Gold Digger Show: Finding God's Gold in Every Story

Join me today in conversation with a favorite guest, Loren Romeus, as we begin Season 13. This season is all about power/authority/dominion and how it intersects with American Christianity. What is the purpose of power? How does God steward power and provide an example for us? What is with the rise of Christian dominionism teachings and how do they fit in with the teachings of Christ?  These are j...

Philosopher and theologian Cornel West posits that the condition of truth is to allow suffering to speak. That resonates, doesn't it? What is our suffering saying to us? What truth is it offering? Far be it from me to attempt to explain why things couldn't have been different or how a good and omniscient God works with suffering. Theologians and philosophers and farmers and housewives have been po...

After decades of this self-abandonment in the name of holiness, I am disappointed with the results. I really thought that if I prayed enough, read my Bible enough, and worked on my marriage enough, I would be made healed and whole. When I survey the damage done by piling all this rock between me –  all of me , including my beautiful body and my wild life force – and the Light that is Christ, I shu...

It's disappointing to get to the middle of one's life and realize that so much of our First Act was spent maintaining boundaries around things that simply don't matter, isn't it? Meanwhile, we never got around to maintaining the fences meant to protect our love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. It's devastating to realize that we let the wolves...

I turn 43 in a few weeks and, I must admit, I'm feeling some kinda way about life. It's widely known that middle age folk experience weirdness for about ten years between the ages of 30-ish and 50-ish. Mid-life crises have long been the go-to fodder for movies, books, songs, and TV series. Stereotypes abound – women scrambling for facial injections and men for sports cars. Everyone sadly grasping...

Every day, we are bombarded with sensory input which, if we were "awake" to all of it, would render us incapacitated in a corner somewhere. Our brains do us a big favor by quickly sorting all our experiences into neat categories so we can efficiently navigate the information-pandemonium that is human existence. And the crazy part is that we're not even aware our nifty brains are doing this at all!...

Advent helps to heal our blurred and bungled image of God. Suddenly, we see a God who is the exact opposite of the image that Hell Lovers have conjured. Indeed, as Charles Spurgeon so powerfully reflected on the meaning of Advent:   "God with us. It is hell's terror. Satan trembles at the sound of it; his legions fly apace, the black-winged dragon of the pit quails before it. Let him come to you s...

The truest thing about God and us is that God lifts up the lowly, nourishes the hungry, adopts the orphan, and goes back to find the lost. Because God loves us, we lowly are made lovely. The greatest malady this world suffers is our inability to comprehend the worth of the human soul. This is why we hate, hurt, reject, and ignore. It's the source of our violence, our shame, and our shadowed evils....

Like so much else in Christianity, Advent is offensive.  Perhaps we've grown numb, over the span of millennia and from the re-telling of this narrative and from the commercialization of Christmas, to the shock of incarnational theology; but, today, let's sit with Advent afresh and attend to the shattering implications. Because our paradigms must be shattered so that we can comprehend the truth, Go...

With quaint creche Christmas scenes depicting Mary, Joseph, and the baby Jesus alongside shepherds, wisemen, and various farm animals, the raw and shocking hope of Advent is often reduced to sentimentality. We may quickly glance at the nativity scene on the church's front lawn while narrowly making it to our Christmas Eve candlelight service, or we may conjure the familiar picture of baby Jesus in...

When we experience disappointment and fail to listen to what it's speaking to us, we have a hard time getting to gratitude because we have often been equating gratitude with appreciation. Disappointment makes appreciation and gladness, or propositional gratitude, difficult to come by. However, when we do allow our disappointments to speak, we may experience authentic humility. And humility gives u...

'Tis the season for gratitude lists and happy smiles, but perhaps this year it all just feels forced. Genuine gratitude is hard to come by when we're struggling through disappointment. But what if our disenchantments are an integral part of experiencing the kind of gratitude that transforms us? Join me on today's episode as we explore the power behind cutting through false optimism to get to the g...

