Go With Your Gut

Life is messy. We try to force what we want sometimes and we can feel that something is off. There are many different way in which to correct that energy because we don't usually have extra to spare. James and I discuss how he figured out he needed to follow that windy path and its led him to a place of peace. That didn't mean that everyone approved of what we was doing, or even understood what he...

What would Lotus have missed out on if she hadn't followed her gut? It turns out, a lot. Learning to follow that gut instinct is hard, espeically in the beginning. You have to get past the fear by facing it head on, you have to get past the people who may not support you how you'd like. You have to tune out all the noise that is telling you ...you can't, won't, shouldn't, you'll never make it. Fea...

Do you seek external validation? It could be at work, at home, or anywhere else. Some people are great at giving praise and showing appreciation. Other are not so much. If you are expecting it from those who don't do that, could you be setting yourself up for failure, or anger? If praise and validation don't come natural to some people, but we expect it, maybe its time to let those people off the...

Boundaries are great, but they have to be enforced to work. Lots of people struggle with this because we want to make people happy. That means dropping what we're doing to help, or saying yes when we should say no. Do you find yourself saying, "i'm not sure what i did this week, but i was super busy?" If thats you, you may need some work. Today's hustle culture leaves no room for extra time. That...

Life is full of contradictions. Have you noticed that? When you get something good, a big break, if often comes with a burden. The difference is what we choose to focus on. If we get a new job, there's going to be a learning curve and likely more responsibilities. Those might stress us out. We can either focus on the good parts of the new job and accept the burden that comes with it and be happy,...

Do you get frustrated with hearing "no". Maybe you don't even hear that word but you get frustrated trying to do something and it just won't happen. We can be told no in a lot of different ways. After a while, that starts to ware down on us. At some point we start to wonder if we just need to cut bait. Take to your gut when that happens, and listen to your instinct. Maybe you need to try something...

What can we control? Very little honestly. Ourselves: our actions, reactions, mindset, how we treat others. Other than that, we have very little control. But lots of times, we sure as heck try to control much more. In fact, we try to force things. Have you ever had so many spinning plates and all of the sudden you were forced to either leave with the inability to be connected, or you got sick, or...

Whats your vision? For life, for family, for where you want to be. I've heard a lot of people get frustrated because others don't understand or buy into the dream. They don't have to, its not their dream or vision to understand. We also try to force our dreams and visions onto others. Not everyone will "get" the vision, and thats ok. Develop the vision, feel the vision, come up with the tiny steps...

Does anyone misunderstand you? Do you understand yourself? Two questions i've had to answer myself but i couldn't for a long time. I found that I couldn't expect anyone else to get me when i didn't totally get me. I wanted to be like so wether I was given a box or got it for myself, i tried to fit in it? Can you relate? I've found I don't fit into a box, there is a mold specific to me that i fit i...

What habits die hard? Overeating? eating junk? Maybe getting frustrated? When we think of bad habits usually its because we're going through a stressful season of life, some type of change, something to make our bodies and brains go into instinctual mode of fight or flight. We go into survival mode. Some habits you might now think about is having anxious thoughts, maybe projecting old, current, or...

Leadership doesn't have to be confined to a job or a title. You can lead wherever you want, and likely you already are, just don't know it. There are qualities that most people like to see from leaders but there is no one size fits all to what it could look like for you. You can be a leader at work, regardless of the title, an outside organization, or even for your family. Listen in or watch to ta...

What you focus on, you find. Doesn't matter if its good or bad. I hear so many statistics about how people don't measure up to the analytics. They don't meet what the numbers say they should do. Do we ever stop to think if they are the numbers we should be focusing on? Or do we automatically take it to heart and start to feel like we're not doing good enough. Negative outcomes and setbacks are a p...

