Good Words with Brandi Kelly

I've been questioning the direction of this podcast for a while now, and I've decided to take my own advice and take a pause. I'm going to take a break for a few months to reassess, reconfigure and reorganize to make sure I'm maximizing my efforts and time and providing you with the value that you deserve. I've been flying by the seat of my pants for quite some time and that&#3...

Just before recording this I was praying for guidance and direction regarding our adoption journey. As I opened my eyes and went to record-my phone rang...it was the niece of a friend from the golf course who is an invaluable resource to have in our corner!! I cried tears of joy as she talked to me about who she is and what she does in the state of Texas! Is it odd...or is it God?? I think I know...

I'm doing a series on topics given by YOU-the listener. Each week I'm answering a question or addressing an issue with Good Words. This week's question is "I'm not drinking right now, how do you go to things that are not your favorite or make you uncomfortable and not drink? What did you do when you first stopped and went to uncomfortable things that you already know you don&#...

I recently asked you, the listener what your facing today, and what you'd like to hear discussed on the podcast. One dear listener wrote-How to accept and love the life you have when it's not how you imagined it. This is huge and I know I can totally relate!! If you would've asked 20 year old me to describe what my life could or should look like at 40...I wouldn't have been able to...

The one that doesn't play into the dysfunction is targeted as the problem. -Teal Swan What is a scapegoat? A person who is blamed for the wrong doings, mistakes or faults of others, especially for reasons of convenience. They are the one that bears the blame for others and is the object of irrational hostility. They are portrayed in a negative light to others. They are painted as unlikeable an...

I recently asked for listener input for situations that you're struggling with and would like some help reframing. One woman reached out and shared: "How do I overcome embarrassing memories? I think about them in the middle of the night and then I'm up all night with anxiety." Why do we get embarrassed? The root cause seems that we're anticipating a negative evaluation from o...

In 2 months I'll be 40!! I can confirm that it's not as scary as I thought it would be, but I also thought I'd have it all figured out by now. I'm here to encourage you to embrace your aging while you're still here! It is a privelige to wake up everyday. Aging is an opportunity to be grateful for the things that haven't taken you out! In this episode I urge you to embrace y...

Are you avoiding anything lately? How would you know if you were? Do you have a firm WHY in place and a clear vision of your purpose?...because I don't...I have recognized some pretty intense avoidance going on lately. I feel good then tune out, I'm making dinner, then grabbing my phone. Why do I call this avoidance? Because it happens in the calm moments that I normally use to connect wit...

Let's let go of the past and move forward into the unknown. Nothing is wrong. Nothing needs to be healed. Release yourself from searching for what's wrong. Sounds impossible right? Let me ask you a question...who's thinking the thoughts that make you miserable? Who can change your thoughts about your life? What would your life look like if you lived it like you had no idea what might h...

We're in the season of family in our life so far this year. What I mean by that is there is a closeness, despite the physical distance, that is seen, felt and expressed often and it is the very best feeling!! We've had family come to visit in Texas, I've been to Utah and we have family in town now even!! My mom-in-law is a HUGE supporter of this podcast and I know she's listening w...

How do you handle setbacks? This week I'm sharing a glimpse into our first setback (of many, I'm sure) on the road to becoming parents through adoption. We're early in the process, but we were close to signing with an agency...until our funding fell through. Disappointed, yes, but discouraged we are not. We WILL be parents, just not on our timing. So I'm learning how I handle setba...

Today we're tapping into Dr. Wayne Dyer for his 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace. He actually wrote this book for his daughters, but the gems within are spread throughout his talks and books across the years. I'm sharing them with you today and I invite you to join me in applying them today and everyday hereafter. 1. Be Open To Everything & Attached To Nothing-open your mind to A...

Do you ever catch yourself drowning in a fog cloud? Do you ever stop and realize you put it there, and you can take it away? Even the most positive thinker falls prey to the doom, or overwhelm or overscheduling... Do you ever catch the miracles that are occuring on the daily in your life? I guess that depends on what you consider a miracle I suppose...like our very existence, for starters. How abo...

