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Who Should Have Better Sex than Anyone?! Who doesn't want better sex?!  Christians, you know I like to pick on you including myself.  Newlyweds excluded, those married 5 years or more, are you having better sex than most?  If you are normal, you will say no.  If you say yes and are married over 10, 20+ years you are exceptional! So again, the wise will study what works and avoid what doesn’t....

Not a God Person Not a God person, but you want to make marriage work?  Ok, I understand.  To my atheist friends, thank you for making it even this far.  You have come to your atheistic conclusion based on logic.  So, for the sake of logic, at least factor this…

It is dumbfounding how many adults do not factor this question in their lust decisions.  My happiness.  My, mine, mine, mine!  The very things you struggled to teach your young ones to learn...selfishness vs. selflessness.  

There is no such thing as a soulmate.  Oh, how some of you just bristled.  “Yes, there is!”,  you proclaim.  You will add, “My wife is my best friend.  Who are you to tell me different?!”.  Your wife may currently be your best friend.  You may proclaim her your soulmate right now.  Perhaps let me rephrase this, you don’t fall into a best friend or soulmate.  You earn and maintain soulmate status.

Yes!  You are In!  And looking for more best practices for life.  If you are married, this is an important lesson.  Most don't marry to divorce.  The ultimate measure of success in marriage is to make it to 50+ years.  How does one get there?  Here you go! Questions for your Couple/Couch Time…  Do you know any marriages that lasted beyond 50 years? You may not believe in Jesus, do you believe...

Yes!  You are in for more dirt and learning from others' mistakes.  Ben & Kate, I bet you know a couple like this.  The couple that seems perfect?  Let me tell you a little secret, they are flawed.  Just like you and your spouse and every marriage on the planet.   Questions for Couple Quality Time, Date Night or Couples Group... 1.  Who seemed like a strong couple to you and then divorced...

Yes, you are in!  Some of you are great money managers.  Many of you need to step your game up, including our governments.  Yes, we are going there.  Here you go Chapter 11, Learning from Financial Failure, Part 3...

Learning from Financial Failure, Part 2 Questions for Date Night, Couples/Small Group Time... 1.  Do you operate off a budget?  Do you tell your money where to go and how much?  Or do you check your balance and wonder where it all goes? 2.  Do you review finances as a couple weekly?  Monthly?  Are you on the same page and mutually approve any purchase over $100? 3.  Look up Matt 7: 24-27 and read...

Yes, you are in.  So we discussed Bezos and the Amazon Marriage Fail.  That covered for rich or richer and how marriages can melt down.  What about for richer or poorer?  A key part of another's testimony featured in this chapter. Questions for Date Night, Couple Small Group Couple time... 1.  What is your 600 lb life?  What decision do you wish you could go back in time and reverse?  What pr...

Yes, you are in!  Extra credit points for you!  As most people neglect their marriages.  You are tuning in.  Sharing these best practices with others.  Striving for stronger everyday. Odds you buy something from Amazon.  Odds are you fight about money with your spouse.  If you only had as much money as the Bezos (founders of Amazon), you would be golden right?  Wrong.   This chapter is of two tale...

Chapter 9 The Two Greatest Rules for Marriage For this chapter, I only get to pick on the Christians.  So if you are an atheist or other, you get to kick back.  If you are not a Christian, you are not obligated to do any of this.  However, if you do have a Christian family member or friend, you may want to challenge them on this.  Ask them, “You call yourself a Christian, but do you know the two g...

Chapter 8:  Holiday Choice This section was written on December 23rd of some year before we knew what was COVID.  For those that celebrate Christmas and New Year, you know this can be a season of great joy and/or dismay.  With the pomp and circumstance can come tension.  I’ve seen and even felt it too many times.  So ironic that a time of peace and celebration can go ugly.  Don’t get me wrong, the...

Chapter 7 Nicker and Chad A message for a young couple getting married during the summer of 2018.  Whether you choose to get married, striving to stay married or want to learn how to better love...a highly recommended point of reflection to consider.  

