Free From P*rn

In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young unpacks one of the most counterintuitive truths about freedom — that trying harder often makes things worse. Drawing from psychology and Scripture, Richard explains the “law of reversed effort,” showing how willpower alone can reinforce the very habits you’re trying to break. You’ll learn why striving, white-knuckling, and obsessing over...

What happens when freedom turns into permission? In this raw and hilarious episode, Richard and Justin unpack how a single conversation years ago threw Richard off course and why it’s so easy to swing between guilt and license when you’re learning to live free from p*rn. From a wild story about a dad discovering his son’s “Free From P*rn” charge on the family bank statement to a deep dive into Gal...

Have you ever noticed that the moment you start doing something new, stressful, or outside your comfort zone, the urges to look at p rn suddenly show up again? In this honest and vulnerable episode, Richard opens up about why launching the Free From P rn coaching program actually increased his urges. Joined by Justin Khoe, they unpack why stress often becomes a hidden trigger and how to process it...

Most people would rather hide than admit they’re struggling with porn—but what if talking about it is the very thing that breaks its power? In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast , Justin and Richard get real about embarrassment —why we feel it, how it keeps us stuck, and what happens when we finally stop pretending. Joined by their friend David Hunte , who battled porn for over 40 years, t...

We kept the awkward cold open on purpose—because today’s conversation starts messy and turns miraculous. Justin is back after an emergency C-section and a week in the NICU with baby Ezekiel (“Zeke”). Out of that whirlwind, he shares a gospel reframing that changes how you think about sin, shame, and why white-knuckling never sets you free. Richard and Justin unpack Romans 5 and Titus 2 through a p...

Real freedom starts when truth leaves your lips. In this episode, Richard unpacks radical honesty —why saying the real thing out loud (to safe, gospel-anchored people) exposes the lie beneath a porn habit and opens the door to healing. You’ll hear how confession isn’t shame— it’s surgery —and why many of us only realize what’s true as we say it. In this episode you’ll learn Why isolation keeps the...

Most people lump m*sturbation and p*rn into one bucket, then stack on rules until the bowstring snaps—and the binge follows. In this episode, Richard Young takes a grace-first look at desire, self-control, and what God actually calls sin. Spoiler: the real issue is objectifying people for selfish ends—not a moment of physical release. Drawing from a conversation with caring parents, Richard unpack...

If your freedom hinged on a perfect test score, most of us would be doomed. Good news—it doesn’t. In this episode, Richard and co-host Justin dismantle a viral “SAT success” parable to expose something far bigger: belief shapes behavior. If a lie (a wrong score) can transform a life, how much more can the truth of the gospel rewrite your habits, desires, and outcomes? We walk through Romans 6, lau...

If boredom sends you to your phone—and your phone sends you to porn—this episode is your reset. Richard breaks down why there’s no such thing as a “dopamine hit,” how novelty drops your baseline and fuels escalation, and how a few simple shifts can raise your baseline so books, prayer, and family time feel rich again. You’ll learn:  • Why peaks/novelty lower your dopamine baseline (and motivation)...

Are “big BUTs ” sabotaging your freedom? Not those glutes—the tiny word that sneaks in after truth: “I know I’m free in Christ, but …” In this episode, Richard Young and Justin K. dismantle the sneaky “but” statements that keep you married to an old identity. Drawing from a recent church trip to Texas, they walk through Romans 6, Revelation 1, and Jesus’ “good tree” metaphor in Matthew 7 to show w...

In this episode, Richard Young dismantles the myth that freedom should be “easy” if you’re doing it right. If you’ve been looking for a loophole, a hack, or a shame-free shortcut, this conversation reframes the journey: not as trying harder, but as thinking differently—and practicing it daily. You’ll learn why numbing out is easy in the moment but costly over time, and how to build the resilient,...

On today’s shorter, solo episode of Free From Porn , Richard Young unpacks real questions that came up during a recent 6-hour live coaching weekend in Texas. These aren’t theory questions—these are the ones every man secretly asks: 👉 “What if I still feel tempted?” 👉 “What if my desire goes away… but then comes back?” 👉 “How do I convince my friend porn is bad?” Here’s the truth: freedom doesn’...