Boundaries are tricky. Especially when it come to enforcing them with the people who depend on you most. We can make the choice to not respect our limits and not enforce our boundaries, but then where does it get us? Usually to a place we don't want to be and we find ourselves not being who we want to be. We all have to start somewhere. We all have to know what we need as a person and individual....

Motherhood is hard. Add a child struggling with addiction to that mix, that's another story. There is an inner gut wrenching to see your child in pain, be is physical or emotional, and not be able to do much about it. Jen and talked about how to deal with that pain. We talked about how to recalibrate and figure out who you are as an individual outside of loved ones. There is such guilt in seeing y...

"I've been busy!"-What have you been busy doing? When the new year comes, do you take time to look at what you have accomplished? Or do you just move forward full steam ahead. Lots of companies take some time around the holidays to show their employees how much they've done and how far they've come. Lots of people have a folder for their performance review to be able to tell their bosses what all...

We all want abundance, but it goes much deeper than money or finances. If dig a couple layers down, what do we spend money on to obtain abundance? Buy yourself a weekend away. Experiences with friends or family. Maybe you get yourself the equipment to do things you love. Lots of times, we can find ways to get these things without the finances. So what does abundance look like in your life? Time wi...

We have a tendency to want to label things to organize them. Not just on drawers or cabinets, but ourselves, relationships, etc. What labels have been put on you that need to come off? Maybe someone called you lazy, stupid, impatient, or incapable and its not true but it took root. It make take peeling some layers as its been stuck for a while, but I'd bet with some persistence, some of those can...

Its the most wonderful time of the year. But what if your not a huge fan? Whatever your reason is for feeling the need to hunker down instead of burst with cheer, your not alone. This season is also a time for reflection on where you want to go next year and what you want to accomplish. What better way to escape from festivities than to dream a bit. Instead of setting a new years resolution, come...

"I can't help it, its inherited." Do you ever find yourself using this as an excuse for a behavior your not real proud of? There are lots of things in life that could be inherited but are "dormant" in us. We can do things to be proactive and make sure it stays there. Now, does it always work? No. I'm talking about things like criticism, negativity, perfectionism. If multiple people, even generatio...

Growth and Change. Things that happen over and over through life. Throw in motherhood, and the world seems to flip upside down. Not necessarily good or bad, but it does flip. Routines change, activities change, friends change. We as moms know we'll change, but for some its more drastic than others. What do you do when pieces of your identity change and you don't know what they look like but you ca...

New perspective on anxiety. Did you know freezing and overcompensating are both ways that we all numb anxiety? I got to chat with LMFT Rachael DeKoning who has a therapy company and specializes in anxiety. We talked about some things I hadn't considered were anxiety and she added a couple metaphors to help us understand how we can view how anxiety affects us and how we can cope and manage. Watch o...

What is it? Where does it come from? Do I have it? How do I deal with it? All good questions. I think anxiety is very misunderstood, both by people who have it and those who don't. Living with anxiety and living with someone who has anxiety are both hard. Learning how to manage and support is so important and quite crucial to those relationships because it takes both people. The person who struggl...

Imposter Syndrome affects the majority of people in some way. We chalk it up to part of our personality that we don't like as much. It could come off as a weakness. Maybe it is something that was accidentally instilled in us growing up. I talk about some different types of imposter syndrome that you may not be aware of, some you may relate to. Maybe I can shift your perspective and help you listen...

I use the word can't a lot and later conclude that I can, I just don't want to. Why? Because i'm tired, or its hard and I don't want to try, or because i want to finish what i'm doing. Very rarely do I find something that can't happen. The thing we need to do might be difficult or take a long time to figure out, but most times can be done. Its a change in mindset to replace can't with won't. Becau...

Pain. Its not fun, but its a neccesary part of life. It means change, it means difficulty, it means growth. The hard part is that we don't like feeling that pain. Its uncomfortable and it never comes at a good time. Have you noticed that when you go through those hard seasons and get some grit, your come out better? It's easy to look back and see how things happened for you instead of to you. This...