Geek Psychology: Play Life Better

Send me a text Imagine a world where you can get good at anything and achieve great things. Is that world real or fictional? Here's something that all high-level achievers in life do - and it's also something that many people, as soon as they hear about it, dismiss as being \"too simple\" to be true. The truth is, achieving your goals and getting good at something isn't one big task...

Send me a text You've probably heard of a trope in RPGs like Dungeons and Dragons called \"Combat, Diplomacy, Stealth\". It means that, when faced with a problem, you can either fight it head-on; talk your way out of it; or sneak your way around it. Well… life is kind of like that. There are going to be plenty of times where you feel like the only option is to just go full-on attack mode and...

Send me a text You've recognized the need to improve yourself and do something about it. But you can't seem to keep focused on it. This video will give you some tips for what to do when personal development is hard and you feel stuck. Many people struggle with finding and living their purpose. Yet, even with all the knowledge and support available, many struggle to find the time and ener...

Send me a text Did you ever consider that there's something else going on in Doctor Strange's story? Today we're going to talk about how Doctor Strange's journey is one big paradigm shift-and how that might be able to help you with your own struggles. Plus, you'll get an 6-step process you can do to challenge your limiting beliefs and view of the world. A paradigm is simpl...

Send me a text What are INTJ and INFP like in terms of processing emotions? How do they grow through personality type? Join this conversation with Chris - AsuraPsych (INTJ) and me, Matt Sherman - Geek Psychology (INFP), as we look into the INTJ personality type explained through the cognitive functions and real-life experiences. INFPs and INTJs both process their emotions by focusing inwards for a...

Send me a text If you want to live, you must do what it takes to be more fulfilled, happier, and less stressed. But what is that? Frigga, Thor's mother and Queen of Asgard, imparts a very valuable lesson on her son that we can all apply to our lives. We all go through times when we're not happy. You might lose the confident energy that you had, or you might just be frustrated with yourse...

Send me a text I saw a question asking why do opposites attract in myers-briggs personality types and wanted to give you some insights into it. I use ENFP, ISxJ (ISTJ and ISFJ), INFP, and ESTJ as examples.  The really strong push and pull between relevant dominant and inferior cognitive functions makes you think \"Do opposites really work in a relationship?\" because sometimes they point out some...

Send me a text When you have a game plan, the game is easy. When you don't, it's nearly impossible to beat.  The key is knowing what skills you need to succeed.   Most people want to be good at everything—but the truth is, we all have different talents. Desperately trying to be good at everything is like trying to play every role in an RPG—you'll quickly realize that there are too m...

Send me a text I use this RPG trope taken from tvtropes.org, called \"Beef Gate\", to encourage and motivate you to stretch yourself, to step out of your comfort zone, and to challenge yourself to live a better life. It's been said that \"the magic happens outside your comfort zone\" and I fully agree. And to add to it, \"One does not simply walk into Mordor\" also seems to fit with the idea...

Send me a text In this video I share 8 universal life approaches that will allow you to better understand yourself and others. The key to creating a better life - and to becoming more in-control - is understanding how these 8 skillsets fit together within you and which are required for the context or situation that you're approaching. Identifying your main life approaches helps you learn from...

Send me a text Ah… the cost of specialization! In this video, I talk about how focusing on one thing creates a natural weakness in another area of your life. Is it good? Is it bad? I tell you my thoughts and bring in the cognitive function polarities in a simplified form as examples. Tvtropes.org has a great resource of different RPG elements - this one is called \"Armor and Magic Don't Mix\"...

Send me a text People often overthink certain things when they really shouldn't. People tend to get stuck on analysis paralysis and analysis that brings them nowhere. We don't need our conscious thinking to make powerful connections, we just need our unconscious bag of holding. Our unconscious mind is designed to make the best choice for you. I use this RPG trope taken from tvtropes.org,...

