Growth Over Easy: Relationship Skills for Long-Term Love

In this episode, Lilly breaks down the second of five losing strategies that keep you stuck in the same conflicts: controlling your partner . She explains the difference between direct and indirect control, how your nervous system thinks control equals safety, and what to do instead so you can collaborate instead of dictate. This is Part 2 of a 5-part series on the losing strategies that sabotage...

FREE EVENT: https://stan.store/lillyrachels/p/undefeated In this episode, Lilly kicks off a 5-part series on losing strategies in communication. She breaks down the first losing strategy: fighting to be right. You’ll learn how prioritizing being right over being connected turns conflict into competition, how your nervous system hijacks this pattern, and what to do instead. This episode is for you...

In this episode, Lilly breaks down the repair process that actually works using Terry Real’s Feedback Wheel. She explains the two biggest mistakes we make when trying to repair after conflict. This episode is for you if you feel like you’re always apologizing but nothing ever gets resolved, if conflicts drag on for days instead of clearing in minutes, or if you’re tired of walking on eggshells in...

In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly explains why your body reacts before your brain can catch up in arguments, why traditional talk therapy wasn’t built for how men process and heal, and how nervous system work helps you lead your relationship without endless therapy sessions. This is for men who want real results, not more talking. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why small critiques fe...

In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly uncovers a pattern that’s quietly destroying connection in high-achieving relationships: high-functioning survival . You’re checking all the boxes at work and home, you’re dependable and productive, but emotionally you feel numb, disconnected, and unable to relax even when you’re safe. Lilly explains why your nervous system might be stuck in survival m...

Feeling more like roommates than lovers? Download Lilly’s guide here, Get Out of the Roommate Rut or by commenting PUMPKIN on any of her Instagram posts. The first 50 people to download it get it completely free. In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly explores one of the most subtle but powerful shifts you can make in your relationships: the difference between being detached and being disco...

In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly breaks down the three silent killers that quietly destroy communication in relationships: unverbalized expectations, misunderstandings, and assumptions. These hidden patterns create resentment, disconnection, and distance between partners, but they are completely fixable when you know what to look for. Lilly teaches how to replace fantasy thinking with...

In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly walks you through the exact framework she uses with her clients to help them create deeper, healthier relationships. She breaks down each phase of her signature method, the Relational Blueprint Method, and shows how it helps you identify your patterns, expand your capacity to receive love, and learn to communicate from a grounded and loving place. You’...

In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly shares the mission behind the podcast and the personal story that shaped her passion for helping others build healthy, lasting relationships. She opens up about getting married young, struggling with conflict, and how unhealed childhood patterns influenced her ability to receive love. Through her own healing journey, she discovered that relationships a...

Welcome to Relationship Growth , the podcast that teaches you the skills to not just find love but keep it alive. In this opening episode, host Lilly Rachels shares the heart behind the rebrand and why this show exists: to help you grow a relationship you don’t just stay in but thrive in. Lilly explains that healthy relationships don’t happen by luck. They are cultivated through consistent care, c...

If your relationship feels harder than it should, you might be playing two different games without realizing it. In this episode, I share how mismatched expectations, childhood blueprints, and unspoken needs create friction and how my Me → You → We process helps couples get on the same page. You’ll learn how to rediscover yourself, relearn your partner, and recreate a relationship built on trust,...

In today’s episode, I’m unpacking a reel I saw recently that really bothered me. It suggested that you should strive not to care if your partner cheats — that detachment will somehow make you more desirable. Here’s the thing: that’s not detachment. That’s avoidance. I get it, protecting yourself can feel safer than risking being hurt again. But building walls to avoid pain doesn’t make you stronge...

Ever felt yourself shut down after a tense moment with your partner, only to realize it wasn’t really about the moment at all? In this episode, I share a personal story of conflict, emotional shutdown, and repair. I walk you through how childhood wounds still echo in adult relationships and what it truly takes to navigate those moments with courage and connection. You’ll hear: * The childhood beli...

