Grief 2 Great Day - Christian Grief Support for Women, Questioning God in Grief, Life after Loss, Hope in Grief

Regardless of the length of time in grief – all the ‘work’ is like a constant bootcamp.  You are in unfamiliar territory; you are being pushed to perform while you’re exhausted and doubting everything. Regular bootcamps focus on the physical but your bootcamp – the grief bootcamp is physical too, but it is more so, spiritual.  Remember, we do not war with flesh and blood but against principalities...

What is Faith Yo-Yo? In the last 2 episodes we talked about faith and feelings.  How our feelings, our emotions are a part of us, but they aren’t always truth. So, to live above your feelings and circumstances, you must allow faith to guide your steps. Faith – that hope or confidence of what is not yet seen – is based on the Word of God and that’s truth. This week, I want to stay on the topic of f...

The struggle is real, and it never seems to end.  Dealing with the pain, confusion and overwhelm of grief is compounded with the fight for your faith.  Nothing in life will test your faith like death.  God is the same yesterday, today and forever, so when we question Him, it isn’t because He has changed, or harmed us.  Our questions, our anger with God come because our view of Him changes.  We que...

The struggle is real, and it never seems to end.  Dealing with the pain, confusion and overwhelm of grief is compounded with the fight for your faith.  Nothing in life will test your faith like death.  God is the same yesterday, today and forever, so when we question Him, it isn’t because He has changed, or harmed us.  Our questions, our anger with God come because our view of Him changes.  We que...

I heard a song this week and I thought of you!  For those of you who are struggling with how the pain of grief is trying to steal your hope, today’s episode is for you!  A song I heard reminded me - took me right back to those ‘bad’ days that seem to grow into bad weeks - of how God changed my life…from darkness into light. You can’t be passive on your journey, so I’m sharing 2 things to help you...

Today is another one of those milestone days – aka, hard, painful, stressful, anxiety-provoking...did I mention painful days?  If your mom or someone who was a mother to you has died, this episode is for you. In this episode, I’m going to share ways to honor your best friend – your go-to person, your cheerleader and advocate for life.  I’ll also share ways for you to get through the day with comfo...

A break from the normal episode as I provide a little comic relief today and share our perfectly planned anniversary trip.  As you well know – all the planning in the world doesn’t guarantee that things turn perfect or even like you want.  I don’t say this as a downer, but in this world, perfect is unattainable. Because God has called me to do this grief work, I tend to relate most things to going...

Today is a ‘Story of Hope’ episode with Stephanie Flohr. Her husband, Dan was diagnosed with cancer in August 2018 and died 21 months later in 2020. I know some of you listening today are in a dark or scary place.  You may feel that nothing will ever change, and you are sick of hurting. If you are looking for something to help you hold on, listen to this episode for hope because Stephanie was wher...

Have you ever felt uncomfortable in your grief?  Like you have to be quiet when you want to share, or you get on your own nerves feeling pain and having strange thoughts.  If so, today will help you.  Our culture doesn’t want to talk about grief because it’s too uncomfortable and almost taboo.  And, to jump in and sit with someone who is grieving is more uncomfortable because instead of just being...

The Word of the Week is Matthew 5:4 - Blessed are they that mourn, taught Jesus, for they shall be comforted.  There is also a verse talking about how we, as believers, don’t grieve as the world does because we grieve with hope – hope for a better tomorrow, hope for a purpose and hope in seeing our loved ones again. As you are grieving, how do you get to the point of feeling ‘blessed’ and being ab...

When you hear happy anniversary, it’s usually a happy thing. But anniversaries in grief are not happy – they are things we begin to feel anxious about a week before, they are hard to walk through and you might be exhausted the week after. If the anniversary of your loved one’s death is coming up, listen to this episode for some practical ways to honor your loved one while not forgetting what a sig...

When I was going through grief, I couldn’t see a good (much less great) future.  I couldn’t see much beyond my grief.  I listened in church to how God heals the wounds of every shattered heart (Proverbs 14:73) and TD Jakes who said, "it is the breaking of life that produces the blessing of life." I listened to Joyce Meyer remind me that God would replace beauty where there was once ashes. I needed...