Most guys think commitment means trying harder, pushing through, and shaming yourself into change. But that kind of “commitment” always burns out. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin unpack why lasting freedom requires a shame-free commitment . Through personal stories, hilarious analogies (backflips, belly flops, and failed journaling attempts), and biblical truth, t...

Welcome to the Free From Porn podcast, where freedom is your new normal. In today’s episode, your host Justin Khoe and co-host Richard Young dive deep into a raw and real conversation about the unexpected, uncomfortable reality of being propositioned in a massage parlor. It’s not a story you hear often, but it highlights a key truth: external circumstances don’t define your integrity. Justin share...

“You’re going to be single forever if you keep watching porn…” That line hits different—especially if you’ve ever secretly feared it might be true. In this honest and surprising episode, Richard, Justin, and our guest Ruth Johnson take a wrecking ball to the hidden fear that porn has destroyed your chances at love. But this isn’t just about sex or singleness—it’s about how porn warps your ability...

You’ve heard the stereotype: “Porn is a guy problem.”  But what if that’s not the whole truth? In this groundbreaking episode, Justin Kuh and Richard Young are joined by their very first guest—Eliana—to dismantle the myth that porn is a men-only struggle. Eliana shares her powerful story of battling a lesser-talked-about side of addiction: erotica, audio porn, emotional fantasy—and the ache undern...

What if the thoughts in your head aren’t actually you ? So many believers are walking in condemnation, not because they’re sinning—but because they believe every thought that pops into their head is them . A lustful thought. A shameful memory. A mental image they didn’t ask for. And suddenly, they’re spiraling. In today’s solo episode, Richard Young breaks down one of the most powerful mindset shi...

In this episode of Free from Porn , Richard and Justin dive deep into the hidden engine behind so many porn addictions: shame. We’ve been told that feeling worse will make us do better — that if we could just hate our sin enough, we’d finally change. But what if shame isn’t the path to freedom... but the very thing keeping you enslaved? Through personal stories, parenting reflections, and powerful...

What if I still want to look at porn after getting free? Does that mean I’m not really in Christ? This is the question that trips up so many people on their freedom journey. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast , Justin Khoe and Richard Young dismantle the hidden lies behind that fear. If you’ve ever thought you were going in and out of Christ based on your performance, this conversation...

Is melatonin the secret weapon to overcoming porn? Well… maybe not the Walmart version. In this episode of the Free from Porn podcast, Richard and Justin kick things off with a hilarious dive into supplements, sleep cycles, and the rogue Joe Rogan research that got them thinking: maybe the real solution isn’t fighting porn harder — maybe it’s surrendering. Through Chiefs football analogies, victor...

Cold plunges make you watch porn? That’s what we (jokingly) claim in today’s episode—but what we’re really talking about is decision fatigue , willpower myths, and why what you believe about your ability to overcome matters more than you think. Join Richard and Justin as they dive into: Why your willpower isn’t your problem How decision fatigue sneaks up on you The surprising link between cold plu...

“Intentional Relapsing?” Why What You Do After Matters Most Today on the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Coup and Richard Young tackle a phrase that might sound like a trap: intentional relapsing. Are we saying plan to relapse? Absolutely not. But how you respond when you stumble may be the most important moment of all. We explore why relapse can become a powerful teacher— if you let truth train yo...

Is willpower enough to quit porn? What about systems—filters, accountability, and habits? In this episode of Free From Porn , Justin and Richard break down the three steps to quitting porn right now —and why most guys never make it past step two. From the fleeting strength of willpower to the limits of even the best-designed systems, they reveal the real game-changer: identity . You’ll hear storie...

In today’s episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin confront one of the most common—but unbiblical—prayers we hear from men in our coaching program: "God, take away my sexual desires." But what if that’s not the problem? What if your sexual desire isn’t a curse to be removed—but a gift to be redeemed? We talk about: Why numbing your desires leads to spiritual and emotion...

Ever fallen once… and then gone all in on failure? In this hilarious yet deeply honest episode, Richard and Justin unpack the all-or-nothing mindset that keeps so many stuck in cycles of porn, shame, and self-condemnation. What starts with a lactose pill and ends with a binge becomes the perfect metaphor for how guilt drives us deeper into the very thing we want freedom from. You’ll learn:  – Why...