Focus On Your Own Family

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast - join the PATREON Please welcome back Lindsey Williams! Lindsey is a survivor of the Institute of Basic Life Principals (IBLP) Bill Gothard's Cult. She was featured on Shiny Happy People- a documentary about the Duggar cult. Lindsey and I sit down to discuss Shannon Harris's book "The Woman They Wanted." This book is incredible- if you have...

Send us Fan Mail please support the podcast by joining the PATREON Joanna Whaley is back for part two. If you have not listened to part one, I highly encourage you to do so. We are talking about decolonizing binary thinking. Please Follow Joanna on Socials CONNECT WITH JOANNA For those that want to be on the podcast make sure to reach out—link in the show notes. Pre-roll music is composed by Joann...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast and subscribe to the PATREON Please Join me in welcoming back Joanna Whaley! Joanna is an incredible trans woman and all around badass who has become a close friend. I am so thankful to have her back to have this conversation about patriarchy and how she once benefitted from that privilege. She discusses how she did not know she held privilege until she realize...

Send us Fan Mail To support the podcast please Join the PATRON Robert Callahan is an author, lawyer, and content creator. Raised inside evangelicalism and the military he shares his unique perspective on parenting, church, and society. Robert and I have a conversation about his upcoming book "Fire In The Whole" which I am so excited about. In this episode Robert and I talk about his use...

Send us Fan Mail Interested in supporting this podcast? Please check out the PATREON Paul is on the podcast today. I have been looking forward to this interview for a while. During the pandemic, I discovered the "Evangelicalish" podcast. I spent so much of my day walking because life felt so small during that time. Paul, April, and Jeremey were people that I could relate to and people th...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast-Join the PATREON Davida Haygood and I sit down and talk about how James Dobson impacted her life growing up inside black evangelicalism. Davida discusses how Christianity is deeply rooted in racism.  Davida shares how deconstructing helped reshape and reconstruct her faith. It was an honor to listen to her. I looked forward to having her back soon. DAVIDA SOCIA...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast by checking out the PATREON Abel is known on TIKTOK for his social justice and anti-racism videos. His videos are educational and incredibly thought-provoking. is back for the second part of our discussion. We cover a variety of difficult topics through a laid-back conversation. Abel grew up in Alaska, he spent his early adult years as a professional boxer. He...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast Join the PATREON On Mondays I bring in different conversations, sometimes it is a breakdown of the previous episode and sometimes I bring in guests. Sam is back for an important conversation about racism. Sam has become a good friend and I respect and honor him for his boldness and courage. Please follow Sam on his SOCIALS For those that want to be on the podca...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast by joining the Patreon I feel so honored to have Abel on this podcast. Abel is known on social media as "Poetic Deconstruction." In this episode, Abel talks about his upbringing in Anchorage Alaska's charismatic church.  Abel and I briefly discuss how purity culture impacted him and his love for music and boxing.  Please follow Abel on social med...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast by joining the Patreon Please join me in welcoming back Rev Karla. I am so thankful that I had the opportunity to sit down with her again. Rev Karla is an interfaith minister,  healer, teacher, mother, auntie, friend, advocate, and fierce fighter for social justice. She generously shares her wisdom daily on her social media platforms. Rev Karla also has classes...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast by joining the Patreon Chad, Lindsey, and I talk about how ridiculous Covenant Eyes is. This company has hit a new low. Enjoy the show and please follow Chad and Lindsey LINDSEY SOCIALS CHAD SOCIALS COVENANT EYES AD For those that want to be on the podcast make sure to reach out—link in the show notes. Pre-roll music is composed by Joanna Whaley For those who w...

Send us Fan Mail Please support the podcast-check out the PATREON Dave Capozzi is a podcast host, teacher, and former evangelical pastor. I met Dave a little over one year ago when I was a guest on his podcast. In this episode, Dave and I discuss the shame that was distilled in all of us who grew up with purity culture and the Dobson messaging of true love waits. I encourage each one of you to lis...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast!  Subscribe to the PATREON This is the final episode of season one. This has been an incredible first season, I am only taking a few weeks off. I will be back the second week of January with season 2.  On today's podcast I am sharing a bit of my life with you all. I have already shared so much, but there are bits and pieces that you may not know about me....

