Grown Girl Divorce Podcast

You've got questions?! Well, our podcast host, Kimberly A. Cook, is ready to answer them.  If we are truly a community of support, then answering the questions that are keeping many of our sisters up at night is what needs to happen! In this episode, Kimberly answers: 1. My spouse says I don't need my own lawyer in our divorce. Do I? 2. Should I meet with a divorce lawyer even if I'm just consider...

Are you re-entering the workforce or ready to move your career forward? Has your divorce done a number on your self-confidence? In this episode, our host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. chats with HR Professional, career coach, and CEO of The Pencil Skirt Project, Kenyatta Young, is on a mission to help women rebuild confidence, conquer fears, and navigate their careers while living a life of purpose. She...

Approximately 98% of domestic violence victims also experience financial abuse. But, what is financial abuse? How do we protect ourselves before we become a victim?  How do we mitigate the damage caused by financial abuse in our relationships as we move forward? Today’s guest is Tiffany Grant, the creator and host of the Money Talk with Tiff podcast. A self-proclaimed “money nerd,” Tiffany uses he...

Relationships are the foundation of our personal and professional lives. But, what happens when our relationship with ourselves or those we have welcomed into our lives are unhealthy?  How do we protect and support our mental health in our relationships? In this episode, our guest, Camesha L. Jones, the Executive Director of Sista Afya Community Mental and Wellness, helps us understand the followi...

Are you ready to expose your children to the world? Are you concerned about post-divorce solo travel with the kids?  Don't be! We got you! In this episode, Grown Girl Divorce host, Kimberly A Cook, chats with Passports & Playtime founder, Nichole Hurst, about exposing your children to the world by creating unique and educational experiences.  Since we know as a co-parent you can't just "take off,"...

Is your spouse acting differently since you asked for a divorce? Are you concerned they are hiding money?  Do you have a clear understanding of how much money it really takes to maintain your lifestyle? Kathy Johnson, CPA, CFF, is a forensic accountant hired in divorce cases to help you answer those very questions. In this episode, Kathy gives us invaluable information on: The difference between a...

Fuhara means "happy" in Swahili. Our guest today, Fuhara, shares her personal journey on: - Why being "unhappy" in a marriage is a valid reason to end it; - How pressure to keep everyone else happy ends up making you unhappy; - The importance of self-care before and during divorce; - Why private mediation made the most sense for her family;  -  How to trust and follow your own path; and more. The...

Is the divorce over but you can't seem to move forward? Do you find yourself questioning if you made the right decision or if you should have done something differently?  Are you mentally and emotionally exhausted? If the answer is yes, then listening to this episode is taking the first step on your road to divorce recovery.  In this episode, our host, Kimberly A Cook, Esq. chats with divorce reco...

Ever wonder why some relationships work while others don't? Or, are you trying to understand if your current relationship is the right one for you? In this episode, our host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. speaks with relationship coach, Dr. Loretta Billoups about: Why some relationships fail? The green, yellow, and red "relationship lights?" How couples can transform their relationship? Why Black women t...

Divorce can be a traumatic experience for children. But, it doesn't have to be! Parents have complete control over the impact that their divorce will have on their children. Our guest, Tara Seals, professionally known as "The Bossy Educator," is an education consultant, philanthropist, and the author of, "Divorce: The Unspoken Childhood Trauma."   In this episode, Tara shares with us: - Age approp...

Are you considering divorce but don't know where to start? Do you have a friend going through a divorce and you want to help them? Is the divorce process so overwhelming that you don't know where to start? Want to learn how to save $$$ in your divorce? If your answer is "yes" to any of these questions, then this is the podcast episode for you!   Our host, Kimberly A. Cook, Esq. spent over a decade...

Working with the wrong lawyer will cost you more than a Birkin bag! And, not the consignment price either! Going through a divorce is a legal process clouded by emotions. You need someone who can help you push through the emotional fog while protecting your children and finances.  This is an important person and make seem like an impossible find.  In this episode, Kimberly shares: 1.  What to look...

