Lilly Rachels

Growth Over Easy: Relationship Skills for Long-Term Love

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Growth Over Easy is a relationship podcast for couples and individuals who want long-term love that actually feels good to be in. Hosted by Lilly Rachels, MSW — relationship coach, Relational Life Therapy practitioner, and co-founder of Relational Somatics — this podcast goes beyond communication tips to explore the nervous system patterns, attachment styles, and childhood blueprints that shape the way you love, fight, shut down, and connect. Most couples aren't failing for lack of love. They're failing because nobody taught them how to stay: in conflict, in discomfort, in the moment when it w...

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Lilly Rachels

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115: 4 Ways Overthinking is Keeping You Lonely 16.02.2024 7:33

Let’s talk about overthinking and four ways it keeps you from connecting with others. Need support? Book a Virtual Coffee with Lilly HERE or email Lilly at lilly@lillyrachels.com. If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy community on Substack. If you know anyone who could benefit from this podcast please share it with them. This is a public episode. If you...

Workshop Replay: “I Can’t Believe This” - The Stages of Grief: Denial 09.02.2024 18:48

In this workshop, we begin to unpack the stages of grief. Grief is not a linear journey. The Stages of Grief represent experiences, not a set map to follow. You may experience different stages more than once. Be patient with yourself. Grief can be complicated - you don’t have to go through it alone. Curious about what support would look like? Book a Virtual Coffee with me. This is a public episode...

114: How to Start Releasing Suppressed Grief 02.02.2024 3:03

A simple practice to begin releasing suppressed emotions. Grief can be complicated - you don’t have to go through it alone. Need some support? Book a Virtual Coffee with Lilly HERE or email Lilly at lilly@lillyrachels.com. If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy community on Substack. Subscribed If you know anyone who could benefit from this podcast please...

113: I'm Angry My Mom Died 26.01.2024 8:40

Let’s talk about anger and how it shows up when you are moving through grief. Grief can be complicated - you don’t have to go through it alone. Need some support? Book a Virtual Coffee with Lilly HERE or email Lilly at lilly@lillyrachels.com. If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy community on Substack. If you know anyone who could benefit from this podca...

Workshop: Grief Sucks & I'm Confused 20.01.2024 28:02

Let's talk about complicated grief and how to stop suppressing and escaping, and start healing. Subscribe for Free to view! Need more support? Confused about where to start? Email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com to sign up for a Free Support Call (30 min). This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.growthovereasy.com

112: I Miss You and I Don't: Navigating Complicated Grief 20.01.2024 10:06

Let's talk about the complicated grief that comes with losing a parent you had a rough relationship with. If you are in the middle of a life transition/grief and need support please email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.growthovereasy.com

111: Let's Talk About Grief 20.01.2024 15:30

This one is a little different. I share my experience with grief and the holidays. If you are in the middle of a life transition/grief and need support please email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.growthovereasy.com

110: This Will Ruin Your Communication 13.11.2023 5:15

In this episode, I talk about two of the biggest pitfalls in relationships: assumptions and misunderstandings. And how to move through these pitfalls to find connection again. Get my Free Guide: 7 Keys to Healthy Communication . Want to learn more about my coaching practice? Visit my Website . This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus...

109: Breaking Free from Emotional Loops 06.11.2023 7:02

In this podcast episode, I share how I deal with overwhelming emotions when something goes wrong in life. I describe a simple practice where I tune into my body, name the sensations and emotions I feel without taking them on as my identity, and find that the tension and emotion start to dissipate, helping me regain peace and move beyond the loop of my story about the experience. Get my Free Guide:...

108: Fighting to Be Right: A Relationship Roadblock 30.10.2023 4:32

In this episode, I explore the common but detrimental habit of "Fighting to Be Right" in relationships. This dynamic breeds competition and damages connection, I offer practical steps for you to shift your focus towards valuing differences, fostering understanding, and building healthier, more cohesive partnerships. Need support? Email me lilly@lillyrachels.com. I’m @lillyrachels on all social pla...