John Koenig coined the neologism word Sonder for his online dictionary of Obscure Sorrows. The definition of Sonder is the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own-populated with their own ambitions, friends, routine, etc. Something to ponder... The heart is for giving. Which means that the heart is for-giving...forgiving. But why can't we listen...

This week I'm in absolute awe at our human experience. All that had to happen for you and I to be here, at this time, living this life. It's truly amazing! The fact that each morning we wake up and our eyes know to open and this body and brain runs it's program that it's learned through it's experience. It's incredible when you really think about it. And yet somehow we stil...

Can you think of a single time that worrying has solved a problem in your life? I can't. It's our own thoughts that disturb our peace, even more so than situations themselves. Our thoughts keep telling the story. Our thoughts keep the past active in our present. My own personal thoughts tend to go straight to the worst case scenario, never to the best possible outcome. So how do we out-thi...

I used to think that healing through meditation meant that I needed to strive to be zen-like...to be calm in the face of chaos...unbothered like the lotus flower. I'm finding that to not be the case. I want to sing louder as I heal. Dance wilder. Be more direct. More honest. Love deeper. Feel more fully. I'm gaining these things slowly as I continue to practice my practice. My perception o...

Season 2 is moving along nicely with big evolutions happening every single week! In this rebranding I wanted to zoom out from talking about sobriety and recovery, but I was given the gift of some HUGE reminders that everything good in my life is the result of getting sober. It would be nice to let that fact fade into the background and move onward and upward as life continues to get better and bet...

Hello and welcome to Good Words! We begin with the lovely reminder that we are not just a human on a spiritual journey, but a spirit having a human experience! Embrace the challenges as opportunities for growth, stay present and cultivate love. In every breath, there is an invitation to return to the essence of your being. Challenge lies in bridging the gap between our spiritual insights and the w...

It's the very last minute, I'm pretty sure I have a sinus infection, I'm working 7 days a week and it's TIME to release the first episode of season 2...The Thought Alchemist was the plan, but I've been reluctant to take action. I've procrastinated and it's now or be late (might as well be never), I have to create and release something and I'm not loving my new plan....

This is the LAST Wednesday of The Sober Bartender Podcast!! Starting in the new year the show will be rebranded, renamed and revamped! Today I want to express my gratitude for your ongoing support! Both the show and myself have evolved quite a bit from this time last year when we were just starting out! I share key moments that defined the show, moments that tested my own recovery, highlight growt...

Women's Leadership Coach Sarah T. Moore and I sat down to chat and the result was something special. As a fellow woman in recovery Sarah shared her experience that led her to al-anon and beautiful discoveries that unfolded from there. Coming from London, meeting her young and sober Texan husband and the path she was led on to find herself, God and her calling as a coach are just the tip of the...

I'm here to tell you quitting drinking is NOT a punishment for bad behavior!! Why does it feel that way? Social Pressure-In most cultures social activities often include alcohol. We're conditioned and pressured to conform to social norms. Quitting can lead to feeling isolated or excluded from certain activities. Coping Mechanism-If you use alcohol to cope with stress, anxiety or other emot...

I believe that each and every one of us has experienced the negative effects of feeling shame and guilt. This week's guest Lois Hollis was dying at 55. Last week she turned 80 years young! Lois is a shame guilt educator and she's got an important message-Shameful guilt is not only a dangerous emotion-it is deadly. Being closely tied suicide, Dr. David Hawkins calls it "the lowest ener...

Do you crave a life of adventure and spontaneity? Are you up for anything at a moments notice? Me neither, lol, but I'd like to work on changing that. There's a strong allure to the comfort of home, but this episodes theme is saying YES to adventure despite our resistance. The Comfort Zone Conundrum: there's actual psychological comfort in staying home and the resistance to stepping ou...