Goodlad Unscripted

You cannot have a meaningful relationship with anyone without, at some point, having differences. If not resolved, those differences can tear loving and meaningful relationships apart. When our perspectives differ the natural reaction is to explain or defend our perspective and when both parties are intent on being understood, no one is understood and tensions rise. In this episode, Ana and I talk...

I wasn't ready to make any kind of announcement but Ana went ahead and did it anyway with no warning.  Of course that means I will have to return the favor someday, when she least expects it!  Today's show is about perspective but most of it, it seems, was me getting speed-bagged by a very feisty and funny I have to admit, Ana. This was the most fun we have had doing a podcast, I hope you enjoy it...

Ana and I just signed the paperwork to adopt our foster daughters, Emma and Cady and we will have a court date to finalize it all very soon.  As foster parents we are not provided any family, birth or medical history or any information about what the girls have been through prior to and since coming into care.  As adoptive parents we were finally provided that very thick document a couple days ago...

Elaine Goodlad is my guest on this show and after living her 55 years and my 60 and so many goals and milestones reached in our lives, we talk about how we finally found the one thing that makes us truly happy. Brought to you by Silver Bullet Anti-Aging This podcast is brought to you by BlessedBodywear.com You can subscribe to the Goodlad Unscripted Podcast on iTunes or Spotify or Google Play My W...

Elaine Goodlad joins the podcast as a special guest this episode.  Her mother passed away a few months ago and it's been an emotional roller coaster since.  We talk candidly about the relationship she had with her mother and the impact that had on her life, how she feels about her parents and what she has discovered while processing this chapter of her life.   Everyone is affected by their upbring...

After seven years of enjoying my retirement from commercial photography, I just opened a new studio in Las Vegas, and I am coming back. This time I am doing it differently. Ana and I talk candidly about why I retired and why I am coming back and the truth about my years being a successful commercial photographer. This podcast is brought to you by BlessedBodywear.com You can subscribe to the Goodla...

We had big plans for 2020, and with January almost out of the way, we haven't accomplished any of it. It is high time for Ana and me to sit down for a talk about procrastination. We didn't expect to learn what we did about each other while doing the podcast, but when we did, the solutions to our procrastination problems became crystal clear. As always, we hope the lessons we learned help someone e...

Ana switched to a plant-based diet a few months ago and it's been working really well for her but I'm happy eating what I eat now although I have added a lot of fruit and vegetables to my diet and feel much better for it.  While big differences like that can be a problem for some couples or families, we manage it well, not just because I accept and respect her choices, but that she also accepts an...

Fitness and Glamour model, Life Coach, Fitness Coach, and Fitness Star Stephanie Billings just went through a divorce and finds herself at the beginning again, not at the bottom.  It's been said that one's perspective of their circumstances is more important than the circumstances themselves.  Stephanie is notoriously happy, positive and despite losing it all, she sees herself at the beginning of...

I'm 60 years old and won't be done paying for kids going to college until I am in my 80's so staying healthy and youthful is not about vanity, it's about living and living well so I can be the best dad, best husband, and best man I can possibly be for as long as the good Lord gives me.  It took change, and it takes work, but the payoff has been well worth it and honestly, the changes feel so good...

Frustration and reaching the end of your patience when raising three toddlers is inevitable, but my wife Ana and I have learned that raising your voice may be a way of regaining temporary control but it doesn't solve the problem, it only makes it worse.  Since becoming foster parents three years ago we have poured ourselves into learning about a child's developing brain, dealing with traumatized k...

You roll out of bed and look at your phone.  There's a notification there and you click on it and suddenly you are thrust into a world of drama and injustice, political outrage, or someone else's tragic story.  It only took a couple minutes to read but long after you set the phone down your mind is racing and just like squeezing a dropper of blood into your glass of water, your brain is inexorably...

