Get Real with Lisa

Today I am talking about holding grudges and what that can do to a person. It isn't good. I think we all know that. But we all tend hold on to the past and not forgive those who've hurt us. Not forgiving those who have wronged us is really only hurting ourselves and causing us pain. Instead, we can learn, grow and determine to change based on the lessons we learn from those experiences. Let's dete...

The last minisode was all about living in the moment during the holidays and enjoying each one as it comes. I learned that this really works! I determined to do this during my gathering with my kids over the weekend and it was the best day! I encourage you to set an intention to live each moment as it comes, planned or not, and see how much more joy you find. 

I just wanted to hop on and wish you a blessed holiday season and put out a reminder to be present in the moment with those you love and cherish. 

I have been studying about vulnerability and it turns out, it actually means opening yourself up to being harmed. Well who wants that? It sounds not so fun, right? Problem is, if you never let yourself be vulnerable, you will never find meaningful connection with others. That doesn't sound so great either. Vulnerability seems weak and opens us up to being hurt. It is bearing your soul to another w...

Close your eyes and think of your favorite childhood memory. Was it homemade ice cream with your grandpa? Was it riding your bike down a dirt road? I bet it wasn't expensive or even what your parents thought was meaningful. I would like to get us back to enjoying the simple things and stop stressing so much over the big things this holiday season. There are so many times we run ourselves ragged pr...

I have recently listened to the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller . I highly recommend it as it explains attachment styles and why we have them. It also gives practical guides and real-life scenarios on how to navigate your style in relationships. I myself am an avoidant style & damn determined to learn not to be. I have learned that if I am to have deep, connected, loving relatio...

I don't know about you but I tend to create conversations in my mind about what other people are thinking, saying and doing. In reality, none of those thoughts are based in truth. They are my own assumptions about people or situations that may or may not be reality. And really, what others are saying, thinking and doing are none of my business. That isn't my side of the road. I have my own stuff t...

Today, let's talk about how changing our perspective about how people treat us can free us from holding grudges and being victims. When someone does wrong to you, it is most of the time about them. It isn't about you. When we waste time wondering why someone said what they said or did what they did, we can spiral into negative self-talk, assume it's about us and stay stuck in holding grudges and f...

A couple weeks ago, I gave you an assignment to come up with a personal challenge you are struggling with. I came up with my own and the idea was to write the challenge down on the left side of a piece of paper and, on the right side each day, write down something to be grateful for relating to that challenge. I chose my nine-to-five in accounting and you will find out why. (If you know me, you al...

How many times do we think something nice about someone but don't say it? I know I do it all the time. But if we step out of our comfort zone and open out mouth and let that compliment come out, think of how we could improve someone's day! Giving a compliment is not as hard as receiving one but if the person isn't receptive to it, it can be uncomfortable. Let's challenge ourselves this week to say...

Today we talk about the Silver Lining. I know we've all heard it a bunch of times but looking at the silver lining instead of that black cloud is a choice. We can either choose to be grateful for the good stuff or view life as if it's "happening to us". Let's learn to actively choose gratitude, even when it's hard. I know a grateful life is a better one. Email me at getrealwithlisapodcast@gmail.co...

How many times do we say, "Hello. How are you?", and don't stop and listen to the answer? I know I do that sometimes. I have been intentionally slowing down and listening to people, looking for meaningful connection in conversation, and it's happening! Let's set an intention today to have meaningful, connected conversation with someone. Really hear them. Listen without intent to reply but just to...

Shout out to my bio sibs for your love and support and heartfelt kindness for last week's episode. Check out my Instagram for a pic of us @getrealwithlisa.  Today I wanted to talk to you about how changing your perspective can truly change everything. The more I complain about something, the worse it gets. Do you know a complainer? Are you one? Start to be grateful, even for the challenging t...

When I was three days old, I was adopted by my parents. I never knew, or really had a big desire to know, my bio family. But when my daughter prompted me, I looked into it and found some of the most amazing people on the planet. Who would have thought that the "family" I would find was a family like no other? Shout out to the kind, compassionate, welcoming and good humans I am related to. Clearly,...

Divorce happens. People break up. But how you move through that process and the years following a divorce/break-up is your choice. Having kids is an adult thing and getting married is too. The worst thing about divorce is that one person makes a choice that effects everyone in the family and those other people have no choice but to deal with it. I am here to help you find a way to do divorce well...

Don't we all love being wrong? I know I do. So, what's in a good apology? How can we put our own ego aside, be humble, and say those two words -- I'm sorry. If you have a minute, leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Play. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast reach more people out there who will get something from my messages. Thank you in advance!

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. The only person you hurt by holding on to past hurts is yourself. I watched my mother cling to those hurts and not forgive and the person she hurt the most was herself but it also effected her relationships. Her unwillingness to forgive turned into bitterness which was so sad to see, in the end. Bitterness turns into hate and the cycle just repeats. We must...

I have been putting off cleaning something out... my inbox! The more I put it off, the less I want to look at it. It makes me think of the other clutter in our lives. Real clutter and figurative clutter alike. I hope this inspires you to take a look at what you can de-clutter in order to live your best life. Also, the first "real" Get Real with Lisa full episode drops in less than a week and I am...

We're almost there! The first FULL episode of Get Real with Lisa is coming up on June 1! This is another minisode and it's about the art of saying, "no". I wish I learned it earlier but it's never too late. And, by the way, you honor others by being authentic and real with them and saying no when you mean no. Sometimes saying yes just creates resentment and, let's be real, drama (that we kinda lik...

What is holding you back from taking a step forward and doing that thing you dream of doing? You are capable and you can do it. You just need to open the door and step through. In this episode, I tell you about my navy blue painted floor, a conversation with a friend that encouraged me to do my dreams, and how we can all be brave and take a step forward into the life we want to live. Find this pod...

Self care is important and makes us better humans. Take some time to do what feeds your soul today. Be nice to you because you are awesome!

This is me... Lisa! This little trailer is just a tidbit about me, why I am doing this podcast, and what you can look forward to in future episodes. I even added a little music. How cool is that? Join me on this journey of learning about life, relationships, people and purpose. Let's get real together!