Send me a text I've met a lot of introverted gamers who struggle with social anxiety, so I put together these 3 gamified mindsets based on my personal experience to help you become more comfortable around people and get out there to have fun. Enjoy these social anxiety tips for introverted gamers, geeks, and creatives alike. :) Those of us who struggle with connecting with people often end up...

Send me a text Are you an INTP who is tired of friends, relatives, and random strangers asking you when you're going to get married? I can't stop them from doing what they're doing, but here's some advice for what you can do and why things are so different for you as an INTP. #intp   ****Connect and Support Geek Psychology #geekpsychology **** FREE 8 Hero Personality Assessment...

Send me a text Hey ISFPs! Do you ever get the feeling that somebody isn't telling you the whole story? ISFP relationship problems often come from a core aspect of your personality type. This is a question that I get asked from time to time. It's not only a tricky one to answer because there are so many different types of lies, but it's also really important to know how to navigate y...

Send me a text Do you ever dream of becoming your best self? Want to create a life that you enjoy living? Struggling to transform yourself or focus on improvement? This video will help you identify the mindset you need in order to get to where you want to be. A better version of yourself. Not just a new haircut-a whole new YOU. Someone who is ready to take on the world and make their mark, who has...

Send me a text In a video game called life, the problems and obstacles you encounter are represented by various baddies and bosses. As you go deeper into the game, the baddies get bigger, stronger, and more numerous. And if you stop collecting coins and upgrades, your character (you) becomes weaker. Same with life. Play life small and your problems don't scale that much. Play life big and big...

Send me a text Powered by the Apocalypse is a game system that has a lot of interesting qualities. In this video, I compare and contrast some of those qualities - in the form of a 2d6 roll you make when your character does something risky - to real life. I'm not saying you should use PBTA for real life - but maybe it will change how you see the world. :)  This \"real life game mechanic\" will...

Send me a text A coach of mine suggested I share my story. There are many parts to it, but this is one big piece that I hope everyone can learn from. I shifted my identity from seeing myself as a \"rogue\" to \"priest\" which completely reframed my perspective of myself and how I interacted with others. Plus some questions to bring it home at the end ;) I hope it helps! Original video: https://you...

Send me a text There are 3 key components to the minimap of Life's HUD and one connected piece that's just as necessary. Where you are, where you're going, the path, and the vehicle. * Where you are (awareness of self or situation) * Where you're going (the goal or aspiration, what direction) * Path (steps to take, the obstacles and challenges) * Vehicle (the best method/medium...

Send me a text This is about one of the objects on Life's Heads-Up Display (HUD) - the Resource Globe that shows the balance of introversion and extraversion. Bad things happen when you overly fill-up on one or the other resource. Make sure you are aware of the balance! 1. What the Resource Globe is     a. Awareness and the balance of the psyche     b. Tells you to spend more or less time in...

Send me a text Let's start by dispelling a myth. I know that you may be thinking, \"I'm an INFP and I'm not stressed about the future.\" And that's great! But let me tell you a little secret: we all stress out about the future. It's just part of being human—it's in our nature. In fact, it's so much a part of who we are that psychologists have named this tendency...

Send me a text Too Much Baggage? The LOOT framework is something I created to help me gain more important insights and messages from my experiences. It helps you learn more from experiences by reducing your \"baggage\" by paying attention to what is important to you, and then gaining some insights from it so you can add more (or less) of it to your life. Once again, this is a new format I'm f...

Send me a text I get asked about which Myers-Briggs (MBTI) type is compatible with which type all the time and while there are some natural benefits from basing relationships on MBTI type pairings like INFP and ENFJ or ISTJ and ESTP, there are problems that come with that goal of finding the perfect person to date based on personality type. I hope it helps! Original video: https://youtu.be/75cdmUw...

Send me a text TVtropes.org has a great source of \"RPG elements\" that I decided to convert into a way to gamify self-development - personal development for gamers ;). This one is called \"The Alliance Meter\". If you're a gamer, you already know what this is. And I'm not going to keep it at that simple level of relationships, because that's not original enough for me - though that...