Healing Our Relationships: From Codependency to Authenticity

Codependency can be so confusing. Where does true caring end and self-abandonment begin? How do we know when we've shifted from showing up with love into people-pleasing, controlling, or living for someone else's approval? In this episode of Healing Our Relationships , I share one of the most direct tools that helped me begin to sort this out: the framework of "Codependency and Recovery — The Diff...

In this special conversation, I sit down with Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. — A Toltec Master, author, speaker, teacher, and the son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements . Together, we explore the Toltec path and how its wisdom can help us navigate the fears and patterns that shape our relationships.  Miguel shares powerful insights from his new book, The Poisoned Arrow: The Toltec Guide to Ove...

Boundaries are one of the most misunderstood aspects of healing and recovery. For some of us, being "boundariless" looks like saying yes when we mean no, letting others decide for us, and living in fear of rejection or disapproval. For others, it looks like building walls, controlling outcomes, or cutting people off entirely as a way to feel safe. Both are forms of disconnection — from ourselves,...

You can't just flip a switch and love yourself after a lifetime of feeling disconnected. For many of us, self-worth was never modeled it was something we had to earn through approval, performance, or meeting someone else's expectations. Over time, our nervous systems adapted to live in survival mode, we lost sense of who we really are and  But this is not who you are. Beneath the roles you've play...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships . I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. Love avoidance often gets mistaken for independence, but in truth, it's another face of codependency — a strategy to control connection and protect ourselves from pain. In this episode, I'm unpacking three core beliefs that keep love-avoidant patterns alive:  I can't trust anyone, If I don't get close, I can't g...

What a title! We are packing a lot in today. In this episode of  Healing Our Relationships , we explore the deep-rooted beliefs that quietly shape compliance patterns—the part of us that abandons our truth to stay safe, to be liked and to avoid loss. These patterns aren't weakness. They're survival strategies we learned in environments where our voice didn't feel welcome. But they cost us. They co...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships . I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. In this episode, I'm diving deep into the low self-esteem patterns that so many carry—patterns that whisper, "I'm not enough," "I'm not worthy," "I can't trust myself," and "If I show up fully, I'll be rejected." These beliefs aren't the truth of who you are. They're stories you learned to survive. And if you're...

This is a bonus episode — one I felt called to share because I know how torturous it can feel to be caught in that anxious loop of "Should I stay or should I go?" And there is a good chance if you are on this journey with me. You may be in a relationship that doesn't feel good. When you're unsure what's yours and what belongs to someone else… the confusion can feel unbearable. The mind obsesses, t...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships . I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. So many of us live trapped inside stories we inherited long ago — stories about who we're supposed to be, what makes us worthy, and how love must be earned. In this episode of Healing Our Relationships , I explore how these old stories block us from our authentic, divine unfolding — and how remembering who we tr...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships . I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide, In this episode, I want to go deeper than just naming patterns of codependency. Because self-abandonment comes at a cost — and until we see that cost clearly, we stay trapped in cycles of survival instead of living the life we're here to live. Today, I'm exploring the hidden toll that self-abandonment takes on u...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide.  One of the biggest questions I hear from people on the journey of codependency recovery is this: "How do I know if I'm being loving… or if I'm being codependent?" Because when you're healing from codependency, it can feel confusing to tell the difference between true caring and patterns of people-pleasing, sel...

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide.  In our first episode, we talked about noticing the ways we abandon ourselves to feel loved, safe, or chosen. But awareness alone can leave us wondering… Why do I keep doing this, even when I know better? In this episode, I want to help you understand why codependency runs so deep. We'll explore how these patte...

Welcome to the first episode of Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide.  If you've ever felt like you're losing yourself in relationships… like you're constantly saying yes when you mean no, staying silent to avoid conflict, or feeling invisible even with the people you love most… you're not alone. Today, I want to help you begin to understand what codependency real...

Welcome to Healing Our Relationships . I'm Marisa. I'm a Healer and Transformation Guide, and someone who's spent years untangling my own patterns of addictions and codependency — and helping others do the same. Join me each week on Healing Our Relationships as I guide you through understanding codependency, reconnecting with your authentic self, and creating relationships rooted in truth. Codepen...