Your biggest job, your responsibility right now, is to do all the things that lead to your healing.  That, by the way, is a full-time job!  So, what do you do when those well-meaning, unhelpful people come along and make the process harder?  What do you do when you look at your phone, see their name and cringe?  You have value, you are allowed to have boundaries and not let everyone 'in' your circ...

Nights are the worst when your mind won’t stop racing!  Your thoughts, which were once your own, seem to take you over.  But, it’s not just thoughts at that point, it’s anxiety and fear and the darkness of night which amplifies those feelings. You’ve tried a million times to turn it off – to shut the loop down but nothing seems to work.  You might have even tried meditating on the scripture and st...

If you think gutting it through grief or falling in a hole during grief will make the pain stop or result in better days, you need to listen to this episode. Our expectations of the grief process are based on emotional expectations or the pressure of what we think our faith should do in our journey.  Grief is really not a topic people want to talk about, so there are so many things that aren't sha...

You know it's easy to see the good in the good times – when life is going well. In grief, I realized how I had taken so many of these 'normal' days for granted. But, when life is hard or worse yet, when we are going through a life-changing grief, finding anything to be thankful for can be a challenge to say the least. Gratitude in grief is not just hard, it is necessary! If you want to feed hope f...

You know it's easy to see the good in the good times – when life is going well. In grief, I realized how I had taken so many of these 'normal' days for granted. But, when life is hard or worse yet, when we are going through a life-changing grief, finding anything to be thankful for can be a challenge to say the least. Gratitude in grief is not just hard, it is necessary! If you want to feed hope f...

When I was going through grief, I thought I was going crazy, I struggled to breathe, I felt lost as my life was never going to be the same.  In my mind my life was never going to be good again.  I wasn’t a mess – I was a hot mess.  How then could I think that the debilitating grief would be over in a couple of months?  And when it wasn’t, I felt weak and pitiful and like I was failing at everythin...

When I was going through grief, I thought I was going crazy, I struggled to breathe, I felt lost as my life was never going to be the same.  In my mind my life was never going to be good again.  I wasn’t a mess – I was a hot mess.  How then could I think that the debilitating grief would be over in a couple of months?  And when it wasn’t, I felt weak and pitiful and like I was failing at everythin...

If you listened to the last episode of Grief to Great day you have an idea about where you stand in terms of accepting this new life you’ve been handed.  Notice I didn’t say, this new life you’re excited about. If you are close to or are experiencing acceptance (not agreement or approval) and the questioning no longer takes you over, then you may be looking for the next step of this new life.  In...

In grief everything is amplified especially confusion and frustration.  If you are struggling with blame toward someone who has hurt you or your loved one, if there is anguish because you can’t stop thinking about an injustice, today will be important for you to hear. If the ‘someone’ you have the most anger toward is God or you have regrets when it comes to your loved one’s death, then what we ta...

When the sickening, can’t catch-your-breath grief is in your rear mirror (you know, where there’s a little distance between you and those feelings), you will still have hard days, you will still think that it’ll never end, but you will also have new thoughts and feelings. When the new thoughts and feelings come, you have made a lot of progress on your journey.  Today, I want to share three things...

When you are going through grief, it’s important to know what true and what is NOT true.  What is not true will keep you in pain and stuck because we all know that confusion and lies are from the devil and he only comes to steal, kill and destroy and grief is the perfect time for Satan to get a stronghold in your life. Today we are going to talk about 4 of the lies around grief.  It is important t...

Continuing the discussion from the last episode, we’re talking about the importance of your thoughts.  In grief, it’s so easy to allow the pain and exhaustion to take over your thought life and you should sit in the pain as you need to, you don’t want to get stuck in it. Today I’m going to share how to improve your thinking (and in doing so, improve your outlook and your life) while still grieving...

When you read the title of this episode, did certain memories pop in your head and bring back pain – again?  These, my friend, are the memories we are going to talk about and change. I don’t want to just talk about the hard stuff, I want to help you work through it and if there is anything you can do to change or improve the hard stuff – I’m here to share that too! Your painful memories seem to be...