Healing For Love

Send Gemma a message Why do caring, empathic women end up doing the heavy lifting in love, staying out of guilt and “rescuing” partners at the expense of their own needs? In this episode, Gemma unpacks the unconscious pull to fix others, how childhood patterns (self-sacrifice, subjugation, emotional deprivation) set the stage, and the real cost of over-functioning. You’ll learn how to shift from “...

Send Gemma a message  Every past relationship leaves clues.  Patterns you’ve fallen into.  The kinds of people you’re drawn to.  The roles you find yourself playing without even realising it. In this episode of Healing for Love , I’m walking you through 6 powerful reflection questions to help you see your love life more clearly and prepare you to approach dating in a new way. These are the same qu...

Send Gemma a message Meet Sophie, a 37-year-old woman who spent years feeling stuck in painful relationship cycles. Like many women I work with, she kept attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men — despite knowing, deep down, that something wasn’t right. In this episode, I’ll walk you through Sophie’s journey: from identifying her relational schemas (like abandonment, emotional depriv...

Send Gemma a message In this important solo episode, Gemma reflects on a disturbing real-life conversation overheard between two teenage girls — one of whom casually describes being physically assaulted by her boyfriend. What follows is a powerful deep dive into why girls and women downplay harmful, even abusive, behaviour in relationships. From shame, trauma bonding, and fear of judgement to deep...

Send Gemma a message In this episode, Gemma explores one of the most foundational concepts when it comes to healing relationship patterns, the abandonment schema. Whether you're currently dating or in a long-term relationship, understanding your own abandonment schema and how it influences your emotions, choices, and reactions is essential for cultivating emotional safety and secure connectio...

Send Gemma a message Schema Coaching & Support – Work with Dr. Gemma Gladstone Support the show 🎓 FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS - Why smart women override red flags in dating 😊 Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   ✅ Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for l...

Send Gemma a message In this mailbox episode , we dive into a listener question from Amy (name changed for privacy), who is struggling with the trauma bond with her narcissistic and emotionally neglectful mother . Amy shares her experience of emotional neglect, manipulation, gaslighting, and rejection —all while navigating the complicated reality of trying to maintain boundaries.  ✔ What a trauma...

Send Gemma a message In this episode, Dr Gemma takes a deep dive into one of the most common and persistent life patterns— people-pleasing . If you've ever found yourself constantly prioritizing others' needs over your own, struggling to say no, or feeling exhausted from always trying to keep the peace, this episode is for you. She explores: ✅ What people-pleasing really is and why it’s...

Send Gemma a message Episode Description: Are you dating someone new and wondering if they’re truly a good match? Or do you have a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners? In this episode, Gemma breaks down The 7 Deadly Sins of the Narcissistic Dater —key warning signs that indicate deeper personality issues and potential toxic relationship dynamics. These signs ofte...

Send Gemma a message Episode Overview: In this deeply personal and insightful episode, Dr. Justine Corry shares her experience of family estrangement, reflecting on her relationship with a narcissistic mother and the impact on her life. Dr. Gemma Gladstone joins the conversation as they both discuss the psychological toll of estrangement and how schema therapy can help individuals heal and move fo...

Send Gemma a message Happy New Year! In this first episode of 2025, Gemma invites you to reflect on the life scripts and recurring patterns that no longer serve you and take intentional steps toward rewriting them. Life scripts are the unconscious stories and patterns that shape how we think, feel, and behave, often holding us back from living authentically and joyfully. By unpacking and letting g...

Send Gemma a message Welcome to the final Episode for this year!  We will be back with new episodes in 2025.   Support the show 🎓 FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS - Why smart women override red flags in dating 😊 Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program 🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List   ✅ Dating App Profile CHECK-UP 🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide 💛 Elevate Y...

Send Gemma a message In this episode of we dive deep into the "martyr mode," a coping style often discussed in schema therapy. We explore what it means to have a martyr complex or mode, how it shows up in relationships, and the emotional dynamics that fuel this behaviour. Key topics covered include: The defining traits of the martyr mode and how it may stem from deeper emotional wounds,...

Send Gemma a message Healthy Adult Daily Practice: An Intentional Reflection Tool In this episode, Gemma introduces a practical tool called Healthy Adult Daily Practice , designed to help you strengthen and nurture your Healthy Adult mode. Building on the foundational features of the Healthy Adult mode discussed in the previous episode, this episode walks you through a simple, intentional practice...

Send Gemma a message In this episode, Gemma dives into the cornerstone of schema therapy: the Healthy Adult mode . This is the part of us that represents balance, wisdom, and compassion—our best self that helps us navigate relationships, emotions, and life’s challenges effectively. What You’ll Learn: Mindfulness: Why mindfulness is the foundational building block for self-awareness, self-reflectio...

Send Gemma a message In this solo episode, Gemma dives deep into the concept of trauma bonding, shedding light on why some people feel emotionally tethered to unhealthy or toxic relationships. Drawing from listener questions she explores the psychological mechanisms behind trauma bonds, including the powerful dynamic of the "good-bad ratio" and how it can replicate patterns from childhoo...

Send Gemma a message This episode will resonate with anyone struggling with an overdeveloped sense of responsibility to others and those who feel “stuck” in cycles of overgiving.  In this solo episode, Gemma dives deep into the self-sacrifice schema, exploring how it manifests, its origins in family dynamics, and the toll it takes on those who constantly prioritize others over themselves. This sch...

Send Gemma a message New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently" : A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! Spots are limited.  Signature Course – The Red Flag Project : This newly updated course covers schemas, red flags, and how to recognize unavai...

Send Gemma a message New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently" : A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! Spots are limited.  Signature Course – The Red Flag Project : This newly updated course covers schemas, red flags, and how to recognize unavai...

Send Gemma a message Special Announcements: New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently" : A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! Signature Course – The Red Flag Project : This newly updated course covers schemas, red flags, and how to recognize una...

Send Gemma a message Special Announcements: New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently" : A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! Signature Course – The Red Flag Project : This newly updated course covers schemas, red flags, and how to recognize una...

Send Gemma a message In this episode, we explore the challenges of navigating casual sex culture and hookup culture, particularly for individuals with abandonment schemas, emotional deprivation schemas, or anxious attachment styles. Join us as we discuss common scenarios, the emotional impacts of casual encounters, and strategies for those seeking meaningful relationships. Key Discussion Points: T...

Send Gemma a message New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently" : A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! In this thoughtful Mailbox episode, Justine and Gemma respond to a listener’s heartfelt question about navigating the confusion between green...

Send Gemma a message Special Announcements: New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently" : A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE ! Signature Course – The Red Flag Project : This newly updated course covers schemas, red flags, and how to recognize una...

Send Gemma a message In this episode, we unpack the complexities of the entitlement schema—a schema that's often linked to narcissistic traits and one that rarely brings individuals to therapy. Unlike schemas like abandonment or self-sacrifice, those with an entitlement schema often believe their way of thinking is justified, which makes it hard to seek change. We explore how this schema is f...