Feeling stuck in your relationship? This episode is for you. I’m sharing what stalemate looks like, how to move through resentment, and why emotional courage (and a little play) might be the reset you need. 💌 Connect with me: Email: lilly@growthovereasy.com ⬇️ Join me for 31 days of emotional grounding + expressive courage This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other sub...

In this unfiltered episode, I talk through grief, perfectionism, emotional armor, and my Friday night. Recorded from the mountains on the first day of summer — with dogs snoring nearby and tears still fresh — this is me, sharing honestly. About a client I lost. About why I do this work. And about how easy it is to isolate when what we really need is connection. If you’re tired of holding it all to...

In this episode of Relearn Relationships , I share life updates, including an exciting new venture: Relational Somatics , a company focused on trauma training for practitioners. I also dive into recent reflections on relationships, boundaries, and people-pleasing, discussing how setting boundaries has transformed my personal and professional life. Follow Relational Somatics on Instagram: https://w...

In this episode of  Relearn Relationships , we explore the concept that " how you do anything is how you do everything." We examine how our internal patterns influence all areas of life, especially under pressure. I share a personal story of self-reflection, explaining how to identify the root of negative emotions and choose a more intentional experience in relationships and everyday life. Key Tak...

In this episode of Relearn Relationships , we explore how to navigate overwhelming situations that are out of our control. I share three key strategies that help me shift from rumination and frustration to acceptance and peace Get my FREE guide and meditation FEEL TO HEAL . Key Takeaways: * Prayer – Praying for the person or situation helps shift your energy, release resentment, and bring a sense...

In today’s episode of  Relearn Relationships , we discuss breakups and how to reframe the idea of "relationship failure." I share a personal story about my own divorce and the mindset shift that helped me see relationships—not through the lens of longevity but through growth. Key Takeaways: * A relationship doesn’t have to last forever to be successful. * Growth, self-discovery, and lessons learne...

Free Guide + 5-Minute Grounding Meditation to Calm Anxiety In this episode of Relearn Relationships , I share the three practical tools I use to quiet my mind to fully engage with my partner. These techniques have transformed how I show up in my relationships, and they can do the same for you. Key Takeaways Overthinking and Listening : Overthinking doesn’t mean you’re a bad listener, but it can pu...

Why Making Yourself the Problem Makes You the Solution In this episode of Relearn Relationships , we explore the transformative power of personal responsibility. Instead of blaming others for failed relationships, we discusses how identifying yourself as part of the problem opens the door to growth and lasting change. Through introspection, vulnerability, and actionable steps, you can let go of ba...

In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the painful and confusing experience of wanting to be close to someone but finding yourself unintentionally pushing them away. This dynamic often stems from unhealed emotional wounds and protective patterns. Learn why grounded and healthy relationships can feel confusing and how to address the barriers preventing deep connection. Book a walk-and...

In this episode of Relearn Relationships , we explore the power of words in shaping your relationship From shifting negative talk to fostering connection through positive communication, this episode highlights how small changes in language can lead to big transformations. Upcoming Event: Join The Three Silent Killers of Relationships Masterclass on January 9, 2025. Learn how to tackle common commu...

In this episode, we reflect on 2024 and set relationship goals for the new year. I share how I evaluate what worked and what didn’t in my relationships and how to do this with compassion and curiosity. I talk about three common challenges—unspoken expectations, assumptions, and miscommunication—which we will cover in-depth in a free virtual masterclass in January! FREE virtual masterclass: The Big...

In this episode of Relearn Relationships , we explore the fear of rejection and how it impacts your relationships. Lilly dives into the roots of this fear, stemming from childhood experiences, and examines how it manifests as self-sabotaging behaviors like keeping others at arm's length or constantly seeking validation. You'll learn to distinguish between real and imagined fears, break the cycle o...