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast-Join the PATREON Davida Haygood and I sit down and talk about how James Dobson impacted her life growing up inside black evangelicalism. Davida discusses how Christianity is deeply rooted in racism.  Davida shares how deconstructing helped reshape and reconstruct her faith. It was an honor to listen to her. I looked forward to having her back soon. DAVIDA SOCIA...

Send us Fan Mail Please support the Podcast-Join the Patreo n Chad Harris is someone you might recognize. He is from the Amazon Prime documentary "Shiny Happy People." Chad talks about his early childhood which he was named "The Strong Willed Child" and then he talks about how he was immersed in the IBLP/ATI world. Chad and I have a lot of crossover in our Fundamentalist upbrin...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast check out the PATREON Join Rev Karla and I as we dive into decolonizing parenting and patriarchy post-leaving fundamentalist evangelicalism. Rev Karla is a leader, minister, and teacher. As an advocate for human rights, Rev Karla consistently works to make sure the voices of the queer, trans, and BIPOC communities are amplified. Rev Karla is also a facilitator...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast-Check out the PATREON Caleb or as many know him as "The Exvangelical Daddy" is my guest today. Caleb and I have known one another for about a year.  Today, we discuss a little bit of everything as many do when they have been raised in the Dobsonian culture.  Caleb was raised listening to Dobson's 6am radio show, and purity culture. We also discus...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast Join the PATREON If you have not listened to the first part of Adam's story-please listen to that first so you can get caught up!  In this episode, Adam discusses his journey which revealed to him the truth of conversion therapy and ultimately his escape. Adam and I talk about the challenges we all face as deconstructionists inside of advocacy spaces. Insi...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast-check out the PATREON and LEAVE A REVIEW! It is an honor to sit down with Adam for this two-part episode.  Adam is a conversion therapy survivor.  James Dobson advertised his conversion therapy "Love Won Out" at Aquire The Fire, an evangelical teen weekend-long convention. Love Won Out was part of Exodus International and Adam attended ATF, Love Won O...

Send us Fan Mail SUPPORT THE PODCAST- JOIN THE PATREON She is back, the wonderful talented Lindsey Williams is back. Today, we are discussing “Counting the Cost” by Jill Duggar. Lindsey Williams grew up inside the Institute of Biblical Life Principals (IBLP)  Bill Gothard Cult and was featured in the award-nominated documentary “Shiny Happy People.” This book is well written; regardless of how you...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast- Subscribe to the PATREON Please welcome back Emily LMFT we talk about all things therapy, from the 5 stages of grief, red and green flags and practical tips you can do right now to ground yourself. BOOKS: Judith Herman Trauma and Recovery Marlene Winell Leaving the fold Emily Joy Alison #churchtoo Teresa Mateus- Sacred Wounds Athea Butler- White Evangelical Ra...

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast by clicking on PATREON Please welcome Jennie with me. Jennie was raised in NW Arkansas. We talk about her upbringing from public school to Bill Gothard and the IBLP.  Jennie talks about how hard she has fought to keep her family in her life. We talk about purity culture and the strange rules that were a part of our everyday fundie life. Jennie talks about what...

Send us Fan Mail Support the pod cast join the PATREON Emily Maynard joined me on the podcast today. I am so excited to have her on here. She is a LMFT out of California.  Emily and I talk about purity culture, and the rise of Christian Nationalism.  Please spend some time listening to this conversation. Emily's socials: website Instagram For those that want to be on the podcast make sure to...

Send us Fan Mail Support the Show- Leave a stellar review and/or join the Patreon Please enjoy listening to my friend Scott. Scott and I met through TikTok, and I am so thankful we had the opportunity to sit down and record one of our conversations. Every time Scott and I talk deconstruction I walk away with more compassion and insight. In this episode, I make a reference to a Paul Popeno quote ....

Send us Fan Mail Support the podcast by subscribing to the PATREON PART 2 On today's podcast Lindsey Williams. Lindsey is a very talented Hair and Make up artist located in L.A. however.. You might all know her from the Amazon Prime Docu-series "Shiny Happy People."  Lindsey and I discuss the parallels and crossover of Bill Gothard and James Dobson.  We don't talk too much  abo...