonus episode is from a class taught by various members in WORTH.  The class we have chosen to share with you today on Therapeutic Disclosures is taught by our director Alana Gordon along with her husband Luke.  We wanted to give you a sample of one of the great resources we have in WORTH for our members.  The audio has been edited to protect the privacy of all participants of...

Have you ever been in a conversation where you are constantly second-guessing yourself; your feelings, your perceptions, your memories and by the end of the conversation you think you are going crazy?  If yes, you are being gaslighted. Did you know that there are 5 ways to turn off the gas in gaslighting?  In this episode we will explore the first two ways to turn off the gas: (1) Sort out truth f...

Luke Gordon,  director of the Men of Moroni program for Life Changing Services as well as a former missionary of an Addiction Recovery Meeting for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, joins hosts to discuss gaslighting and how it affects the betrayed spouse. Gaslighting is considered a pattern of manipulation and emotional abuse in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt w...

Luke Gordon, director of the Men of Moroni program for Life Changing Services and who has also been a missionary of an Addiction Recovery Meeting for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, joins hosts to discuss part of his recovery journey.  After being trapped in sexual addiction for many years, he is now sharing his experience of recovery and hope with others who are trapped in t...

Hosts continue their discussion on emotions. They describe briefly the science behind our emotions and how our brain process them, and different tools that are helpful to deal with them. https://positivepsychology.com/emotion-wheel/ No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotion at Work Liz Fosslien Like Dragons Did They Fight Maurice W. Harker, CMHC http://www.lifechangingservices.org/pr...

Intense feelings and emotions surface during a betrayal. Hosts share what they have learned about emotions, and why it is important to develop a strong emotional awareness. They share tips on how to navigate through the turbulent water of our feelings without getting lost or overwhelmed. It is a skill that can be developed that will benefit all aspects of our lives and will allow us to connect wit...

There are basic needs that each of us needs in a relationship such as honesty and trust.  For the betrayed, we wonder how we are ever going to get these needs met when we have no control over the behavior of the addict.  In this episode, we discuss authentic power and how to take care of ourselves and navigate through this difficult stage of the recovery process. Moving Beyond Betrayal T...

Women can experience a crisis of faith when dealing with betrayal trauma. While each crisis will be unique to the individual, when it does happen it seems like our whole world comes crashing down. Generally,  a faith crisis points to a kind of falling apart, a disintegration of one's former world that was previously held up by beliefs and propositions. Each of the hosts shares their heart-wre...

Emotional Self Care is all about how human beings have an innate desire to connect, to experience dynamic relationships with one another.   In addiction, however, this attachment is severed and leaves the betrayed feeling unsafe, which produces the fight, flight, or freeze response.  Though they are all three natural survival instincts none of these responses promote healing from trauma...

Hosts share stories and discuss the importance of physical self care in order to maintain balance and deal with the added stress betrayal trauma creates in the body.   The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Solving the Autoimmune Puzzle by Dr. Keesha Ewers Be Faithful, Not Faithless by Steven W. Owen Young Men General President https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-confer...

Intellectual self care is an important aspect of betrayal trauma recovery.  Hosts share what has been helpful to them in their recovery journey. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People  - Steven R Covey What Can I Do About Me - Rhyll Croshaw https://byupathway.lds.org/ https://rowboatandmarbles.org/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Sitting-in-a-Rowboat-eBook-9-15-11-2nd-revised.pdf

Dealing with a loved one struggling with addiction takes an enormous amount of energy.  Next to understanding boundaries, self care is one of the most vital components of healing from betrayal trauma.  The hosts discuss what self care is and different analogies as to why it is important.  This is the first of many episodes focusing on the different aspects of self care. Vicki Tidwell Palmer https:...

Alana Gordon LMFT-T and Director of the WORTH program shares her 10 tips for the betrayed to thrive during the holiday season.  Links for this episode are talks given in general conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints Neal A Maxwell-"Remember How Merciful the Lord Hath Been" https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2004/04/remember-how-merciful-the-lo...

Boundaries are needed in order for us to feel safe.  They help to protect ourselves and other family members when loved ones are struggling with destructive behaviors.  Generally people have a difficult time in setting boundaries, but learning how to do so will not only protect ourselves and preserve our own self worth, but will be a blessing to our loved one.  As we set boundaries,...