Healing with WORTH

This bonus episode is from a class taught by various members in WORTH.  The class we have chosen to share with you today on Therapeutic Disclosures is taught by our director Alana Gordon along with her husband Luke.  We wanted to give you a sample of one of the great resources we have in WORTH for our members.  The audio has been edited to protect the privacy of all participants of...

Have you ever been in a conversation where you are constantly second-guessing yourself; your feelings, your perceptions, your memories and by the end of the conversation you think you are going crazy?  If yes, you are being gaslighted. Did you know that there are 5 ways to turn off the gas in gaslighting?  In this episode we will explore the first two ways to turn off the gas: (1) Sort out truth f...

Luke Gordon,  director of the Men of Moroni program for Life Changing Services as well as a former missionary of an Addiction Recovery Meeting for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, joins hosts to discuss gaslighting and how it affects the betrayed spouse. Gaslighting is considered a pattern of manipulation and emotional abuse in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt w...

Luke Gordon, director of the Men of Moroni program for Life Changing Services and who has also been a missionary of an Addiction Recovery Meeting for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, joins hosts to discuss part of his recovery journey.  After being trapped in sexual addiction for many years, he is now sharing his experience of recovery and hope with others who are trapped in t...

Hosts continue their discussion on emotions. They describe briefly the science behind our emotions and how our brain process them, and different tools that are helpful to deal with them. https://positivepsychology.com/emotion-wheel/ No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotion at Work Liz Fosslien Like Dragons Did They Fight Maurice W. Harker, CMHC http://www.lifechangingservices.org/pr...

Intense feelings and emotions surface during a betrayal. Hosts share what they have learned about emotions, and why it is important to develop a strong emotional awareness. They share tips on how to navigate through the turbulent water of our feelings without getting lost or overwhelmed. It is a skill that can be developed that will benefit all aspects of our lives and will allow us to connect wit...

There are basic needs that each of us needs in a relationship such as honesty and trust.  For the betrayed, we wonder how we are ever going to get these needs met when we have no control over the behavior of the addict.  In this episode, we discuss authentic power and how to take care of ourselves and navigate through this difficult stage of the recovery process. Moving Beyond Betrayal T...

Women can experience a crisis of faith when dealing with betrayal trauma. While each crisis will be unique to the individual, when it does happen it seems like our whole world comes crashing down. Generally,  a faith crisis points to a kind of falling apart, a disintegration of one's former world that was previously held up by beliefs and propositions. Each of the hosts shares their heart-wre...

Emotional Self Care is all about how human beings have an innate desire to connect, to experience dynamic relationships with one another.   In addiction, however, this attachment is severed and leaves the betrayed feeling unsafe, which produces the fight, flight, or freeze response.  Though they are all three natural survival instincts none of these responses promote healing from trauma...

Hosts share stories and discuss the importance of physical self care in order to maintain balance and deal with the added stress betrayal trauma creates in the body.   The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Solving the Autoimmune Puzzle by Dr. Keesha Ewers Be Faithful, Not Faithless by Steven W. Owen Young Men General President https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-confer...

Intellectual self care is an important aspect of betrayal trauma recovery.  Hosts share what has been helpful to them in their recovery journey. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People  - Steven R Covey What Can I Do About Me - Rhyll Croshaw https://byupathway.lds.org/ https://rowboatandmarbles.org/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Sitting-in-a-Rowboat-eBook-9-15-11-2nd-revised.pdf

Dealing with a loved one struggling with addiction takes an enormous amount of energy.  Next to understanding boundaries, self care is one of the most vital components of healing from betrayal trauma.  The hosts discuss what self care is and different analogies as to why it is important.  This is the first of many episodes focusing on the different aspects of self care. Vicki Tidwell Palmer https:...

Alana Gordon LMFT-T and Director of the WORTH program shares her 10 tips for the betrayed to thrive during the holiday season.  Links for this episode are talks given in general conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints Neal A Maxwell-"Remember How Merciful the Lord Hath Been" https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2004/04/remember-how-merciful-the-lo...

Boundaries are needed in order for us to feel safe.  They help to protect ourselves and other family members when loved ones are struggling with destructive behaviors.  Generally people have a difficult time in setting boundaries, but learning how to do so will not only protect ourselves and preserve our own self worth, but will be a blessing to our loved one.  As we set boundaries,...

Last week we discussed our different analogies about what betrayal trauma has felt like for us in the form of trucks, manure and pits. We have Kimberly Day with us today.  She is one of the WORTH therapists with Life Changing Services, and is a Licensed MHCA Therapist who gives her insights on betrayal trauma. To sign up for a WORTH group or read our blog you can find us at http://www.healing...

The term “betrayal trauma” refers to the damage that is caused when you experience a betrayal in your relationship that damages the trust, safety, and security of the bond you have with your partner.  The hosts use analogies to explain how betrayal trauma affects them and their families.   To find more analogies you may relate to check out our blog at https://healingwithworth.blogspot.com/p/blog-p...

In our first episode the hosts introduce themselves and how they found WORTH.  They discuss the importance of reaching out and knowing how to find people to safely share your story.  Not one person will be able to perfectly respond to what you need, but with empathy they can show you love in your time of need.  WORTH groups help these ladies know they are not alone and many of the t...