Two weeks after her return to the stage after a lengthy retirement, Ana talks about the competition experience and the bigger reason she got back into contest shape.  It was about feeling better about herself and the upside is that she will be modeling more and as her personal photographer, I can't wait.   This podcast is brought to you by BlessedBodywear.com You can subscribe to the Goodlad Unscr...

My Wife Ana Tigre decided she wanted to come out of retirement after nine years to compete in a fitness contest.  The difference now is that we have three kids, two dogs, and a very demanding business to run.  She was feeling guilty about the sacrifice and time spent so she could compete in something that she felt she alone benefited from.  But is it only her that benefits? Brought to you by Bless...

Ana was born and raised in Brazil and I come from the prairie province of Saskatchewan in Canada.  She is a fascinating woman and she puts all the color and excitement in my work-until-you-drop life and I bring things to her world that she appreciates.  But when the stress levels go up as they tend to do in every marriage, some of those differences become flash points for conflict.   We realized t...

Episode 51 Ana and I are overwhelmed most day, every day actually, with three toddlers in the foster system, two dogs, two businesses, and a marriage.  The brochure said there would be balance, the brochure lied.  So here we are in way over our heads and wondering how the heck we got here, but more so, how the heck are we going to dig our way out. We planned a business/family trip to Los Angeles a...

Elaine Goodlad and I brought our 20 year marriage to an end many years ago but we did it in a strange way.  We didn't fight over anything, we didn't hate each other, and we didn't pay any lawyers even a single red penny.  We were friends when we first met over 30 years ago and we are much closer friends now.  I am re-married and she is living with the love of her life in Florida but we consider ea...

Episode 49 Difficult times can either break you or make you stronger but it's how you react to the circumstances and not the circumstances themselves that determine your happiness, success and peace.  Mike Tyson once said that every fighter has a plan until he gets punched in the face.  I find that philosophical advice can make tremendous sense until the crap hits the fan then the advice itself do...

Episode 48: You can read this related article about the girls coming home. Last October the two little girls that we took in as foster kids moved to live with a former foster family that wanted to adopt them.  We did all we could to help make that happen in a timely fashion but the girls were with us for seven months.  It was very hard to see them go but we found peace in believing we had done the...

One of the biggest problems couples have is putting up with the differences in personality and habits.  It's been a flash point for us, like most people, but the sermon in church yesterday opened my eyes to a better way of dealing with it than the way I have been doing it. My wife Ana is less rigid, more spontaneous, and takes things as they come. She is always smiling, happy and never in a rush t...

Control.  We feel helpless, frustrated, angry, and stressed when we have none, yet if you are like me, letting go of control is often the solution to being stressed-out and unhappy. After a challenging two years of rapid growth, which translates into a lot of challenges and falling on my face more times than I can count; Ana and I are coming out the other side. We have picked up a lot of wisdom, b...

I didn't realize how much my environment impacted my life, every aspect of my life, until I committed to creating an environment that was completely positive and focussed on being my best and reaching goals.  I realized how even the seemingly most minor things can have a big impact on everything we see, do and think and ultimately what we become in life.  Ana and I sit down to hash this one out an...

After talking to a young couple that have chosen to break away from the conventional path they were on to chase their dreams, we were reminded of the troubles one faces in doing that.  Oddly, the biggest challenge is not necessarily making the change, it's losing the support of loved ones and friends that can't see or don't believe in your vision.  Ana and I have both been there and despite what o...

Ana Tigre and I sat down in the studio to record a podcast about a specific topic but the back and forth banter turned into 33 minutes worth and we never did get to our planned topic.  We did talk about our genetic backgrounds, prejudice, and how the world is changing and those silly forms that ask you to choose an ethnic background just don't make sense anymore.  We laughed a lot and we hope that...

Leonard Strandberg is a very unusual man.  He is my uncle but he is also a guy that lost the lover of his life to cancer, lost his 17 day old grandson, had a massive heart attack and by the grace of God is still alive, and last year was struck by a car while riding his motorcycle and lost his left leg.  Despite all of that, he remains positive declaring "I'm a glass is half-full kind of guy." We t...