Yes!  You're in!  One noticed that we did not end the 'Phil and Amy' audio episode with discussion questions for you and spouse and/or couples group.  Respect!  Thank you!  BTW, while we are at it, if you ever have a burning question or suggestion for improvement, you can hit us up anytime at FriDudes.com. So if this is the first episode you are catching these questions may puzzle y...

Yes!  You are in!!  Whether you are married or not, I bet you can relate to a relationship that starts off HOT!  Eventually, it will go colder or even ice cold and you two will need to make a choice.  Yes, love becomes a choice.  Eventually to keep any relationship alive, you are going to have to make some choices.  Do we keep working on this?  Choosing to try.  Choosing to forgive, show grace, me...

Speaking of truth, I was an a-hole.  Ok, depending on who you talk to today, I can still be an a-hole.  Just ask any of my family, friends and fellow citizens.   You will find ‘Worst Boyfriend In The World’ (WBITW) on the opposite end of the ‘Soulmate’ spectrum.  If you were to look up ‘Soulmate’ in the thesaurus, WBITW would surely be the antonym, not the synonym.

Unmet Expectations - Reality = Disillusionment.   The formula applies to everyone.  Your expectations of your spouse (or anyone or anything for that matter) on any given day minus the reality of what he/she is going to do = your disillusionment.

Yes!  You are in!  I couldn't resist this one.  Dr. Lorrits strikes again and it fits in perfectly as a Chapter 3 Bonus.   Jon is a Tailwind Dad.  If you have no idea what I'm saying.  Back up one episode to "Every Marriage is...Flawed, Chapter 3, Do Father's Matter?".   Yes, Dr. Lorrits!  Hitting another 'play of the day' out of the park.  Here's the connec...

In Chapters 1 and 2, we looked at flawed marriages and families.  Most of those have very flawed husbands and fathers.  Many fathers are absent as in gone/gone or married to their jobs.  One side of our society say that Fathers don't matter.  They say the nuclear family is dead.  Truth, where I see the nuclear family dead or lacking, I see a lot of problems.  In our largest cities to the subu...

Myth of the Perfect Family Let me tell you a story of a family I knew growing up.  We’ll just call them the ‘Perfects’.  Growing up, the Perfects were awesome.  They were so much fun!  They were the ‘IT’ family.  Everyone wanted to hang with them.  They were a model family in our church.  We would take family vacations together.  They were so charismatic.  They were beautiful.  I never saw them fi...

If you are married or looking to get married, this series is for you.  The audiobook version of "Every Marriage is...Flawed". Truth, a book that I've been chicken to officially publish for over 10 years.  Ironically, waiting for things to be perfect.  No more.  So, will you listen to this with your spouse or spouse-to-be.  If you are in a small group, listen and discuss with them. ...

Yes!  You are in!  BW is Back!  Do you really know who and how powerful is your Heavenly Father?  Many think it's a mythical bearded dude up on a cloud firing down lightning bolts.  BW gets real and gives another nugget of encouragement for you.  As you listen, I always say that God is not a genie in a bottle.  You don't always get everything you want in life.  That's part of the te...

Wherever you are in the world, someone has sacrificed for you.  If you live in the Unites States, Memorial Day is often overlooked.  Just an excuse to have a long weekend and perhaps complain about our country and not fully appreciate our freedoms.  Truth, for those fortunate enough to live in the United States, we have a lot of freedoms.  Immigrant after immigrant has arrived to this country and...

Word!  Thank you Pastor Rick Warren, he logs in another 'Play of the Day', he's got a few.  Bryan Lorrits still has the lead.  Strong voices for those that strive to be stronger. Whether you think Adam and Eve is a fairy tale or not, one can still learn from it.  One can learn a lot from it.  Whether you are married or not, you can learn.  Every single relationship on this earth wil...

Yes!  You are in.  Politics, I usually avoid it like the plague...and for good reason.  We all can...including myself....get so whipped up.  This Play of the Day breaks it down quite simply...at least for all those out there that call themselves "Christians".... Word!  Thank you Unashamed crew and the Robertson family.  That was Gold right there.  For those that know that family well eno...