Welcome to Season 12, Gold Digger! This holiday season, we will be exploring the connection between disappointment and gratitude, between light and shadow, and between pain and joy. Our world is experiencing tremendous upheaval and we're left wondering how to tend to our souls, and the souls of others, in times like this. That's what we'll be talking about all season long. Join me as we dig for Go...

Season 11 has been filled with golden goodness, as we've considered the topic of friendship deeply and from various angles.  From opposite-gender friendship to soul friendship to lifelong friendship to life-saving friendship to friendship in marriage -- we covered the gamut!  Join me for the last episode of this season as we pause to soak in all this goodness and reflect on what we've learned toge...

We hear a lot about keeping the romantic fires burning in marriage, or how to resolve conflict with your spouse, or how to speak the love language of the one you love. Rarely, though, do we hear conversations surrounding cultivating and maintaining friendship in marriage.  Many people find the friendship within their marriages diminishes over time, as the cares and burdens of life and parenthood t...

Seasonal friendships are important. They provide mutual strength and encouragement for particular times and spaces of our lives. We rely on them for variety, fun, and networking. But lifelong friendships that stand the test of time are harder to come by and take a lot more work. Building these kinds of friendships requires adaptability, humility, selflessness, and creativity.  Join me in conversat...

True, soul-level friendship isn't all fun, joy, and fulfillment. Every relationship is tested at some point. When our friendships run into pain points, we arrive at a cross-roads of sorts. We can resolve to fight for the beauty and love we've experienced together, or we can avoid the pain by abandoning the relationship.  When a relationship is unhealthy (or, of course, if it's abusive), walking aw...

In our ultra digitally-connected society, it's nevertheless common to be "ghosted" by fair-weather friends when the going gets tough. While we are constantly scrolling, clicking, and liking ourselves into believing we have rich communities, the truth is that many of us don't have a stable place to land when the worst happens in our lives.  Joining me in conversation today is Dr. Lang Charters, who...

John O'Donahue famously introduced the Celtic term  anam cara  to the broader world in his book of wisdom thusly named. O'Donahue describes an anam cara as a soul friend, one in which we find recognition and belonging, cutting across all convention and category. These are the kinds of deep intimacies we have a hard time developing in this fast-paced world of surface-level connectivity. Spiritual f...

Season 11 is all about friendship, and today's episode explores the topic of opposite-gender friendship. Can (and should) it be a thing? Christian communities sometimes erect elaborate rules, customs & courtesies around the interactions of men & women, with the idea that strict boundaries protect everyone. Is this perspective aligned with God's ideas about how men & women are intended to commune t...

After a year-long break, the Gold Digger Show is back and better than ever! This episode explains where we've been and where we're going in Season 11.  The newly conferred Dr. Amber Hogan Jones is your host as we explore the topic of friendship from unique angles with diverse guests and interesting perspectives. Together we'll find God's gold in every story!

When it comes to transformation, desperation may just be the necessary ingredient missing in our efforts toward growth. Join me in conversation with Executive Director of the T & T Project, Loren Romeus, as we explore what we can learn from people who leverage having 'nothing left to lose' in their journey of inner transformation. 

When it comes to true and lasting inner transformation, context is critical. If we want to stay open to growth, trust and safety are necessary and those components are found in the context of belonging. Join me in transformational conversation with Loren Romeus, Executive Director of the T & T Project, a prison ministry focused on helping the incarcerated transform and transition into the healthie...

Sometimes transformation requires discipline and, other times, it requires rest. On today's episode we discuss how transformation occurs within, and helps us maintain, our 'window of tolerance,' which is the sweet-spot for healthy and wholehearted living. 

When it comes to inner transformation, self-discipline is part of the process. Yet, our cutlure overvalues the sort of punishing hustle that leads to burnout and quitting more often than lasting change. How do we strike the balance between cultivating life-giving habits and resisting the urge to equate transformation with bare-bones behavior? All that and more on today's episode!