So, your spouse wants a divorce?! Whether you saw this coming or not, you are now faced with a reality that know one expects to ever have.  Yet, before you do or say something that may make things worse, make sure to listen to this episode.  In this episode, Kimberly discusses: 1.  How to engage in a conversation with your spouse about the divorce, 2. What to do if you receive a divorce summons or...

Are you preparing to interview a divorce attorney?  Are you a mom worried about how divorce will impact your kids? Do you feel overwhelmed by the divorce process and it hasn't even started?  Do you want to make the most out of your lawyer interview? If you answered "yes" to any of the above, then this episode is for you!  Interviewing lawyers can be overwhelming especially because you are trying t...

Salama means safe in Swahili.  Our guest today, Salama, shares her story about divorce and co-parenting: - shining the light on verbal & physical abuse in wealthy families, - why her children, and not the unhealthy relationship, were the reason she moved forward with a divorce, - how mediation can work even in high conflict or domestic abuse cases, - what she wish she knew about divorce before sta...

Amali means “hope” and today’s guest is “hope personified!”  Listen to her story about how hope and belief in love not only got her through a tough divorce but helped her find her way back to herself and to finding love again! In this episode, Amali shares: - Letting go of the childhood burdens and expectations we have is important to moving forward; - How therapy can be a game changer; - Working...

Are you considering a divorce? The realization that your marriage may be ending can be sad, upsetting, and scary!  This bonus episode discusses: - How you may know divorce is the next step? - Why divorce is a marathon and not a sprint? - The things to do when considering divorce, and - The things not to do when considering divorce. This episode provides an outline of next steps with reference to o...

Agbara means strength.  Strength is often required in a divorce even when we want to give up. Today’s conversation with Agbara will hopefully remind you that you are not alone and to give you the strength to keep moving forward. In this episode, Agbara shares: - Lessons learned about shared custody and child support, - What her young son recognized about her happiness, - Why representing yourself...

The holiday season is a special time to gather with family and friends. Yet, it can be challenging to enjoy the season when considering or going through a divorce.  In this episode, Kimberly discusses: - The importance of taking a break during the holidays, - The information you must get from your lawyer during the holidays, - Why rushing to be done by year-end may not be the best for you, and - A...

Is there light at the end of the divorce tunnel?  Yes.  How do we know? Zahara (the name given our guest because of her shine) gives us inspiration to keep pushing forward despite the obstacles in the process. In this episode, Zahara shares: - Listening (and following) your inner voice, - The worst advice she received about relationships, - Helping children of divorce have healthy relationships, -...

Alafia means "peace" and our guest today discusses her journey to finding peace despite all obstacles.  In this episode, Alafia shares: - Surviving infidelity and gaslighting, - Divorce with teenagers, - The financial strategies she wish she had during her divorce, - Real talk on dealing with an Ex-spouse who refuses to pay child support or alimony   The Girl, I've Been There Too Series profiles B...

In Swahili, Imani means “faith” and today’s episode in our Girl, I’ve been there too series” is about holding firm that while we don’t know the path ahead we must continue to have faith – faith in ourselves, in our children, in those we trust to get us through the process, and in our beliefs that hold everything together.  In this episode, the guest I call Imani shares with us: What conditional lo...

Nia means “purpose” in Swahili. Today's guest in our "Girl, I've Been There Too" series recognized that her purpose in life is to set an example for her child and, in doing so, had to make a difficult decision. In this episode, Nia shares with us: - The impact our parents' divorce can have on our own thoughts on marriage and divorce; - How to question what you really want from a therapist; - Why f...

Experts are great but don't always know the personal story! Divorce can be a lonely experience and it can sometimes help to know that someone else understands what you are going through because they have "been there too!" Welcome to the "Girl, I've Been There Too Series" of the Grown Girl Divorce podcast. These are intimate conversations with Black women who are sharing their stores about: - The l...

Being a parent is amazing, exhausting, scary, and life changing. It is an awesome responsibility! Parents have the power to shape their child's life both now and in the future.  Whew! That's heavy! As parents, we try so hard not to “mess things up” for our children but we need help! We definitely need help when it comes to divorce and kids!   In this episode, child psychologist Taylor Quick, found...