Gentlemen’ s Guide to Excellence

Is there something holding you back from being the man that you want to be?  Do you feel there is something stopping you from meeting and connecting with a great lady?  Do you feel there is something preventing you from starting the family that you envision having?  In this episode, we will talk about self-perception. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on  A...

In a couple prior episodes, I mentioned that I wanted you to conduct yourself in a way in this pandemic that when you look back, you will be proud of everything you did over the whole duration of it.  You’ll be proud of how you conducted yourself at every step.  I still mean every word of that suggestion, but I feel like I need to expand on how I think about having a sense of pride more broadly. B...

Independent thinking.   What are you?  Are you a democrat, republican, progressive, conservative, liberal, socialist, communist, right, left, or evangelical?  Is that all that there is?  Do you have to fit within these labels?  Is there another way?  What are you?  Who are you?  Please be careful about letting other people’s labels define you.  I feel quite the opposite about the whole subject.  I...

I recently was reading about how winter is when depression hits the largest number of people, and this is the first time in most of our lifetimes that we have been dealing with something like the pandemic over that normally gloomy winter period.  So, some people out there are hurting more than normal due to everything that is going on out there, and some of those folks might be you, or someone you...

Respect.  Genuine respect.  Today I want to talk about how key, how crucial, paying respect is to success in your process of meeting and connecting with great women.  I mean showing respect to the lady.  I mean showing respect to her family and friends.   Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on  Amazon.com in early 2021 - https://gentlemensguidetoflirting.com/...

Handling Conflict.  Conflicts, disagreements and disputes are part of life, and always will be, no matter who you are, how much money you have, or what you situation is in life.  How to best handle conflict, anger, and disagreement using key principles from the book is what we dig into in this week’s episode. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on  Amazon.com...

Three Wins Per Day!  What 3 things did you do today to advance your goals in life, to improve yourself? Women, and everyone, loves to see someone who is continuously improving, who is on a trajectory to good things in life.  Women love it!!! Becoming the best man you can be doesn’t happen overnight.  Just reading my book doesn’t get the job done.  The book lays out a roadmap and gives you a ton of...

Men: Should you or should you not get married?  Is someone trying to pressure you into marriage now?  I talk a lot about a man’s various responsibilities in life in the book and on this podcast because a major part of my thesis is that is vital to success in many areas, including success with women.  But where does marriage fit into that philosophy?  We will take a thorough look at this crucial su...

In this episode I want to talk about dating safety - specifically for men.  There is plenty of information and advice available online and elsewhere about safety concerns for women, and rightfully so.    Guys need to be careful out there as well.  Men can be robbed, or cheated, or harmed.  We’ll cover all of the basics, plus some other things that aren’t so well known that can cause you real probl...

Are you ever proud of yourself when think back on a time when you have acted like an asshole at work, or in your personal life, with your family or a friend, or in your community?  No, right?  If you are a good person, which is what you certainly are if you feel drawn to this podcast, the book, and continue to listen to me, that answer is always no.  In this episode we are going to dig into what i...

Monogamy.  Or not?  Is monogamy the way to go, your goal, or not?   Is it ok to cheat, or is it not?  We get into this thorny and complicated question in this week’s episode. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on  Amazon.com in January 2021 -  https://gentlemensguidetoflirting.com/   Consider the book your complete textbook. The content on this channel and t...

How do you ask for sex?  Whether you are just dating someone, or its a lady friend that you are interested in, or you are in a relationship but not getting enough sex, how do you ask for it?  How do gentlemen bring the subject of sex up in a nice way, one that isn’t rude, a turn off,  or a way that makes you look bad.  Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on ...

From men jumping at the first pretty face to dealing with women who want to be in your wife's or girlfriend's place in your life, we have you covered in this week's episode about dealing with various common Traps and Pitfalls of dating success. If you are continuously improving yourself like we call for and describe in the book, if you are always improving as a man every day, win after win, small...

Let your confidence soar whether you are naked or clothed! In this episode we talk about men’s grooming secrets. Some things may be obvious and second nature to you, and some may be quite unfamiliar. But all of them will help you walk around with the right amount of confidence as you are out there meeting ladies, and otherwise going about your daily life. We’ll go over everything as per usual, to...

In this episode we talk about the pool of available relationship candidates through a lens or perspective called "10-80-10" that I am borrowing from an entirely unrelated discipline - police work and law enforcement. That comparison might sounds nuts, but hear me out. I think looking at the dating and relationship problem domain through different lenses can be helpful and informative. It can help...

Is your lady in need a bit of feedback in some sensitive areas, but it is just too awkward of a topic to bring up? Your hero has you covered.   This is another episode in our self-improvement series that we have in support of this channel and podcast. Personal excellence is vital to our whole approach to being the best man that you can be. This is something you work on every day. You keep improvin...

Struggling to stay informed because of disinformation, clickbait, fake news and liars? Your hero hears you. I've got you covered in this week's video and podcast.   This is the first in a self-improvement series that we will do as part of this podcast (and Youtube channel). Excellence, in every sense of the term, is part of the foundation of our whole approach to being the best man that you can be...

Are you trapped in the "friend zone" and looking for options? In this episode we take a look at the whole friend zone concept using the framework and perspectives of the Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting book.   Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (due for release on Amazon.com in January 2021 - https://gentlemensguidetoflirting.com/).   Consider the book your complete textbook....

Wasting people’s time.  We are all on this planet for a finite amount of time.  You don’t want to get to the end of your time here with regrets.   You also don’t want to waste the limited time you have, nor allow others to waste it for you.  In this week’s episode, I want to talk about making effective use of time, and in some cases, being protective of your time.     Background: Book's website: G...

The Hero Instinct.  What is it?  Where did the idea come from?  And it is something useful for you? Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 ) and anywhere else you find your favorite books.   Consider the book your complete textbook. The content on this channel and the podcast is all free and is intended to expand upon...

Integrity.  We all have an intuitive sense of what the word integrity means, but we might not agree on precisely what it is.  I think it will be illuminating to do so, so today we will dig into the topic of integrity. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 ) and anywhere else you find your favorite books.   Consider t...

Friendship 101.  Are you a good friend?  Are you good friend material?  Do you have the number of friends you want, or no friends at all, or too many friends   If you want to be a better friend, then this is the episode for you. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 ) and anywhere else you find your favorite books.  ...

Today I want to talk about knowing where to look.  Knowing where to look.  And I don’t mean physically where do you find women in general, that’s mostly everywhere in the planet.  I mean where do you look at a person to see the real them.   Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at  https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 ) and anywhere else you find your favor...

Working the system. One of the lessons I have thoroughly learned in life is about the benefits of what I call "working the system".  The world is a tough, competitive place, and you need to give yourself as much advantage and leverage as you can sometimes.  We’ll take a look at what I mean by working the system in this week’s episode. Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (avai...

No one has a monopoly on good ideas.  Oftentimes you can find better ways of doing things or solving problems by being more exposed to others, other countries, other regions, maybe other places in your own country or region, other ways of thinking.  Why not let the best ideas bubble up to the top to benefit yourself, your community, or your country.  This week, we will explore this idea from a per...