107: Are You Quietly Quitting Your Relationship? 23.10.2023 10:39

In this episode, we discuss "quiet quitting" in relationships, when people stop trying and become distant. We explore why this happens and how to fix it. For more tips, check out my free guide 7 Keys for Healthy Communication If you've quietly quit your relationship and need help finding clarity, click HERE to schedule a Free Relationship Audit . This is a public episode. If you would like to disc...

106: My 7 Keys to Healthy Communication 02.10.2023 10:38

Are you living more like roommates and less like lovers? Is your communication mostly conflict or nonexistent? I want to help! Email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com to get a free relationship audit. Submit Your Write-In Wednesday HERE! Check out my website HERE . Connect with me HERE! @lillyrachels on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other su...

105: Stop Saying "I'm Fine" When You're NOT 18.09.2023 6:15

Today I look at how the phrase “I’m fine” undermines relational safety and what to say instead. I would love to hear from you, comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. Submit Your Write-In Wednesday HERE! Check out my website HERE . Connect with me HERE! @lillyrachels on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers...

104: Relational Microdosing 11.09.2023 6:09

Today I'm unpacking relational microdosing and how to find clarity in your relationship. I would love to hear from you, comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. Submit Your Write-in Wednesday HERE! Check out my website HERE . Connect with me HERE! @lillyrachels on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get...

103: The Evolution of Relationship 21.08.2023 7:33

Sign-up for Blueprint HERE I would love to hear from you, comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. Check out my website HERE . Connect with me HERE! @lillyrachels on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.growthovereasy.com

102: Healing Where You Are 01.08.2023 5:17

I would love to hear from you, comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. Check out my website HERE . Connect with me HERE! @lillyrachels on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.growthovereasy.com

101: Campsite Principle 26.06.2023 4:51

I would love to hear from you, comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. If you are interested in Enneagram & Relationships Beta Round click the link below to book a FREE discovery call or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. Connect with me HERE! @lillyrachels on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get ac...

100: Beneath the Ice: Grooming and Sexual Abuse in Youth Sports 05.06.2023 1:05:49

TRIGGER WARNING **This episode contains detailed discussions of sexual abuse, which may be distressing or triggering to some listeners. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is affected by sexual abuse, please seek support from a trusted professional or helpline. Remember to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being while engaging with this content.** Today I’m joined by...

99: How You Get Rid of Things Matters 22.05.2023 5:43

I would love to hear from you, comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. If you are interested in coaching with me click the link below to book a FREE discovery call or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. Connect with me HERE! @lillyrachels on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episod...

98: Do You Need An Emotional Demo Day? 04.05.2023 7:25

97: What Your Physical Space Says About Your Emotional State 17.04.2023 11:16

96: Are You Destination or Journey Minded? 10.04.2023 9:59

95: Is Relational Dedication Dead? 27.03.2023 8:46

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed what you heard please click below to share this with someone you love! I would love to hear your thoughts, comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com I am accepting 2 new coaching clients. If you are interested in coaching with me click the link below to book a FREE discovery call or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. Connect with me HERE! @l...

94: What Truly Creates Deep Relational Connection 20.03.2023 7:16

Are you supporting a grieving partner? Or Friend? Download my FREE Guide: 6 Ways to Support a Grieving Loved One, click HERE to get the guide. I would love to hear from you! Comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com if you have any insights or feedback to share! I am currently accepting 2 new coaching clients. If you are interested in coaching with me click the link below to book a...

93: How To Process Uncomfortable Emotions 13.03.2023 6:13

I would love to hear from you when you try this practice, comment on Substack or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. I am currently accepting 3 new coaching clients. If you are interested in coaching with me click the link below to book a FREE discovery call or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com. Connect with me HERE! @lillyrachels on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok This is a public episode. If you wou...